ok so i was talking to this girl online for like a week or so and she finally says she's comfortable to show me a picture of herself so i'm like ok... and she sends it to me and she probably wieghs like 250 pounds. she asks me "what do u think"
im like "you're not my type"
"why?"
"because you are out of shape..."
"im not out of shape! i can outrun you anyday of the week!!!"
"really? cause i run 6 miles a day"
"i can do that!"
"you probably couldnt WALK 6 miles if you had the WHOLE DAY."
"you're a jerk, my medicine makes me overwieght"
"ok, im not saying i dont want to be friends i just dont want a relationship, im such a bad guy... i wont lose any sleep over it though"
"you should"


Should I? Am I really such a jerk, maybe I didn't handle it well, what should I say instead if i find myself in this situation again.

You shouldn't judge people.

I walked a marathon at 230 pounds.

I know what you shouldn't say....Never use the phrase You're not my type!!Just be polite about it and turn her down...gently

I have to ask,what exactly is ur type?

MAYBE you didn't handle it well? There was no need for you to insult her. You should have left it at "you're not my type" even if she wanted to know why. JMO.

Wow!!Good for u

what's JMO?

i agree that you didnt have to insult her and that you could have just let it go by saying your not my type.

but kudos on being honest even if your honesty was a bit brutal.

i think that if you stop looking at appearances you just might find a wonderful person out there.

I am not thin by all means of the word, however I have a lot to offer to a relationship. lookings fade over time, its who the person is inside that matters.

I am surprised you are admitting you were this horrible to another human being, this judgmental, this callous and shallow and superficial.

But then again, you are admitting it. So at least you're honest you are all those things.

Thanks for letting us know.

slender to slighty "thick"
dark hair
funny
smart
supportive
trustworthy

Just my opinion.

Yeah. You were honest....but you were also a jerk.

i suppose so, but i'm very athletic and smart + i will be a marine in a couple months from now so i think i have a right to be picky

The running or walking 6 miles was a little much. It was judgmental and assuming. However, if you said she wasn't your type, she should have respected that.

By the way, I love your name. Is your real name Alexander? Cause Xander's such a cool nickname

so she had all those things apart from a slight weight issue..and you got on too...gee think you messed up there hun

You have to be more "tactful, not so "mean" in your response to them! JMO!(just my opinion) I'm pretty sure you don't really want to hurt a woman's feelings!

Smart.... hmmm..

Everyone has the right to be picky. You do NOT have the right to be arrogant, cruel, and insulting. She did nothing to you but finally open up, and you slammed her.

it was an ultramarathon..6 miles the first day, 27 miles the next, and 20 the next.

You just can't judge people.

nope i just started using it as an alias awhile back when xXx came out (vin diesel played "xander") my real name is actually Jonathon, pretty generic huh?

I say not picky, but that everyone has the right to choose who they would like to date. Just because you have certain qualities that you think are superior does not mean you have more of a "right" to choosing someone than anyone else. You should simply look at it this way, that you like who you like and that is that, and that you will attempt to pursue and get whoever it is that you like.