I must be a different breed I guess I don't need anyone to make me strive to be the best person I can be to all the people in my life ! I may not always be successful I am human after all , but I always try no matter what .

Well, we all strive to some extent but it is nice when you meet someone who really inspires you.

It goes both ways, I have helped a few women to be better, and vise versa. I am seeing somebody right now and it's sorta funny. I have rearranged my life to be pretty stress free, my bills are minimal, and I have my 40mpg car and my 80mpg motorcycle so I don't have to make much money at all, and I don't, I have gotten kinda lazy. I am seeing somebody who is a surgeons assistant at one hospital and in charge of the ER at another hospital and is the single mom of 6 kids. (only 2 kids are at home) I asked her "Why me?" She said she had something to learn from me, I think she is realising that all the money, the incredible house, the Land Cruiser ect. ect. isn't worth the stress! See what I mean? It's kinda backwards.

Not really backwards. Money doesn't make you happy - you may have a better life than she has. I am working like a slave to support my house and starting to wonder why I think it's worth it.

my father always said behind every great man is a woman.....with a fyin' pan!!

I guess what I'm saying is that certainly if I ever found another to work with me and be HONEST AND TRUTHFUL she would inspire me or anyone else that comes into my life . Just don't need to be told !

Good morning ((Thomas))

I think you sum up my view on this...most of us want a partner that drives us to be better ppl, but how we communicate that is of utmost importance. Voicing our needs and aspirations in our relationships can too easily be given and taken as criticisms and even personal attacks on one another. So, while I agree with his statement to an extent, as I think most do, how to learn from each other productively is the biggest issue.

*boing* (((Wolf)))

So..... Nobody believes they are somewhat inspired on a daily basis? Even if it's what not to be or what not to do?

There probably isn't a day that goes by, when I don't say to myself, Ex. "Man I wish I could give like that, without expecting something in return", or something or another to that effect.

If people are already such great people and don't need to change or be inspired, then why are they here looking for friends or whatever? People should be lined up at their door..

Imao..

I get weary of answering the same Q's over and over again...just needed some fresh air.

A sign that I am here way too much?

Exactly, she sees that I have a better stress free life, but there is probably a happy balance, I have probably taken it to the other extreame.

i haft to agree with hickerchick,,,this is a good post,,,,,,,about time

to a certain extant people are challenged by their own daily lives
nobody wakes up and says I want to fail today...
its the encouragement that couples receive from each other that makes a person go the xtra mile....to be their best!!!

80 mpg????? holy crap what are you riding a moped or a huffy????

I agree to some extent, but think that motivation and self-worth should come from within.

Having people in your life who love and inspire you, who see the person that you really are and value that; They helps us see ourselves more clearly and remember why we are loved in the first place. That is inspiring!

I really love talking to people about "life" in general. I try my hardest to look for the similarities we have, rather than the differences. I try to approach every relationship, platonic or not, with an open mind. I believe that most people I meet possess some quality I wish I had.

As far as relationships.. There is nothing more sexy to me, than a woman that is out there living life and carrying on, rather than just sitting there waiting on life to happen while it's passing her by. That inspires me!

well said!!

I think he is also saying that sometimes reestablishing what is truly important to us, that we have lost sight of, can evoke positive change as well...you might have missed the piece of the article that I posted later, and should have included in my OP.

"Were you to devote yourself to one of these imperfect men, you could probably teach them how to honor a woman by, say, not answering the phone during a date, honor himself by not becoming a workaholic, and honor his family by being closer to them."

I think you said a lot there! Join my next thread on how to inspire your man to send you flowers without invoking the "you never send me flowers anymore" spell, that has never once proven effective from what I understand.

Yes, very very NICE!