Just today I found out that a chat friend of mine, that I have known for
about 6 years, has died.

He drove a friend to the airport and on his way home he hit some horses
that have gotten out of their pen and he did not see them on the road
till it was to late.

This is the second special chat friend I have lost. I have not meet
these people but they are close to me none the less.

My thoughts are this. Are we allowed to feel these deep feelings for
people we have never met on line? Do others feel these feeling as
deeply as I do? Or am I just weird?

Sorry for your loss.

No your not weird. People who do not chat online do not understand how
we can develop feelings without meeting them face to face. I think by
chatting online we are less shy so are more open and less threatened.
This can be the developing of a great friendship or romance, because
when you meet in person all the small talk is over and its time to
develop a solid relationship whether platonic or sexual.

Oh, goodness, of course you are allowed! The friends I have made on this
site are as real to me as in my daily life. You have every reason to
grieve a lost loved one and friend...whether in real life or the
internet..to me this is real; unlike some people...referring to players
and such...those are not real...
You are not weird or strange at all...
and my prayers are with you and your friend, and their families...I
truly mean that...

oh Tneal I am so sorry to hear about you "FRIEND", and yes they are as
REAL , as if they were stting there with you sharing a coffee, is how I
feel...

sweetie sorry to here about your friend..you can have feelings for
anybody even if u have not met them..im very sorry..wish you the best of
luck.

i am so sorry that u lost your good friend. dont feel wierd about it,
friendship comes in all shapes. just cus they never came to your house
doesn't mean your not allowed to have true feeling for them. i hope u
will be comforted by the friends u have here and we all pray that your
friend will fly straight into the arms of God.

Tneal

Ask anyone that has lost a TRUE sig. other, be it friend or lover,
those people have somehow touched our lives/minds/hearts. Does'nt mean
you had to of met them. I lost a penpal in high school to a car
accident, broke my heart. She lived nxt to a cousin & we had been
writing for 2 yrs., snail mail. No difference than cyber friends. I
really feel for your loss & hope you can go to funeral, if poss., might
help w/the feeelings. If you can't go, when you get a chance, visit the
grave, help'd me (even though yrs. later).
Want to talk, I'm around.

so sorry to hear about your loss and no you are not weird I think lots
of ppl feel that way about many ppl in there life. I had an uncle that I
had never met and when he died it hurt me really bad.

aaaaawwwwwwwwwwww (((((T))))) my condolenses at your loss my friend!!


as far as I'm concerned.. yes.. you CAN feel their loss.. it's not WEIRD
either gurl.. you've all come to be my extended family here and well..
I'd be hurting too if something happened to one of y'all!!! SOMEone REAL
is on the other end typing THEIR feelings... that doesn't make them any
LESS a person cuz they're on the internet!!

I have several 'pen-pals' on the net that have been BETTER friends than
those that are closer and TANGIBLE.. I would feel their Loss even more
T.. specially ONe BEST FRIEND in particular!! I'd be if
something happened to Him!! I'm SURE he know's it too!!

so no gurl.. in my opinion, yer not at ALL weird.. you're only showing
the compassion and love for another human being as you would if they
were living next door to ya!
Huggs ((((T)))) much coming yer way!

im sorry to hear that morena same thing happend to me that i had lost a
good friend on a chat and i fell pretty ****ty when i sound out he died.
so yeah i think it normal to fell that way.

Tneal friens are friends either we meet them in person or talk to them
on the phone or only online they are still friends. Over the years you
get to know as much about them if more than the friends you see in
person. You know when they are up or down you feel there pain when they
are hurting. So who is there to say our friends online are not real they
are real to me and that is all that matters. I have friends I have
talked to for more than 4 years online I feel there pain as well as they
feel mine. We cheer each other up when the other is down. So yes your
feelings for your friend is very real. I'm sorry to hear of your lose my
prayers are with you and your friends family.

sorry to hear about your loss.

(((tneal)))
so sorry to hear of this. it is normal what you are feeling, not strange
at all, friends we can touch, feel, or only speak with all fall into
that special place for us. friends are friends wether in person or
here. thoughts are with you,hun.take care.........Silly

T I second Kojack's sentiment.I know I would be devastated if one or
another of the friends I met through this site were lost to me.So no it
isn't weird and yes you have every right to feel that loss. My
condolences Dear.

i meant Tneal!! oups

Thank you all...

not sure I wanna chat with you again,,,third time th charm?

sorry to hear Ms.Tneal...

I appreciate the sympothy Michael You do know how to make me feel
better. Thank You.

my condolances tneal ((((((((((hugs))))))))))

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, you are not weird. I agree with
those above, the friends I have made on here are more like family, even
though we haven't met. I feel closer to my friends on here than some of
the people I know in real life.

I work in a hospital with maybe 350 employees but have only gotten
really close to maybe one employee, it is kind of cliqueish, and the
doctors are friendly and call me by my first name and other employees
say hi, but the people on here are my real friends. I moved to this
town in 2003 and have spent my time taking care of my folks and working,
didn't go anywhere other than work and home, so this site is my home
away from home, and I really appreciate the friends I have on here - you
guys are the best. Thanks for being you.