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I recently had a woman tell me that se didn't want to see me any more because she found out that I was dating (not sleeping with, just seeing) more than just her. It was only our second date.
I'm wondering if many people out there feel the same way, that a person should only date one other person at a time, or like me, see as many as they have the opportunity to and go exclusive only once you establish real feelings for an individual. What says the Vox Populi? |
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i agree wholeheartedly with you
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How are you going to know which one is the one you want to finally be with.I say date more than one.
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I recently had a woman tell me that se didn't want to see me any more because she found out that I was dating (not sleeping with, just seeing) more than just her. It was only our second date. I'm wondering if many people out there feel the same way, that a person should only date one other person at a time, or like me, see as many as they have the opportunity to and go exclusive only once you establish real feelings for an individual. What says the Vox Populi? Eh, that's a tough call. The fact of the matter is that dating is a numbers game. I don't see anything wrong with setting up multiple dates if you are able too and seeing what kind of connections you make. It's sometimes a hard call to judge at what point someone is overreacting. Like I don't think you did anything wrong here but I can see her side of things too. |
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The bachelor does it no problems.
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It is my preference to date only one person at a time. I would let it play out and not be confused or compared with others.
Honestly? If I guy I went out with was seeing multiple people I would stop seeing him too. I don't think that for me it is any more than preferring a "same preferenced" person. |
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Nothing wrong with it as long as you're open about. The answer is penicillin. The question is, What do you give to the man who has everything?"
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I think if they live farther away that it would be expected but if you live in the same town I want to know that it's just me that you are seeing.
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variety is the spice of life...
 and how else are you gonna know what spice you like unless you try a variety.. right? lol
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I think as long as your upfront with the fact that you are dating more the just one person, its okay and then it gives the person the option to either keep seeing you or moving on.
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I believe one should be honest and cover this subject with someone right away so that there are no misunderstandings. I always let them know that I talk to others. If that is too much to handle then they need to move on.
The connection is either going to happen or it isn't, forcing someone to see only you is not going to MAKE the connection happen. JMO |
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I would only date one person at a time. Too much controversary to date more than one. I wouldn't go out with a guy that is dating more than one woman.
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How are you going to know which one is the one you want to finally be with.I say date more than one. That's easy to answer: If I feel "special feelings" for a woman, then I go exclusive with her, immediately upon recognizing those feelings within myself. You can't miss it, really. The feelings sort of hit you like a brick to the head... 
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I believe one should be honest and cover this subject with someone right away so that there are no misunderstandings. I always let them know that I talk to others. If that is too much to handle then they need to move on. The connection is either going to happen or it isn't, forcing someone to see only you is not going to MAKE the connection happen. JMO I agree! |
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Edited by
TheShadow
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Tue 04/29/08 09:52 AM
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I recently had a woman tell me that se didn't want to see me any more because she found out that I was dating (not sleeping with, just seeing) more than just her. It was only our second date. I'm wondering if many people out there feel the same way, that a person should only date one other person at a time, or like me, see as many as they have the opportunity to and go exclusive only once you establish real feelings for an individual. What says the Vox Populi? I believe people should date only one at a time. To many people lead others on and let them get attatched and think that thats ok because they have somone else. To me it's wrong letting somone get close to you and then after some time. Go hey cya i have someone else  Wait till it happens to you and then you will see how somone you might of dumped felt. The one thing that is the biggest problem is that most don't care about how people feel. Now if they both know it and there ok with it? at least your giving them a choice to what direction they want to go with it. Now brings up the part where most will not say there datting somone else and them are what i call players and a wast of time... |
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I won't see a guy who sees more than one person.
I know how it gets, I've done it before, and while I'm with one I'm thinking about the other. One the phone with one, and emailing with another. I'm a phenominal person, and deserve to be treated like it, and in return will treat you the same. I'm not judging people who do it, but I won't give you the time of day if you do. |
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It is my preference to date only one person at a time. I would let it play out and not be confused or compared with others. Honestly? If I guy I went out with was seeing multiple people I would stop seeing him too. I don't think that for me it is any more than preferring a "same preferenced" person. That is your preference and although I respect that, I would find that doing it your way would be too limiting. As someone else said on this thread..."Variety is the spice of life but how can you experience the spice, without the variety?" |
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Edited by
Lily0923
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Tue 04/29/08 09:55 AM
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It is my preference to date only one person at a time. I would let it play out and not be confused or compared with others. Honestly? If I guy I went out with was seeing multiple people I would stop seeing him too. I don't think that for me it is any more than preferring a "same preferenced" person. That is your preference and although I respect that, I would find that doing it your way would be too limiting. As someone else said on this thread..."Variety is the spice of life but how can you experience the spice, without the variety?" do you eat pickles and ice cream, and cheesecake, and steak, and cajun, and thai, and mexican, and pastries...all in one bite? Enjoy each seperately. You can't enjoy something when it is tainted with something else. |
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I recently had a woman tell me that se didn't want to see me any more because she found out that I was dating (not sleeping with, just seeing) more than just her. It was only our second date. I'm wondering if many people out there feel the same way, that a person should only date one other person at a time, or like me, see as many as they have the opportunity to and go exclusive only once you establish real feelings for an individual. What says the Vox Populi? I believe people should date only one at a time. To many people lead others on and let them get attatched and think that thats ok because they have somone else. To me it's wrong letting somone get close to you and then after some time. Go hey cya i have someone else Wait till it happens to you and then you will see how somone you might of dumped felt. The one thing that is the biggest problem is that most don't care about how people feel. Now if they both know it and there ok with it? at least your giving them a choice to what direction they want to go with it. Now brings up the part where most will not say there datting somone else and them are what i call players and a wast of time... I agree with most of what you wrote. I am not a "playa", just a guy who has had the opportunity to have dates with a few different people during the same time period. If I was to become enamored with a particular woman, then I'd most happily go exclusive with her. But if you think about it, one date or even two dates really isn't enough time spent to decide to date that particular person only. If your options are open, why not take advantage of those options? |
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That is your preference and although I respect that, I would find that doing it your way would be too limiting. As someone else said on this thread..."Variety is the spice of life but how can you experience the spice, without the variety?" You know.... I never once felt "limited". None of my dates ever said they felt that way. My current SO didn't either. If you feel limited by exploring your feelings over one woman.... that might mean to me a whole lot more than it does to you. Of course, I can tell pretty quickly if a date is worth exploring or not. Variety is the spice of life, but variety in dating is not at all spicy to me, unless you mean the kind where you go to the doctor, take medications, or just plain get "sloppy joes".  Simply put? I trust my instincts and have no need to date a whole bunch of people to decide who I like. I know after two or three hours if there will be a date number two. |
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