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Topic: love is not jealous
jenleah32 Joined Sat 09/22/07 Posts: 4577	Mon 05/05/08 05:58 PM
good thread! substance here..... well for me id have to be honest and say no im not jealous unless for some reason given a reason to be? make sense? like for instance.... and i dont know if its really jealousy or not... if your partner tells ill say "his" friends that are female happy birthday but for your birthday doesnt come back when he said he would and never told you happy birthday? or when time is consumed all twords others and never on you... it may not be jealousy but longing for someone to love you and realizing that you dont matter? A lot of people would misconstrue this as jealousy when it is not...It is the longing and the need to have the love and respect from your partner. You should be first and foremost next to family and children and when you are not then rhe realationship is clearly over!!

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Mon 05/05/08 05:59 PM
and lily maybe its intuition..... your subconsious telling you something may not be right.... sometimes I think, but I have a scorpio rising... and scorpios are VERY jealous by nature. scorpio's are "firecrackers" could be Libra sun, scorpio rising... I'm the nicest b*tch you'll ever meet.

kendrab90 Joined Tue 04/15/08 Posts: 1917	Mon 05/05/08 05:59 PM
if you you're emotionally involved with someone it's normal to be jealous!!!!

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Mon 05/05/08 05:59 PM
if you you're emotionally involved with someone it's normal to be jealous!!!! correct! how are you at controlling it?

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 06:00 PM
think about it though.... if you have say been with two men that u cared about the same..... and one you did not have this feeling twords that u think is "jealousy" and the other you did... like u said yourself sometimes but not always... dont you think... that if it were jealousy... that you would have had it with both men? hummm.... or did one give you reason for doubt? an in the end.... after both were over with for some reason or another which one did you desire most ? i mean the traits.. that you would like to find in the next person as well? im gussing... the one whom you didnt find yourself to be so called "jealous" so is that jealousy? or is it a vibe that you had cause something was really wrong in the first place? im thinking you may not be a jealous person if it doesnt happen everytime

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Mon 05/05/08 06:00 PM
good thread! substance here..... well for me id have to be honest and say no im not jealous unless for some reason given a reason to be? make sense? like for instance.... and i dont know if its really jealousy or not... if your partner tells ill say "his" friends that are female happy birthday but for your birthday doesnt come back when he said he would and never told you happy birthday? or when time is consumed all twords others and never on you... it may not be jealousy but longing for someone to love you and realizing that you dont matter? that has less to do with jealousy and more to do with the fact that the relationship isnt' working. If the person you are with has time for everyone but you, jealousy is the least of your problems.

kendrab90 Joined Tue 04/15/08 Posts: 1917	Mon 05/05/08 06:01 PM
I'm good i want accept the person i get involved with and understand things about them. Not persecute but hey that only goes so far

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Mon 05/05/08 06:01 PM
Thats what they say! Where do you draw your line? I'm not a jealous guy but some are very,women also, are you???? Gave up on it...jealous is stupid anyway, who cares. But love is rare, so jealousy follows lust just like love follows the lottery.

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 06:02 PM Edited by buttons on Mon 05/05/08 06:04 PM
see jen i dissagree with the next to part..... and agree with all the rest u said but a partner should be just as important.... for really they should know you best... somethings you just dont tell your ma or kids

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Mon 05/05/08 06:02 PM
think about it though.... if you have say been with two men that u cared about the same..... and one you did not have this feeling twords that u think is "jealousy" and the other you did... like u said yourself sometimes but not always... dont you think... that if it were jealousy... that you would have had it with both men? hummm.... or did one give you reason for doubt? an in the end.... after both were over with for some reason or another which one did you desire most ? i mean the traits.. that you would like to find in the next person as well? im gussing... the one whom you didnt find yourself to be so called "jealous" so is that jealousy? or is it a vibe that you had cause something was really wrong in the first place? im thinking you may not be a jealous person if it doesnt happen everytime I follow my heart and take note of redflags.

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Mon 05/05/08 06:03 PM
Thats what they say! Where do you draw your line? I'm not a jealous guy but some are very,women also, are you???? Gave up on it...jealous is stupid anyway, who cares. But love is rare, so jealousy follows lust just like love follows the lottery. tax free

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 06:05 PM
ok chuck... but some dont call them red flags but consider your red flags as jealousy

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 06:06 PM
ps did i tell ya i liked your thread? its pretty deep

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Mon 05/05/08 06:07 PM
ps did i tell ya i liked your thread? its pretty deep lol

jenleah32 Joined Sat 09/22/07 Posts: 4577	Mon 05/05/08 06:08 PM
see jen i dissagree with the next to part..... and agree with all the rest u said but a partner should be just as important.... for really they should know you best... somethings you just dont tell your ma or kids Yes this is true but at the same time family and kids were there b4 they were and therefore above all kids if not anything else do come first...and I do agree that there a lot of things you don't tell your kids, but I never said to do that and I tell my parents everything...Just the relationship we have...

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 06:11 PM Edited by buttons on Mon 05/05/08 06:12 PM
but jen a partner is supposed to be with you till the end and not always do the kids come first... its rare but it does happen lol of course not in my case nor did i ever get my white picket fence yet..... anyway

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Mon 05/05/08 06:14 PM
but jen a partner is supposed to be with you till the end and not always do the kids come first... its rare but it does happen lol of course not in my case nor did i ever get my white picket fence yet..... anyway not fence "yet"

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 06:17 PM
someday someday chuck

jenleah32 Joined Sat 09/22/07 Posts: 4577	Mon 05/05/08 06:19 PM
but jen a partner is supposed to be with you till the end and not always do the kids come first... its rare but it does happen lol of course not in my case nor did i ever get my white picket fence yet..... anyway Well all I can say is my son comes b4 anyone I don't care who you are and yes a partner is suppose to be there with you till the end but in reality they have a life too and it doesn't revolve around me...If he is a true partner he will realize this and be there regardless...

buttons Joined Mon 11/06/06 Posts: 25783	Mon 05/05/08 06:23 PM
of course if u have to choose... your kids come first...... but should you even have to choose?