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Topic: should I ?
BlueskyJ's photo
Wed 06/18/08 02:22 PM






haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ??

( don`t KILL me )



IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THE QUESTION, AND YOU ARE ALL MIXED UP INSIDE ABOUT THE ANSWER.....THAN THE ANSWER IS NO.


NEVER DO ANYTHING, THAT YOU ARE NOT SURE OF THE OUT COME, UNLESS YOU CAN HANDLE, ANY DISSAPOINTMENT THAT MAY COME FROM IT, OR ANY PROBLEMS THAT MAY ARISE FROM IT.

JUST MY OPINION



I agree - never ask any question if you aren't ready to hear the answer.

If you are truly only interested in how he is doing then there is no harm in contacting him in my opinion. You obviously cared enough about him to be in a relationship with him, nothing wrong with caring about him now -- if it's in your own best interest!

If you are looking to rekindle something, you have to ask yourself if that is the best choice for yourself based on what you had together before...and again be prepared for the answer.

I am good, very good, friends with my past loves. Some were immediately after we were no longer together, some took a few months of cooling off to rekindle our friendship.

As long as you are honest with Yourself about your motives and then with Him...flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou


how did you all get so wise ,...feel like I had my head in the sandbox all this time,..

no,..it was a very painful relationship,..kept tryin to get something from him that just wasn`t there,..exactly why ??? would I want that ???? went for a long walk this afternoon to think about that very thing,....why would I keep putting myself in a position to be only hurt over & over again ?? why ??

I dunno know....Why?

no photo
Wed 06/18/08 02:22 PM
flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

Good for you!!!

My motto is if in doubt...sleep on it...wait 24 hours before acting...I'm glad you did...

See wisdom comes with time!

You can never change anyone -- anymore than you would want them changing you. You can keep hoping and hoping...but it ain't gonna happen.
Take the time to know yourself, know what you truly want and deserve and it will happen.
flowerforyou

May777's photo
Wed 06/18/08 03:19 PM

flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

Good for you!!!

My motto is if in doubt...sleep on it...wait 24 hours before acting...I'm glad you did...

See wisdom comes with time!

You can never change anyone -- anymore than you would want them changing you. You can keep hoping and hoping...but it ain't gonna happen.
Take the time to know yourself, know what you truly want and deserve and it will happen.
flowerforyou


wisdom came listenin to all your words of wisdom,..flowerforyou sleep came cause I had only been up all night,..lol,..grateful -- very grateful -- contactin him would have just put me in another disappointing vulnerable position,...AGAIN !!!

been there - done that













May777's photo
Wed 06/18/08 03:21 PM







haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ??

( don`t KILL me )



IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THE QUESTION, AND YOU ARE ALL MIXED UP INSIDE ABOUT THE ANSWER.....THAN THE ANSWER IS NO.


NEVER DO ANYTHING, THAT YOU ARE NOT SURE OF THE OUT COME, UNLESS YOU CAN HANDLE, ANY DISSAPOINTMENT THAT MAY COME FROM IT, OR ANY PROBLEMS THAT MAY ARISE FROM IT.

JUST MY OPINION



I agree - never ask any question if you aren't ready to hear the answer.

If you are truly only interested in how he is doing then there is no harm in contacting him in my opinion. You obviously cared enough about him to be in a relationship with him, nothing wrong with caring about him now -- if it's in your own best interest!

If you are looking to rekindle something, you have to ask yourself if that is the best choice for yourself based on what you had together before...and again be prepared for the answer.

I am good, very good, friends with my past loves. Some were immediately after we were no longer together, some took a few months of cooling off to rekindle our friendship.

As long as you are honest with Yourself about your motives and then with Him...flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou


how did you all get so wise ,...feel like I had my head in the sandbox all this time,..

no,..it was a very painful relationship,..kept tryin to get something from him that just wasn`t there,..exactly why ??? would I want that ???? went for a long walk this afternoon to think about that very thing,....why would I keep putting myself in a position to be only hurt over & over again ?? why ??

I dunno know....Why?

lol,..come on,..:tongue:

hey,.. I`ll figure it out,..in time,..

well,..so now you know where I`m coming from,..

no photo
Thu 06/19/08 09:22 AM
Hard as it might be, I'd let it go if the ending wasn't of your choosing and he has shown no interest in contacting you again.

Move on to better things, better experiences. And B E L I E V E that there WILL be. flowerforyou

franshade's photo
Thu 06/19/08 09:25 AM



haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ??

( don`t KILL me )


I say leave the dog alone and kill the ex... laugh

if he's on your mind then for some reason you want contact. do what makes 'you' happy

good luck
flowerforyou

BlueskyJ's photo
Thu 06/19/08 11:04 AM








haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ??

( don`t KILL me )



IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THE QUESTION, AND YOU ARE ALL MIXED UP INSIDE ABOUT THE ANSWER.....THAN THE ANSWER IS NO.


NEVER DO ANYTHING, THAT YOU ARE NOT SURE OF THE OUT COME, UNLESS YOU CAN HANDLE, ANY DISSAPOINTMENT THAT MAY COME FROM IT, OR ANY PROBLEMS THAT MAY ARISE FROM IT.

JUST MY OPINION



I agree - never ask any question if you aren't ready to hear the answer.

If you are truly only interested in how he is doing then there is no harm in contacting him in my opinion. You obviously cared enough about him to be in a relationship with him, nothing wrong with caring about him now -- if it's in your own best interest!

If you are looking to rekindle something, you have to ask yourself if that is the best choice for yourself based on what you had together before...and again be prepared for the answer.

I am good, very good, friends with my past loves. Some were immediately after we were no longer together, some took a few months of cooling off to rekindle our friendship.

As long as you are honest with Yourself about your motives and then with Him...flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou


how did you all get so wise ,...feel like I had my head in the sandbox all this time,..

no,..it was a very painful relationship,..kept tryin to get something from him that just wasn`t there,..exactly why ??? would I want that ???? went for a long walk this afternoon to think about that very thing,....why would I keep putting myself in a position to be only hurt over & over again ?? why ??

I dunno know....Why?

lol,..come on,..:tongue:

hey,.. I`ll figure it out,..in time,..

well,..so now you know where I`m coming from,..


now i know where you are coming from which is one of the reasons i list myself as looking for friends....

May777's photo
Thu 06/19/08 04:13 PM

Hard as it might be, I'd let it go if the ending wasn't of your choosing and he has shown no interest in contacting you again.

Move on to better things, better experiences. And B E L I E V E that there WILL be. flowerforyou


Thankyou :cry:

I know you are right,...flowerforyou

Peoplespeaker's photo
Thu 06/19/08 04:33 PM


Hard as it might be, I'd let it go if the ending wasn't of your choosing and he has shown no interest in contacting you again.

Move on to better things, better experiences. And B E L I E V E that there WILL be. flowerforyou


Thankyou :cry:

I know you are right,...flowerforyou


flowerforyou flowerforyou May don't despairflowerforyou flowerforyou Come here! These blue skies will cheer you right up!

Citizen_Joe's photo
Thu 06/19/08 04:47 PM



haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ??

( don`t KILL me )


You're asking for permission?

May777's photo
Thu 06/19/08 07:23 PM




haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ??

( don`t KILL me )


You're asking for permission?


no,...advice,..talking about it helps to sort it out in my own head

May777's photo
Thu 06/19/08 07:24 PM



Hard as it might be, I'd let it go if the ending wasn't of your choosing and he has shown no interest in contacting you again.

Move on to better things, better experiences. And B E L I E V E that there WILL be. flowerforyou


Thankyou :cry:

I know you are right,...flowerforyou


flowerforyou flowerforyou May don't despairflowerforyou flowerforyou Come here! These blue skies will cheer you right up!


bigsmile nature does work wonders,..

May777's photo
Thu 06/19/08 07:25 PM
all of you,....bigsmile drinker

THANKYOU

bad_girl's photo
Fri 06/20/08 01:40 AM
May an ex is an ex for a reason. From past experience, just let sleeping dogs lie

texastigress's photo
Sat 06/21/08 02:12 AM
I got dumped almost a month ago and have no desire to talk to my ex.

May777's photo
Sat 06/21/08 06:17 AM

I caved this mornin -- just a " just want to say HI " letter -- nothing toxic,..


texastigress's photo
Sat 06/21/08 01:50 PM


I caved this mornin -- just a " just want to say HI " letter -- nothing toxic,..




Tsk! Tsk!

Citizen_Joe's photo
Sat 06/21/08 11:50 PM



haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ??

( don`t KILL me )


It took a while to follow the content, but if I read it right, he "met someone else". Best revenge, live a happy life and have the popcorn ready to go in the microwave for when he eventually calls you. laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

May777's photo
Sun 06/22/08 03:31 PM




haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ??

( don`t KILL me )


It took a while to follow the content, but if I read it right, he "met someone else". Best revenge, live a happy life and have the popcorn ready to go in the microwave for when he eventually calls you. laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh


Tx,..:tongue: appreciate your response,...

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