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I know after two or three hours if there will be a date number two. Sometimes all it takes is 15 minutes...... 
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I recently had a woman tell me that se didn't want to see me any more because she found out that I was dating (not sleeping with, just seeing) more than just her. It was only our second date. I'm wondering if many people out there feel the same way, that a person should only date one other person at a time, or like me, see as many as they have the opportunity to and go exclusive only once you establish real feelings for an individual. What says the Vox Populi? I believe people should date only one at a time. To many people lead others on and let them get attatched and think that thats ok because they have somone else. To me it's wrong letting somone get close to you and then after some time. Go hey cya i have someone else  Wait till it happens to you and then you will see how somone you might of dumped felt. The one thing that is the biggest problem is that most don't care about how people feel. Now if they both know it and there ok with it? at least your giving them a choice to what direction they want to go with it. Now brings up the part where most will not say there datting somone else and them are what i call players and a wast of time... The key words here is "leading others on", if you let them know that you are talking to more than them then that is not leading them on. Also, you do not say to all of them " I love you" or " I want you to be mine" ect.... You just talk and get to know them. If something sparks then consider talking to them about exclusivity. Leading others on is wrong but talking to more than one if done with honesty and forthrightness is not leading anyone on. JMO of course |
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It is my preference to date only one person at a time. I would let it play out and not be confused or compared with others. Honestly? If I guy I went out with was seeing multiple people I would stop seeing him too. I don't think that for me it is any more than preferring a "same preferenced" person. That is your preference and although I respect that, I would find that doing it your way would be too limiting. As someone else said on this thread..."Variety is the spice of life but how can you experience the spice, without the variety?" do you eat pickles and ice cream, and cheesecake, and steak, and cajun, and thai, and mexican, and pastries...all in one bite? Enjoy each seperately. You can't enjoy something when it is tainted with something else. Oh, Lily, here you go again, trying to foist your opinions off on others as if they are the laws of nature. When are you going to realize that people are individuals and that just because their morals and values don't jibe with your own, it doesn't necessarily make them a bad person? Well, you're still very young, so there's hope that as you get older, wisdom will descend upon you, eventually. |
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It is my preference to date only one person at a time. I would let it play out and not be confused or compared with others. Honestly? If I guy I went out with was seeing multiple people I would stop seeing him too. I don't think that for me it is any more than preferring a "same preferenced" person. That is your preference and although I respect that, I would find that doing it your way would be too limiting. As someone else said on this thread..."Variety is the spice of life but how can you experience the spice, without the variety?" do you eat pickles and ice cream, and cheesecake, and steak, and cajun, and thai, and mexican, and pastries...all in one bite? Enjoy each seperately. You can't enjoy something when it is tainted with something else. Oh, Lily, here you go again, trying to foist your opinions off on others as if they are the laws of nature. When are you going to realize that people are individuals and that just because their morals and values don't jibe with your own, it doesn't necessarily make them a bad person? Well, you're still very young, so there's hope that as you get older, wisdom will descend upon you, eventually. Where is it I am pushing my values off? Was I simply asking a question....OBVIOUSLY A QUESTION YOU ARE AFRAID TO ANSWER. So go ahead and eat your curry flavored ice cream with relish topping, and get back to me on how awesome it taste... 
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I know after two or three hours if there will be a date number two. Sometimes all it takes is 15 minutes...... I know better then to trust that instinct,  five failed relationships later. It takes alot more time than that to get to know someone well enough to consider dating them let alone a full blown relationship. My instincts have served me well but not when it comes to dating, I need more time then that.
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I know after two or three hours if there will be a date number two. Sometimes all it takes is 15 minutes...... I know better then to trust that instinct, five failed relationships later. It takes alot more time than that to get to know someone well enough to consider dating them let alone a full blown relationship. My instincts have served me well but not when it comes to dating, I need more time then that. I'm saying after 15 minutes I've already known there WON'T be a second date. |
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Enjoy each seperately. You can't enjoy something when it is tainted with something else. The quote above is not a question. It is your opinion and the last thing that you wrote. I respect your right to have your opinion, I just don't agree with it. And as an aside, hun...nothing that you can conceive to ask me will instill anything like fear in me. Ever. |
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I have no problem with it what so ever, dating or sleeping with someone else or if the person I was dating was also doing the same...should it come to a point where we both decided on having a serious monogamous relationship well then thats another story.
Anyone who is that uptight and possessive off the bat isnt for me. |
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I know after two or three hours if there will be a date number two. Sometimes all it takes is 15 minutes...... I know better then to trust that instinct, five failed relationships later. It takes alot more time than that to get to know someone well enough to consider dating them let alone a full blown relationship. My instincts have served me well but not when it comes to dating, I need more time then that. I'm saying after 15 minutes I've already known there WON'T be a second date. Oh sorry misunderstood there 
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Enjoy each seperately. You can't enjoy something when it is tainted with something else. The quote above is not a question. It is your opinion and the last thing that you wrote. I respect your right to have your opinion, I just don't agree with it. And as an aside, hun...nothing that you can conceive to ask me will instill anything like fear in me. Ever. Ya, I can tell by the way you continually pick me out of a crowd of many with the same views to demean my opinion that it has no effect on you....**insert eye rolling emoticon here** |
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Oh sorry misunderstood there No worries, I wasn't fully clear...
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I would be worried what others thought about me if I was dating several men. I wonder what was going on in their minds. They probably would be thinking "Wow, she's a w****!" or "She can't keep a man." Then I would worry about developing feelings for several of them. Having to choose who I would want to be with. Like I said to much controvesary.
If a man I was seeing was dating another woman or several more. I would be worried he may have feelings for another woman and it would be tragic if I felt something for him and he not felt the same way back. I would feel like I was taking another womans man. Still be labeled a w****. Nope. Too much controversary. |
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I am just hurt no one laughed at my "sloppy joes" joke....
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I am just hurt no one laughed at my "sloppy joes" joke....
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I have no problem with it what so ever, dating or sleeping with someone else or if the person I was dating was also doing the same...should it come to a point where we both decided on having a serious monogamous relationship well then thats another story. Anyone who is that uptight and possessive off the bat isnt for me. I draw the line at sleeping with multiple partners, myself. I feel that once you get to know a person well enough that you want to take it to that level, that you should be exclusively hers. I guess that I'm kinda old fashioned in that respect. |
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I have no problem with it what so ever, dating or sleeping with someone else or if the person I was dating was also doing the same...should it come to a point where we both decided on having a serious monogamous relationship well then thats another story. Anyone who is that uptight and possessive off the bat isnt for me.
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I recently had a woman tell me that se didn't want to see me any more because she found out that I was dating (not sleeping with, just seeing) more than just her. It was only our second date. I'm wondering if many people out there feel the same way, that a person should only date one other person at a time, or like me, see as many as they have the opportunity to and go exclusive only once you establish real feelings for an individual. What says the Vox Populi? I believe people should date only one at a time. To many people lead others on and let them get attatched and think that thats ok because they have somone else. To me it's wrong letting somone get close to you and then after some time. Go hey cya i have someone else Wait till it happens to you and then you will see how somone you might of dumped felt. The one thing that is the biggest problem is that most don't care about how people feel. Now if they both know it and there ok with it? at least your giving them a choice to what direction they want to go with it. Now brings up the part where most will not say there datting somone else and them are what i call players and a wast of time... The key words here is "leading others on", if you let them know that you are talking to more than them then that is not leading them on. Also, you do not say to all of them " I love you" or " I want you to be mine" ect.... You just talk and get to know them. If something sparks then consider talking to them about exclusivity. Leading others on is wrong but talking to more than one if done with honesty and forthrightness is not leading anyone on. JMO of course I agree  being on the net is where alot of this would take place where people will say youe the only one that there interested in and alot of the time that is not true. just be honest and upfront with everyone and you shouldn't have any problems. I keep things real and if i have an interest in someone. I don't need to be spending my time trying to get to know someone else if i click with the one i'm interested in. And i tell who i'm interested in that i don't need any others attention. Why make things complicated when it's hard enough as it is just trying to get to know one person as it is on the net... |
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I would be worried what others thought about me if I was dating several men. I wonder what was going on in their minds. They probably would be thinking "Wow, she's a w****!" or "She can't keep a man." Then I would worry about developing feelings for several of them. Having to choose who I would want to be with. Like I said to much controvesary. If a man I was seeing was dating another woman or several more. I would be worried he may have feelings for another woman and it would be tragic if I felt something for him and he not felt the same way back. I would feel like I was taking another womans man. Still be labeled a w****. Nope. Too much controversary. I dont date men who think like that... |
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I am just hurt no one laughed at my "sloppy joes" joke.... Thank you, doll! |
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One at a time please... otherwise it could bring drama into my life and I dont do drama
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