Ohh... I got to know!

I grew up with a brother 20 years older than me. I get along in most crowds.

I however have a very youthful outlook, someone I date must also. My ex is 2 years older than me chronolgically, but about 40 years older in every other way...

I can go as low as about 22 but only as high as 40.

well ill tell u whats wrong with it..... its the same person whom when he was 32 dated a 14 yr old..... its a molding the woman to be what he wants her to be and its a control issue hes never changed......

age is of little consequence. it has nothing to do with
what kind of person you are or how well you relate to
another person when it comes right down to it. every
relationship is different - with career, lifestyle,
educational, and temperament variations.

part of what makes our experience interesting and enjoyable.

it is like anything else in life.

if you don't think you can succeed then it's over
otherwise, you have only just begun.

I go for older women but that's because i have never been around people my own age.all my friends are 10-20 years older than me and i'm used to being around that big of age gap with women

I'm 36.

I have a full on double standard to this.... i'm hypocritical...and I know this...however,

If a man dates a woman much younger it is because he can't handle a woman his age. He is either full of BS or 'get's off" on them looking at him like that mature man that is going to "take care" of her.

A man that dates an older woman just is sick of the BS that comes with a younger crowd.

I know let the bashing begin......

I think this is the case in most situations.

any man who has dated or pursued a woman more than 10 years younger, is automatically off my list of "things to do"

Same here! lol My ex husband is actually coming out of a break up with an 18 year old and nothing has made him as unattractive to me as seeing him pursue someone I would call a "kid". (yikes I sound old lol)

I look at it this way, any man who finds things in common with an 18-24 year old girl, will not find things in common with me.

NO it not the same a 14 year old is NOT legal or mature!!!And there was NO molding or control she had her own mind, it more more friendship than anything but we ENJOYED doing things together and had fun, what in the world is wrong with that? (and by the way, she is the one that suggest we go out for a pizza nd beer, not me!!)

sometimes though.... a much younger man that dates a much older woman is looking for a mother

That's true Buttons.. and I think sometimes when a younger woman dates an older man, she's looking for a father

I am at the other end of the age spread. As a man of 60 and having been divorced a couple of years, I've given this question a lot of thought. First, does the couple desire a short or long termed relationship? I presume the latter is true for the woman and a wait-and-see attitude is true for the man.

That said, I've come to accept that life with a woman even 10 years younger would be difficult at best. Anything is possible but a 9 or 10 year spread would present increasingly serious challenges as the years tick off. I don't envision the same being true, initially, for a couple under 40. However, I would characterize the relationship challenges of a woman of 20 and a man of even 30 as problematic. The reverse? Who would agree that society as a whole loathes the reverse in any age window? That is not at question and though it may seem unfair, it is unfair reality.
Life's experiences and lessons learned form a fabric, of sorts, for a couple. They need to be left to weave their memories in situations in which they can both relate to. Could it be that a 5-year spread is the maximum?
Btw, I've always viewed hugh heffner as a horses ***. This is especially true today but becomes more sickening and sad as he continues. No, gentlemen, I can honestly say that I wouldn't ever have chosen a life as his. I'll take one good woman, thanks. I have nothing to prove.

a 50 year old woman can want a mother as much as 25 yo man
a 3 year old boy can be more controlling than a 60 yo woman
a 90 year old artist can touch you like a 15 yo singer

a person can be kind, beautiful, spiteful or ugly at any age

well said...

My ex-husband is dating and intending to marry. He's 50, she's 32. I hope she doesn't want kids as he is snipped... I don't want to judge, because perhaps something like that could happen to me. I just hope it's all real and that he's a better husband to her than me. Then, sometimes I don't. He was supposed to be a great husband for me and I feel somehow cheated. Sorry, went off on a tangent again!!

My first thought about the 18 yearold still playing with dolls is that she was too dumb to recognize that she was being brainwashed to be comfortable with the idea of motherhood. I've been married to someone older, and someone younger. My next, assuming she doesn't have children must also want children, and on that point, I'm not willing to compromise any more. My choice range is based on that, which means somewhat younger than I am. 18 I think is way too young to have kids, but then again, when I see someone in their mid 30's who "wants kids someday", aren't really being honest or really don't understand how that biological clock works. I also interpret the same age range with "undecided" as "God, please don't let it happen!"