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$29.95 with a rebate and $5 insurance in case it turned your finger green!!!!     
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I am sitting here thinking as I am on an IM with this guy. He is telling me that his goals are get married and have a family. Well I NEVER want to get married again. Never EVER! Been down that road once and will not go back. I mean do not get me wrong I will live with a guy if the time is right, but I never want to be asked that question. Just like having a family. I can't have more children. Not that I do not want more, I just can't have more. My tubes are tied. But a family and marriage is normal to want and I understand that. Guess I am asking this to the guys. If a woman does not want to have children or get married again, how much of that is a deal breaker to you? talk to me I don't want kids any more and you say marriage I leg it  
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$29.95 with a rebate and $5 insurance in case it turned your finger green!!!!
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never been married..have one child..not sure i want to another child..have met someone who has never been married and has no children..we chatted about it but its not an issue for either of us..would like to try the married thing though..so yer never know...but i guess its getting to know each other and deciding if that person is right for you Hello Debbs
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$29.95 with a rebate and $5 insurance in case it turned your finger green!!!! 
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Edited by
DebbieJT
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Fri 05/16/08 09:24 AM
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never been married..have one child..not sure i want to another child..have met someone who has never been married and has no children..we chatted about it but its not an issue for either of us..would like to try the married thing though..so yer never know...but i guess its getting to know each other and deciding if that person is right for you Hello Debbs 
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$29.95 with a rebate and $5 insurance in case it turned your finger green!!!!
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Edited by
jwell
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Fri 05/16/08 09:29 AM
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honestly, as far as i am concerned:
RING: a sense of security and reciprocal commitment CHILDREN:source of pride, strong feeling of responsibility, accomplishment and some to leave for, u know? the reason why i should go to work everyday,save money etc... more important feeling that my life was worth it, NOW MANY COULD FIND ALOT TO SAY ABOUT WHAT I WROTE BUT PLEASE THATS WHAT I THINK AND RESPECT THAT
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I am sitting here thinking as I am on an IM with this guy. He is telling me that his goals are get married and have a family. Well I NEVER want to get married again. Never EVER! Been down that road once and will not go back. I mean do not get me wrong I will live with a guy if the time is right, but I never want to be asked that question. Just like having a family. I can't have more children. Not that I do not want more, I just can't have more. My tubes are tied. But a family and marriage is normal to want and I understand that. Guess I am asking this to the guys. If a woman does not want to have children or get married again, how much of that is a deal breaker to you? She loses cuz I want both. I would adopt if need be but deffinitly want marriage and a family. |
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$29.95 with a rebate and $5 insurance in case it turned your finger green!!!!
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not a deal breaker at all, i'm not set on the whole marriage and children thing, if it happens it happens, otherwise it just depends on the type of person i end up with
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The way I see it for me I can't have any more kids and then there is an age factor there for me. But..... if I met someone that had no kids and would agree on adoption then that one is solved. That is if they really want to have a child they could call there own.
As far as marriage yeah I have been married once. I don't believe in saying never to that for to me if I hear a man say never ever again. I do tend to shy away from them not that I want to get married. It is due to the way I perceive that is they are not willing to share there life with me fully. Now if they say they don't plan on it unless the right one comes along and then they would consider it that is different for at least I know they are still open with what life deals them and their heart. I do not want to be with a person that has a closed mind or heart. Anything is possible in life to happen again if you go into it with an open mind and heart. Is that asking too much not to me it is not. For when someone closes their mind and heart. To me those are the ones that can not LOVE ANOTHER fully. JMO
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The way I see it for me I can't have any more kids and then there is an age factor there for me. But..... if I met someone that had no kids and would agree on adoption then that one is solved. That is if they really want to have a child they could call there own. As far as marriage yeah I have been married once. I don't believe in saying never to that for to me if I hear a man say never ever again. I do tend to shy away from them not that I want to get married. It is due to the way I perceive that is they are not willing to share there life with me fully. Now if they say they don't plan on it unless the right one comes along and then they would consider it that is different for at least I know they are still open with what life deals them and their heart. I do not want to be with a person that has a closed mind or heart. Anything is possible in life to happen again if you go into it with an open mind and heart. Is that asking too much not to me it is not. For when someone closes their mind and heart. To me those are the ones that can not LOVE ANOTHER fully. JMO
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I am sitting here thinking as I am on an IM with this guy. He is telling me that his goals are get married and have a family. Well I NEVER want to get married again. Never EVER! Been down that road once and will not go back. I mean do not get me wrong I will live with a guy if the time is right, but I never want to be asked that question. Just like having a family. I can't have more children. Not that I do not want more, I just can't have more. My tubes are tied. But a family and marriage is normal to want and I understand that. Guess I am asking this to the guys. If a woman does not want to have children or get married again, how much of that is a deal breaker to you? I don't want marriage, I personally think it is flawed in many areas. Kids? What the hell? Offspring of me? No thank you.
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Thank you all for your responses. Sorry I took off, had court this afternoon. It is just nice to know I am not a lost cause here.....lol.
Was just wondering if that was the reason I was not getting anywhere on this site. Guess I need to look at other reasons now. |
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You know, I am in this position as well. I have been dating this wonderful man for the last 6 weeks (have known him longer), and early this week we broke up...
On our second date, he asked me what my "reproductive status" was. WTF?? So I told him, I have kids, cannot have anymore, and do not want anymore...I am 40, and I already have 2 adult boys, one teenage boy and a 5 year old girl. I am done! He said that a ready made family was ok with him, but I could tell that was not the case. He wants his own kids terribly. I think this break-up is the best for him; I am hoping he will find a woman that can give him what he wants. I miss him alot, but I know in my heart I am doing the right thing for him. I am so hoping there are men out there that really do NOT mind the "ready-made family." I guess we will see!! ~Melissa |
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Just like having a family. I can't have more children. Not that I do not want more, I just can't have more. My tubes are tied. But a family and marriage is normal to want and I understand that. Guess I am asking this to the guys. If a woman does not want to have children or get married again, how much of that is a deal breaker to you? Thanks to my exposure to almost ex-wife #2, I've found that I can pretty much be a friend to anyone. My own goals include having children, or marrying into a family already in progress, ultimately. So my answer to you is yes and no, of sorts. I've known I've wanted to be a dad for quite a while, and this latest failure in that area reaffirms that I wont settle for anything less than that. There isn't enough time to play with someone who has no interest in being a mother, nor would it be a sign that woman is right for me. At 43, any child I have with someone would commonly say, "No that's my dad, not my grandfather" at high school graduation. If I wait too much longer, it'll get much worse. 
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marriage is not high on my priority either...but I never say never
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there are plenty of men that don't want to get married or have kids.
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I can't have any more children so its not a deal breaker if he doesn't want any, if he does well he's chit outta luck..its broke and cannot be fixed.
Marriage, its not a top priority for me, if it happens great if not then great too..I'm content living the rest of my days on this plane of existence "in sin" ie shackin up!! Basically either or ain't a deal breaker in my world |
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