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Topic: should I ?
May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Wed 06/18/08 06:07 AM
Maybe you just need to get more feelings and grief out of your system. Perhaps instead of contacting him, write him a letter with every little thing you want to express, read it a few times to yourself, THEN DESTROY IT instead of getting it to him. I could try that too,..it`s just that I don`t think I`m interested in what happened in the past,..I would just like to know how he is doin,..but maybe I should write that letter first,.. tx

tigerman1956 Joined Fri 08/18/06 Posts: 11768	Wed 06/18/08 06:09 AM
haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ?? ( don`t KILL me ) IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THE QUESTION, AND YOU ARE ALL MIXED UP INSIDE ABOUT THE ANSWER.....THAN THE ANSWER IS NO. NEVER DO ANYTHING, THAT YOU ARE NOT SURE OF THE OUT COME, UNLESS YOU CAN HANDLE, ANY DISSAPOINTMENT THAT MAY COME FROM IT, OR ANY PROBLEMS THAT MAY ARISE FROM IT. JUST MY OPINION

cdanny47 Joined Thu 01/03/08 Posts: 2328	Wed 06/18/08 06:10 AM
We all feel lonely!!!!! Just have to except it and move on,,, I know it is hard but do you want to go thru it again????

MalenaC Joined Fri 12/21/07 Posts: 749	Wed 06/18/08 06:10 AM
if he is your X.....why are you feeling the need to email? I mean, is there something going on or a reason you want to contact him? ya,..now there`s the question I`m tryin to answer,.. If he left you for other woman , cheat on you ,,,honey let him go Better cry now then all your life .He will hurt you all over again and come back to you like when you are his second plate .Always there for him .Believe me ,I know what I am talking about it .And everything is happening with a reason in this life .If God put him away from you he know's what he is doing . He protecting you from a bad man .

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Wed 06/18/08 06:12 AM
Tx for sharing & letting me put it out there,.. I know it`s mine to figure out,.sure is great to explore the options,.. may

BlueskyJ Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 2927	Wed 06/18/08 06:14 AM
if he is your X.....why are you feeling the need to email? I mean, is there something going on or a reason you want to contact him? ya,..now there`s the question I`m tryin to answer,.. If he left you for other woman , cheat on you ,,,honey let him go Better cry now then all your life .He will hurt you all over again and come back to you like when you are his second plate .Always there for him .Believe me ,I know what I am talking about it .And everything is happening with a reason in this life .If God put him away from you he know's what he is doing . He protecting you from a bad man . i think what you say is wise...things happen for a reason...God knows what He is doing....

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Wed 06/18/08 06:14 AM
haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ?? ( don`t KILL me ) IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THE QUESTION, AND YOU ARE ALL MIXED UP INSIDE ABOUT THE ANSWER.....THAN THE ANSWER IS NO. NEVER DO ANYTHING, THAT YOU ARE NOT SURE OF THE OUT COME, UNLESS YOU CAN HANDLE, ANY DISSAPOINTMENT THAT MAY COME FROM IT, OR ANY PROBLEMS THAT MAY ARISE FROM IT. JUST MY OPINION hit the hammer on the head,..

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Wed 06/18/08 06:15 AM
We all feel lonely!!!!! Just have to except it and move on,,, I know it is hard but do you want to go thru it again???? exactly,..I`m gonna sleep on that

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Wed 06/18/08 06:19 AM
if he is your X.....why are you feeling the need to email? I mean, is there something going on or a reason you want to contact him? ya,..now there`s the question I`m tryin to answer,.. If he left you for other woman , cheat on you ,,,honey let him go Better cry now then all your life .He will hurt you all over again and come back to you like when you are his second plate .Always there for him .Believe me ,I know what I am talking about it .And everything is happening with a reason in this life .If God put him away from you he know's what he is doing . He protecting you from a bad man . You`re right,..he hurt me not only 2 weeks into the relationship -- maybe if I would have listened then,.I wouldn`t be here now,.but I have this time now,..don`t I,..never looked at it from that angle before,..

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Wed 06/18/08 06:21 AM
if he is your X.....why are you feeling the need to email? I mean, is there something going on or a reason you want to contact him? ya,..now there`s the question I`m tryin to answer,.. If he left you for other woman , cheat on you ,,,honey let him go Better cry now then all your life .He will hurt you all over again and come back to you like when you are his second plate .Always there for him .Believe me ,I know what I am talking about it .And everything is happening with a reason in this life .If God put him away from you he know's what he is doing . He protecting you from a bad man . i think what you say is wise...things happen for a reason...God knows what He is doing.... oh my,..didn`t expect to see you here this morning,..

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Wed 06/18/08 06:24 AM
Again,..tx so much for sharing,..and I didn`t send that email !! BONUS !!! may,. best be getting to zzzz,..zzz...z here,.. goodnite

Prostocknova Joined Mon 06/02/08 Posts: 83	Wed 06/18/08 08:38 AM
Dont do it Girl!

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Wed 06/18/08 08:43 AM
This cultivates a hope in the male, let sleeping dogs lie!

nurjoyce Joined Thu 01/04/07 Posts: 10283	Wed 06/18/08 08:45 AM
easy to say, but i would just let it be and try not to contact him

Jim519 Joined Thu 12/27/07 Posts: 9203	Wed 06/18/08 08:46 AM
If he is not contacting you in any fashion its obviously over... Time to move on

lcjw Joined Thu 10/11/07 Posts: 8594	Wed 06/18/08 08:46 AM
Don't do it. Fight the urge to hear his voice; I've been there and done that, and in the final analysis, I was more hurt and disappointed; I felt more miserable and unhappy. It is hard, but you will find the strength not to do it. Just like an alcoholic, take one day a time. Don't call him, don't think about him for just one day at a time.

sexysuzi66 Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 287	Wed 06/18/08 08:57 AM
Leave it alone there was a reason or reasons he is your EX!

LookinRound Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 7894	Wed 06/18/08 08:58 AM
haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ?? ( don`t KILL me ) IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THE QUESTION, AND YOU ARE ALL MIXED UP INSIDE ABOUT THE ANSWER.....THAN THE ANSWER IS NO. NEVER DO ANYTHING, THAT YOU ARE NOT SURE OF THE OUT COME, UNLESS YOU CAN HANDLE, ANY DISSAPOINTMENT THAT MAY COME FROM IT, OR ANY PROBLEMS THAT MAY ARISE FROM IT. JUST MY OPINION I agree - never ask any question if you aren't ready to hear the answer. If you are truly only interested in how he is doing then there is no harm in contacting him in my opinion. You obviously cared enough about him to be in a relationship with him, nothing wrong with caring about him now -- if it's in your own best interest! If you are looking to rekindle something, you have to ask yourself if that is the best choice for yourself based on what you had together before...and again be prepared for the answer. I am good, very good, friends with my past loves. Some were immediately after we were no longer together, some took a few months of cooling off to rekindle our friendship. As long as you are honest with Yourself about your motives and then with Him...

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Wed 06/18/08 02:13 PM
Don't do it. Fight the urge to hear his voice; I've been there and done that, and in the final analysis, I was more hurt and disappointed; I felt more miserable and unhappy. It is hard, but you will find the strength not to do it. Just like an alcoholic, take one day a time. Don't call him, don't think about him for just one day at a time. you know I was thinkin the exact same thing,..with the AA stuff,..the email would have been like taking a drink,..& would have opened up a can of worms,...

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Wed 06/18/08 02:18 PM
haven`t talked to my ex in over a month -- is it ok to send an email or better to let sleepin dogs lie ?? ( don`t KILL me ) IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THE QUESTION, AND YOU ARE ALL MIXED UP INSIDE ABOUT THE ANSWER.....THAN THE ANSWER IS NO. NEVER DO ANYTHING, THAT YOU ARE NOT SURE OF THE OUT COME, UNLESS YOU CAN HANDLE, ANY DISSAPOINTMENT THAT MAY COME FROM IT, OR ANY PROBLEMS THAT MAY ARISE FROM IT. JUST MY OPINION I agree - never ask any question if you aren't ready to hear the answer. If you are truly only interested in how he is doing then there is no harm in contacting him in my opinion. You obviously cared enough about him to be in a relationship with him, nothing wrong with caring about him now -- if it's in your own best interest! If you are looking to rekindle something, you have to ask yourself if that is the best choice for yourself based on what you had together before...and again be prepared for the answer. I am good, very good, friends with my past loves. Some were immediately after we were no longer together, some took a few months of cooling off to rekindle our friendship. As long as you are honest with Yourself about your motives and then with Him... how did you all get so wise ,...feel like I had my head in the sandbox all this time,.. no,..it was a very painful relationship,..kept tryin to get something from him that just wasn`t there,..exactly why ??? would I want that ???? went for a long walk this afternoon to think about that very thing,....why would I keep putting myself in a position to be only hurt over & over again ?? why ??