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franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Wed 05/14/08 11:32 AM
you met someone, and they couldnt work due to medical reasons, would you still date him/her?? i did not see the would support in the opening post asking the question why do you feel you would have to support them very true, I retract my last statement, re support. Thats what happens when you only read from last page I truly doubt I could date someone who was unable to work regardless of the reasons why (medical/otherwise) We all have something to give (time/attention/etc) so I dont see how I would date someone that didnt see that. We all have something to give (time/attention/etc) so I dont see how I would date someone that didnt see that. what do you mean by this??? what I mean is simply that even if a person is unable to work, there is still something positive they can share with others. Be it time, their experience, positivity, a shoulder to someone, etc. If the person is mobile, then there is something he/she can do. visit the people worse off than themselves, go read to someone who has no one. etc. If you can tell a joke, make someone's day brighter. Follow?

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 05/14/08 11:32 AM
i am not reffering to anyone by name just the way some of the post seem to come across am not going to personally attack anyone but to assume because they are unable to provide for themselves because they are disabled is like saying they are worthless do you think im worthless because i cant work??

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 05/14/08 11:32 AM Edited by lilith401 on Wed 05/14/08 11:33 AM
I think when you hear a person is not working, you assume they have no income. That in no way devalues them as a person, but in today's age people are stressed about money, so you think it. I thought it, when I read the post. I needed the clarification that was not part of the equation. I'm a single mom, and just got out of a romantic situation where lack of money was an insidious destroyer. No one is worthless, nor did I get the impression anyone here thought so.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76464	Wed 05/14/08 11:34 AM
There medical condition has nothing to do of how I feel about them.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 05/14/08 11:34 AM
you met someone, and they couldnt work due to medical reasons, would you still date him/her?? i did not see the would support in the opening post asking the question why do you feel you would have to support them very true, I retract my last statement, re support. Thats what happens when you only read from last page I truly doubt I could date someone who was unable to work regardless of the reasons why (medical/otherwise) We all have something to give (time/attention/etc) so I dont see how I would date someone that didnt see that. We all have something to give (time/attention/etc) so I dont see how I would date someone that didnt see that. what do you mean by this??? what I mean is simply that even if a person is unable to work, there is still something positive they can share with others. Be it time, their experience, positivity, a shoulder to someone, etc. If the person is mobile, then there is something he/she can do. visit the people worse off than themselves, go read to someone who has no one. etc. If you can tell a joke, make someone's day brighter. Follow? yes i understand, even though i cant work, i do more for my friends, spend more time with my neice, so i do look to the posotive side, of not being able to work.

shoes4rhon Joined Sat 02/02/08 Posts: 3411	Wed 05/14/08 11:34 AM
I think it would have to depend on the medical reason .. there are some things that I don't want to deal with but that in no way reflects on how I value that person .. It is a personal choice that I make just like dating a blonde or a burnette

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Wed 05/14/08 11:35 AM Edited by franshade on Wed 05/14/08 11:35 AM
you met someone, and they couldnt work due to medical reasons, would you still date him/her?? i did not see the would support in the opening post asking the question why do you feel you would have to support them very true, I retract my last statement, re support. Thats what happens when you only read from last page I truly doubt I could date someone who was unable to work regardless of the reasons why (medical/otherwise) We all have something to give (time/attention/etc) so I dont see how I would date someone that didnt see that. We all have something to give (time/attention/etc) so I dont see how I would date someone that didnt see that. what do you mean by this??? what I mean is simply that even if a person is unable to work, there is still something positive they can share with others. Be it time, their experience, positivity, a shoulder to someone, etc. If the person is mobile, then there is something he/she can do. visit the people worse off than themselves, go read to someone who has no one. etc. If you can tell a joke, make someone's day brighter. Follow? yes i understand, even though i cant work, i do more for my friends, spend more time with my neice, so i do look to the posotive side, of not being able to work. wtg was responding to your question

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 05/14/08 11:35 AM
I think when you hear a person is not working, you assume they have no income. That in no way devalues them as a person, but in today's age people are stressed about money, so you think it. I thought it, when I read the post. I needed the clarification that was not part of the equation. I'm a single mom, and just got out of a romantic situation where lack of money was an insidious destroyer. No one is worthless, nor did I get the impression anyone here thought so. do people not get money in your country if there sick?? here we get benefits, and i claim for those, and the money is very good.

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Wed 05/14/08 11:36 AM
ok...this is nice but....do they have big boobs...thats all I want to know

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Wed 05/14/08 11:37 AM
Sometimes they do, either SSI or SSDI. The money is better if it is SSDI, as that comes from the forty quarters of the prior work history. If they do not have that, they get SSI. Either way, it is below 200% of the poverty level....

adj4u Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 21254	Wed 05/14/08 11:37 AM
i am not reffering to anyone by name just the way some of the post seem to come across am not going to personally attack anyone but to assume because they are unable to provide for themselves because they are disabled is like saying they are worthless do you think im worthless because i cant work?? no i do not never said you were and di not state anyone is

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 05/14/08 11:39 AM
you met someone, and they couldnt work due to medical reasons, would you still date him/her?? i did not see the would support in the opening post asking the question why do you feel you would have to support them very true, I retract my last statement, re support. Thats what happens when you only read from last page I truly doubt I could date someone who was unable to work regardless of the reasons why (medical/otherwise) We all have something to give (time/attention/etc) so I dont see how I would date someone that didnt see that. We all have something to give (time/attention/etc) so I dont see how I would date someone that didnt see that. what do you mean by this??? what I mean is simply that even if a person is unable to work, there is still something positive they can share with others. Be it time, their experience, positivity, a shoulder to someone, etc. If the person is mobile, then there is something he/she can do. visit the people worse off than themselves, go read to someone who has no one. etc. If you can tell a joke, make someone's day brighter. Follow? yes i understand, even though i cant work, i do more for my friends, spend more time with my neice, so i do look to the posotive side, of not being able to work. wtg was responding to your question thankyou.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 05/14/08 11:39 AM
i am not reffering to anyone by name just the way some of the post seem to come across am not going to personally attack anyone but to assume because they are unable to provide for themselves because they are disabled is like saying they are worthless do you think im worthless because i cant work?? no i do not never said you were and di not state anyone is OH NO, I KNOW. i was just asking, because some people WILL think im wortless, this is life.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 05/14/08 11:41 AM
Sometimes they do, either SSI or SSDI. The money is better if it is SSDI, as that comes from the forty quarters of the prior work history. If they do not have that, they get SSI. Either way, it is below 200% of the poverty level.... we have incapacity benefit here, and disabilty living allowance. believe me the money is very good, but i do have a lot of medical problems

Marley Joined Mon 10/02/06 Posts: 3922	Wed 05/14/08 11:43 AM
yes if they had big boobs Yeah! Those are two good reasons.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 05/14/08 11:45 AM
please be honest does anyone think, that people who cant work are worthless??

jedigirl Joined Fri 02/02/07 Posts: 1070	Wed 05/14/08 11:48 AM
its amazing to me that people belive that life worth and success has anything to do with a job, a car, the house they live in..or how much money they make....the true nature of an individual is on the inside not the out...does your job make you who you are?? can you define yourself by your disability?? Shouldnt it be about the inside and not the out??

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 05/14/08 11:50 AM
its amazing to me that people belive that life worth and success has anything to do with a job, a car, the house they live in..or how much money they make....the true nature of an individual is on the inside not the out...does your job make you who you are?? can you define yourself by your disability?? Shouldnt it be about the inside and not the out?? i agree people can be just as successfull, even if they CANT work.

chigh61 Joined Mon 05/05/08 Posts: 4	Wed 05/14/08 11:50 AM
I think it depends on a couple things.......do they do anything else, instead of just sit around? Do they have some kind of income, ss for example? and are you sufficient enough that if you have to pay for everything, it don't matter.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Wed 05/14/08 11:51 AM
I think it depends on a couple things.......do they do anything else, instead of just sit around? Do they have some kind of income, ss for example? and are you sufficient enough that if you have to pay for everything, it don't matter. why would he/she have to pay for everything in a relationship??