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What does that even mean? I'm slowly discovering I'm not the average college kid... and it's starting to make me feel pretty lonely. Is there something wrong with a college guy that's not interested in weed, casual sex, and ****ty beer? I think what's starting to get on my nerves, is people telling me I'm just "afraid" of all these things, like my morals as a christian are holding me down. Is it so hard to believe that I'm somehow just not interested in these things, regardless of my experience, particularly to weed?
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No. You are being true to yourself and to your beliefs. That is an honorable trait.
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What does that even mean? I'm slowly discovering I'm not the average college kid... and it's starting to make me feel pretty lonely. Is there something wrong with a college guy that's not interested in weed, casual sex, and ****ty beer? I think what's starting to get on my nerves, is people telling me I'm just "afraid" of all these things, like my morals as a christian are holding me down. Is it so hard to believe that I'm somehow just not interested in these things, regardless of my experience, particularly to weed? Don't let them get to you...this kind of stuff never ends. |
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What does that even mean? I'm slowly discovering I'm not the average college kid... and it's starting to make me feel pretty lonely. Is there something wrong with a college guy that's not interested in weed, casual sex, and ****ty beer? I think what's starting to get on my nerves, is people telling me I'm just "afraid" of all these things, like my morals as a christian are holding me down. Is it so hard to believe that I'm somehow just not interested in these things, regardless of my experience, particularly to weed? hey, if you dont want to, fine, dont, good for you, i applaud you, but dont look at those that do that they are wrong or you are wrong, you made your decision, let them make thiers without judgement |
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I find what you are saying refreshing I was where you are two years ago
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I don't think they're wrong. In fact, I'm perfectly fine letting them do whatever they want to do. It's them that are judging me. I know some pretty cool people that do tons of things I'm not into, and that's great for them. It's what they like to do. Why do I have to be made out like some kind of freak for not being into these types of things?
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funny how the definition of "against the grain" has changed.....
...you are a rebel....be proud |
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I don't think they're wrong. In fact, I'm perfectly fine letting them do whatever they want to do. It's them that are judging me. I know some pretty cool people that do tons of things I'm not into, and that's great for them. It's what they like to do. Why do I have to be made out like some kind of freak for not being into these types of things? Because you aren't into being sheeple?? Listen first get some thick skin then go someplace outside of your comfort zone. Met my bestfriend that way. |
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I've been out of my comfort zone. Out of my list of things I don't really care to do (weed, casual sex, cheap beer and cigarettes), the only one I haven't experienced is weed. But out of them all, weed is the one I have the least interest of all in. People don't seem to understand that there's a difference in being curious and afraid, and just not enjoying something.
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I don't think there's a thing wrong with you. I applaud your choices amid so much temptation to try to "fit in". It's a personal preference and you that you're not afraid to be an individual speaks to your character. God Bless!
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what I am saying Jay is go out to a coffee shop near the college, sit in the student lounge for an hour, find someone who is also not doing the things you dont ant to do and say hi.
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Thanks, Clouded, that's decent advice I'll have to give a shot.
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Hay, what's ****ty beer? It rhymes with witty. Or bitty. But it means poop. How's that for a translation? I forgot JSH censors posts. Ha ha. |
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I go to SDSU which arrested one-hundred people for drugs since the start of the year. You may have heard of the drug bust. It was fraternities that were behind most of the activity. Where are you getting this peer pressure from?
There is no reason for any hopelessness. You hang with the wrong crowd so join the Bible club and meet people who have the same traits as you. I know people that party and they do not do what you're saying. Do you want everyone to have the same morals and that is part of the problem? Sorry if you met some good friends and they are like this. You won't change them so find new ones. You don't need to put up with any pressure. Use your legs and walk away from it. |
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It's probably a regional thing. My school is in a very rural area, and it's truly the essence of the term "college town." Pretty much here, if you party, you do at least one of those things in excess. I know there's some that don't. But it's a huge majority.
My problem isn't that I want people to change. I want people to accept. Stop making me feel dumb and a party pooper just because I don't share all their interests. I don't seem to fit in with the local christian groups either. It's hard to be a catholic in the southern baptist bible belt. Ha ha. |
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Have you gone to your parish? I mean hanging with other Catholics may help. I think of us like schoos of fish in the ocean. We like to swim around the same types. As far as the social pressure there are ways you can get around it making it stop.
Tell them you take medication and can't drink because of a reaction. Do they want to see you in a coma? Nope, they will understand. If you are just having one or two beers and stopping say the same thing but also state you are risking it a little bit with what you have had. You will get concern not egging you on to drink. As far as sex, tell them you have a girlfriend back home. They may push it on you on a little but it wouldn't be like you are afraid of sex you have a reason not to engage. Drug use? Tell them you've done it few times and each time it wasn't fun. You had a bad experience with it. People take drugs because they are fun. People want to give others drugs because they want them to have fun. I would still seek out people who had similar morals. |
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your doing fine stick to your morals.
All those you listed weed, beer, casual sex, and cigarettes can lead to abnormal behavior further down the road. All for are addictive, Addicted people have abnormal lives. The best thing you can do is to stay away from them. It's not bad to be friendly with the people that are doing these things just remember what they can lead to. While it may not seem like it is abnormal behavior while your in college because everyone else around is doing it. It will be considered abnormal behavior when you are out of college and have to deal with the real world. |
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It's probably a regional thing. My school is in a very rural area, and it's truly the essence of the term "college town." Pretty much here, if you party, you do at least one of those things in excess. I know there's some that don't. But it's a huge majority. My problem isn't that I want people to change. I want people to accept. Stop making me feel dumb and a party pooper just because I don't share all their interests. I don't seem to fit in with the local christian groups either. It's hard to be a catholic in the southern baptist bible belt. Ha ha. Oh god your catholic....just joking. Listen I get it, I do...but I am not talking about christian stuff. Go to a ball game, or how about to a race. It will help trust me. |
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Have you gone to your parish? I mean hanging with other Catholics may help. I think of us like schoos of fish in the ocean. We like to swim around the same types. As far as the social pressure there are ways you can get around it making it stop. Tell them you take medication and can't drink because of a reaction. Do they want to see you in a coma? Nope, they will understand. If you are just having one or two beers and stopping say the same thing but also state you are risking it a little bit with what you have had. You will get concern not egging you on to drink. As far as sex, tell them you have a girlfriend back home. They may push it on you on a little but it wouldn't be like you are afraid of sex you have a reason not to engage. Drug use? Tell them you've done it few times and each time it wasn't fun. You had a bad experience with it. People take drugs because they are fun. People want to give others drugs because they want them to have fun. I would still seek out people who had similar morals. I'm not going to lie about it. I have no reason to be ashamed about my choices... |
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