Some of us naturally pour our hearts completely into things and this can be a very painful way to live, as early back as the formative years. And I think that's just it, an appropriate amount of cynicism is the key ingredient toward achieving a good balance between being completely vulnerable and completely jaded.

one word: PLAYER

There are plenty of women who are guilty of this, too. In fact, I've had this happen a number of times- they chat up a storm, turn up the cutesy-kissy face, and then all-of-a-sudden vanish in thin air.

They (men AND wimmins included) are probably ADHD-addled attention whores who latch on to anything they can find, and then suddenly feel the need to latch off.

It IS a major waste of time, though.

And that's a very hard balance to find..... (I hate being cynical )

I think he is scared..........scared of his feelings and that freaks him out!!! btw........1-800-gypsyknows!!!

Tottally agree

ya and if it continues..........time to cut the ties!!!

<--too old to be playing little kid games.......

Brad Pitt is really Rodney Dangerfield

first off its a computer dating site. Check your expectations. Secondly, doesn't it make sense to get to know someone before you decide if you are compatible and want to go further? Sheesh! Too many people want instant coffee, instant cake, and instant relationships. Throwing practicality and caution to the wind isn't smart or safe. Yeah go ahead and blame me. She seemed nice, wanted to get to know her better, and converse more. Then she started to talk about the voices in her head and her bi-polar disorder, her fetish for playing with knives, and her last 3 hospitalized ex boyfreinds. Yeah I disappeared right now when I discovered she was CRAZY! What am I supposed to do? Write her a email saying "I'm sorry, you're nuttier than a granola bar, your wreckless, dangerous, and should be committed. But it was nice talking to you. You scare me?" sorry, just a different point of view.

first off its a computer dating site. Check your expectations. Secondly, doesn't it make sense to get to know someone before you decide if you are compatible and want to go further? Sheesh! Too many people want instant coffee, instant cake, and instant relationships. Throwing practicality and caution to the wind isn't smart or safe. Yeah go ahead and blame me. She seemed nice, wanted to get to know her better, and converse more. Then she started to talk about the voices in her head and her bi-polar disorder, her fetish for playing with knives, and her last 3 hospitalized ex boyfreinds. Yeah I disappeared right now when I discovered she was CRAZY! What am I supposed to do? Write her a email saying "I'm sorry, you're nuttier than a granola bar, your wreckless, dangerous, and should be committed. But it was nice talking to you. You scare me?" sorry, just a different point of view.

<----talks to cats daily.................AND THEY TALK BACK!!!

What's wrong with being honest Oh, I forgot, we're on line.
I get what you're saying but do we have to check decency and good manners along with expectations at the door? I'm sure plenty of us are not crazy. And I'd prefer a call or a short email saying:"changed my mind". You can still block me after that

I assume that all of you are teenagers playing at adult relationships until proven otherwise. I like to think I'm a good judge of character and that all of my friends are true blue. One very bosom buddy did skate without a trace last week ...so who really knows?

if you have never met.....?????
i don't think you can be "close" friends........it's just a casual "relationship"
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just my opinion.....

I think a lot of ppl here tend to "kissy-face" with more than one interest at a time and when they make their choice...the rest suddenly become disposable. This is no different really than dating in the flesh for some, but to those like myself who normally would not spend time with players, it's more easily hidden here. I would be very suspicious of this from what I've seen from the sidelines, if I ever thought to actually date someone from here.

I feel that sharing intimate details of your life, hopes and dreams, bond ppl no matter what form it takes. I know for a fact that there ARE real ppl with real feelings on the receiving end of my emails, whether they be completely upfront or not. I have the luxury of my attitude on this more than others, as I am not dating...so I'm only wasting my own time if they are not legitimate friends.