Rabbi Shmuley Boteach Beliefnet, states...

"I am a great believer that a woman inspires a man to be better."

and...

"It is through our failings, shortcomings, and deficiencies that we come to appreciate what our partners add to our lives?"

in his article, "How to let go of the fears that can turn a discerning dater into a serious commitment-phobe"

How do you feel about these statements, and why?

i beleive its truth heck i have a cousin that was a drunky until he met his soul mate he is a totally diff guy.they been together three years..........she has a cyrfew he respects it they can only go out so many times a weekhe respects it and is still with her...............sight i wish i had that

Works both ways, a man can inspire a woman to be better as well. Don't like the word "failings" would rather see mistakes as failing insinuates no ability to correct the error. Of course I have too much logic when I think about things, which is why I don't think often.

I would have to disagree to a point, I do think that a partner being there to support you thru the shortcomings and all is appreciated, but not because of them. I have a fullfilled life now, and im determined to keep it thru out my relationship with my partner. To bring out the best in each that we didnt know capable, but not only when times are bad
But then I have not been in a relationship yet, so what do I know

I think I behaved by not dating, not having a relationship, staying focused on my kids, my family, my values, my visions. But, I have seen what this gentleman is talking about. So, I'm thinking I am the one who would be someone's "better half".

I think its true but also a man can inspire a woman to be better! My ex made me a better person!

Now that you bring that up, he also wrote...

"Were you to devote yourself to one of these imperfect men, you could probably teach them how to honor a woman by, say, not answering the phone during a date, honor himself by not becoming a workaholic, and honor his family by being closer to them." in the same article.

It surprises me to see this written by a man, when so many men protest women trying to change their man and preach unconditional love. It just kinda tickled me.

Bob the schmuck writes . Woman don't cheat on me treat me with the same kindness I treat you, and give me the same tenderness I treat you with and we'll get along just fine !

WORKS FOR ME!!!

I agree with that statement, and believe any relationship, influence of family and friends included, are always at play in shaping who we are and how we respect one another.

I agree to some extent...

There have been a few great women in my life that have made me want to be a better man. Truth is though, at the time I just wasn't ready to grow up. Although I knew I was capable of being a better man, doing it for them wasn't enough, because I didn't truly want it for myself at the time. It was only in hind sight that I realized what they might have added to my life. With that being known, it does inspire me to be the better man that I always knew that I am capable of being and want to be at this point in my life. Although, there were a few broken hearts and a lot of tears shed, I also believe that it was somewhat necessary to get me to this point in my life.

I do try to practice this in my life on a daily basis, however I am human and it doesn't always come out the way I intended. Also, being human and making mistakes, is no cruth to lean on when it comes to being a better person!


Good Morning No1!

I think when I meet the man who inspires me to be a better person I will have met the man of my dreams.

yes, i agree and have stated so...many times.....

Why?


ummmmm just look at the clean laundry piled up on the floor of the guest room

im not sure why you are suprised by this write.........I've been telling you all along i'm house broke

I'm sorry, I meant to post the link to the full article and forgot to do so in OP.

http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/spiritualdating/4340/am-i-too-picky-when-dating;_ylt=AhQcYikUI24Xs1lMN2sAVZQazJV4

Thank you, Love, for posting such an intelligent and thought-provoking topic. They are few and far between on this site these days.

You rock!

Old saying:

"Behind every great man, is a equal or greater woman."

Heard this alot in the 50/60's.
I believe it, but also think it works both ways.
With the right inspiration & support, both sex's can help their mate achieve more.

2 can always accomplish more than 1.

I too love to be inspired...and look for more intelligent men than myself, because I know they will push me beyond the limits I push myself.

Very true .The woman is the Neck and the men is the Head . The head move always in the direction what the neck want's .