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Topic: love is not jealous
franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 05/05/08 06:25 PM
Entering an already made family or having a family of your own, we all know about different types of love. The love we have for our children, our partners, family, etc. Doubt a secure grown up would be intimidated/jealous by a child. Just my opinion.

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 06:27 PM
Entering an already made family or having a family of your own, we all know about different types of love. The love we have for our children, our partners, family, etc. Doubt a secure grown up would be intimidated/jealous by a child. Just my opinion. and so right i agree with ya fran!!! it should never happen...

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 06:28 PM Edited by buttons on Mon 05/05/08 06:55 PM
now jealousy from the child i can definately understand they feel they have to share now..... and some dont want to and that is age depending also..... and is normal for a child.... but not an adult

jenleah32 Joined Sat 09/22/07 Posts: 4577	Mon 05/05/08 06:32 PM
Entering an already made family or having a family of your own, we all know about different types of love. The love we have for our children, our partners, family, etc. Doubt a secure grown up would be intimidated/jealous by a child. Just my opinion. Funny you should meantion this Fran b/c my ex was very jealous of my son...The point I am trying to make is everyone in a relationship deserves equal opportunity on all parts but my partner is not going to come b4 those that were there b4 he was it is not going to happen...we area package deal except it or move on...I am not jealous of anyone regardless of who they are it is a sign of insecurity and I am very secure with who I am...Not concieded just secure...I have nothing to be jealous of!!

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 05/05/08 06:36 PM
Wasnt referring to you Jen, I commented in general. I have seen many families go thru this ordeal, insecurities of babies, sharing one's love. My personal opinion is that a secure grown up knows what he/she has. You are absolutely right, your ex's jealousy (of ur son) was a definite sign of immaturity/insecurity. His personal problem (JMO ) You sound like an extremely confident, strong, and independent woman. kudos

jenleah32 Joined Sat 09/22/07 Posts: 4577	Mon 05/05/08 06:44 PM
Wasnt referring to you Jen, I commented in general. I have seen many families go thru this ordeal, insecurities of babies, sharing one's love. My personal opinion is that a secure grown up knows what he/she has. You are absolutely right, your ex's jealousy (of ur son) was a definite sign of immaturity/insecurity. His personal problem (JMO ) You sound like an extremely confident, strong, and independent woman. kudos Thank you fran that was very nice and your are very right about my ex...Just one of the many reasons why I had to let him go...

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 05/05/08 06:47 PM
Wasnt referring to you Jen, I commented in general. I have seen many families go thru this ordeal, insecurities of babies, sharing one's love. My personal opinion is that a secure grown up knows what he/she has. You are absolutely right, your ex's jealousy (of ur son) was a definite sign of immaturity/insecurity. His personal problem (JMO ) You sound like an extremely confident, strong, and independent woman. kudos Thank you fran that was very nice and your are very right about my ex...Just one of the many reasons why I had to let him go... Sorry you had to go thru that truly, but on the positive thats over 100lbs you have lost. spoken from one that lives on a diet...

jenleah32 Joined Sat 09/22/07 Posts: 4577	Mon 05/05/08 06:49 PM
I'll remember that...Maybe that is why I lost so much weight afterwards...Things that make you go Hmmmmmm...

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 05/05/08 06:50 PM
ha! he was good for something I say the same of my ex

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 06:54 PM Edited by buttons on Mon 05/05/08 06:56 PM
ps when i said jealosy of a child i meant jealousy from a child.... not an adult being jealous of a child.... just to make that clear cause i reread what i wrote and some may have taken that wrong since i wrote it wrong

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 05/05/08 07:05 PM
ps when i said jealosy of a child i meant jealousy from a child.... not an adult being jealous of a child.... just to make that clear cause i reread what i wrote and some may have taken that wrong since i wrote it wrong children are very territorial but if they are treated the same (pre partner) and including them will help them get over their jealous feelings. communication is key. good luck to all (jmo)

sam53 Joined Wed 03/12/08 Posts: 2073	Tue 05/06/08 02:00 PM
Yes I am and I wish I am not . It is a part of love and care . It is not insecurity ; it is a feeling that something so valuable must not be lost or shared by others . It is not a weakness because as soon as things start bothering me ; I just run away and never be back again . I can smell trouble from far ,far ,far away .