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Topic: Why do some people
Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Wed 05/21/08 06:20 PM
Does this mean that if someone wrongs you, you should say nothing? I don't think speaking out for yourself makes you a victim. If you don't speak up, then other people become victims, too. Or are we supposed to just let people attack us and say nothing? Apparently those who complain about the victims...maybe do alot of their own self-vicimization. Why not just ignore it if it is such an issue??? But it's the same reason why people lie to make others feel bad for them... I guess that falls in the victim catagory also.

TheLonelyWalker Joined Sat 04/07/07 Posts: 11870	Wed 05/21/08 06:22 PM
always assume the role of victim as a defense mechanism in arguments? because they don't know any other way. life made them like that since they were little children. Usually these people come from abusive homes, or have have very upsetting relationships with abusive people.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 05/21/08 06:26 PM
We live in a culture that exalts the victim mentality. Everything is always everyone else's fault. Personal accountability no longer exists. It's much easier to be a victim, get attention and sympathy and million-dollar settlements from McDonald's, than it is to say "Hey, I screwed up, it's my own damn fault." Lex...think this is pretty accurate imo too. "Everything is always everyone else's fault." The victim's credo...

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Wed 05/21/08 06:28 PM
We live in a culture that exalts the victim mentality. Everything is always everyone else's fault. Personal accountability no longer exists. It's much easier to be a victim, get attention and sympathy and million-dollar settlements from McDonald's, than it is to say "Hey, I screwed up, it's my own damn fault." Lex...think this is pretty accurate imo too. "Everything is always everyone else's fault." The victim's credo... I wish I could get away with that...things are actually usually my fault.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 05/21/08 06:30 PM
We live in a culture that exalts the victim mentality. Everything is always everyone else's fault. Personal accountability no longer exists. It's much easier to be a victim, get attention and sympathy and million-dollar settlements from McDonald's, than it is to say "Hey, I screwed up, it's my own damn fault." Lex...think this is pretty accurate imo too. "Everything is always everyone else's fault." The victim's credo... I wish I could get away with that...things are actually usually my fault. Funny how some of us can actually recognize and understand our flaws and actually learn to accept what is.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Wed 05/21/08 06:40 PM
Funny how some of us can actually recognize and understand our flaws and actually learn to accept what is. Ummm...never said I learn so fast...just that it's my fault.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 05/21/08 06:41 PM
Funny how some of us can actually recognize and understand our flaws and actually learn to accept what is. Ummm...never said I learn so fast...just that it's my fault. acceptance is a step towards understanding and learning

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Wed 05/21/08 06:44 PM
Funny how some of us can actually recognize and understand our flaws and actually learn to accept what is. Ummm...never said I learn so fast...just that it's my fault. acceptance is a step towards understanding and learning I'm just kidding. I get something out of everything.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 05/21/08 06:45 PM Edited by Unknow on Wed 05/21/08 06:46 PM
Good! Too bad there are not more of you

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24661	Wed 05/21/08 06:45 PM Edited by Beachfarmer on Wed 05/21/08 06:46 PM
This is the most ironic thread I've ever read in my life.... especially with the Narcissistic Personality thread going on simultaneously.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Wed 05/21/08 06:46 PM
This is the most ironic thread I've ever read in my life.... especially with the Narcissistic Personality going on simultaneously. Will you marry me?

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24661	Wed 05/21/08 06:46 PM
This is the most ironic thread I've ever read in my life.... especially with the Narcissistic Personality going on simultaneously. Will you marry me? I think I have to get over myself first.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Wed 05/21/08 06:47 PM
This is the most ironic thread I've ever read in my life.... especially with the Narcissistic Personality thread going on simultaneously. The first one was more accurate...

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Wed 05/21/08 06:47 PM
Some of us are better at seeing the flaws of others and pointing them out.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 05/21/08 06:47 PM


Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Wed 05/21/08 06:49 PM
I think I have to get over myself first. No, I think your perfect sans 2500 miles....

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 05/21/08 06:50 PM
Some of us are better at seeing the flaws of others and pointing them out.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Wed 05/21/08 06:50 PM
Good! Too bad there are not more of you Did someone say narcissist thread? Spose I can I be a good narcissist if I'm the best screw up ever?

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Wed 05/21/08 06:51 PM
Good! Too bad there are not more of you Did someone say narcissist thread? Spose I can I be a good narcissist if I'm the best screw up ever? probably not...

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24661	Wed 05/21/08 06:52 PM
Spose I can I be a good narcissist if I'm the best screw up ever? sounds like the try to fail and succeed question