Topic: Serious Question for Men =)
Coolguy81's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:12 PM

Weight gain is not always about eating twinkies. There are metabolism issues, hereditary, medications, physical problems.grumble



And excuses.....the morbid obesity of this planet is caused by fast food and a sedentary lifestyle, not "hereditary issues".

Before fast food and computers, the United States had an obesity rate in the single digits, now we are looking at around 40% or more of the adult population. This is not explained by "steroids","metabolism". "thyroid problems" or any other garbage that is being pushed by popular media to blame everything and anything outside of the person pulling up to the McDonalds window every day like clockwork.

I just went to a lazer tag match the other night, where I was the oldest one, the general age being about 15-20, and there were less then 10 people out of 70 that could be considered of healthy weight. I watched kids drink soda after soda after soda.

What makes it even worse is that people get that way, and then dont want to do anything that might require work to fix it. Its always a pill, a magic shake, some stupid $500 a month magic diet, gastric bypass, etc etc.

If anyone has ever watched "Biggest Loser", to lose weight, it just takes a little determination and dedication, and the weight will go. I have no respect for someone who takes the easy way out of anything. If they wont dedicate an hour a day to the gym, and 30 minutes to prepare a healthy meal, I want no part of that relationship. Id be too worried that a problem would develop, and theyd go for the quick fix of walking out.

BetterDazes's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:13 PM



nope,but if ya go out to dinner do ya eat like a bird now??


yup pretty much lol. Bonus, I am a cheap date =)


Cam is a cheap date too...have you guys met...I think there is love in the air.... bigsmile


who is this Cam and how can I meet him lol

BetterDazes's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:14 PM


Weight gain is not always about eating twinkies. There are metabolism issues, hereditary, medications, physical problems.grumble



And excuses.....the morbid obesity of this planet is caused by fast food and a sedentary lifestyle, not "hereditary issues".

Before fast food and computers, the United States had an obesity rate in the single digits, now we are looking at around 40% or more of the adult population. This is not explained by "steroids","metabolism". "thyroid problems" or any other garbage that is being pushed by popular media to blame everything and anything outside of the person pulling up to the McDonalds window every day like clockwork.

I just went to a lazer tag match the other night, where I was the oldest one, the general age being about 15-20, and there were less then 10 people out of 70 that could be considered of healthy weight. I watched kids drink soda after soda after soda.

What makes it even worse is that people get that way, and then dont want to do anything that might require work to fix it. Its always a pill, a magic shake, some stupid $500 a month magic diet, gastric bypass, etc etc.

If anyone has ever watched "Biggest Loser", to lose weight, it just takes a little determination and dedication, and the weight will go. I have no respect for someone who takes the easy way out of anything. If they wont dedicate an hour a day to the gym, and 30 minutes to prepare a healthy meal, I want no part of that relationship. Id be too worried that a problem would develop, and theyd go for the quick fix of walking out.


I CHANGED MY MIND, YOU ARE A PIG. GOOD LUCK IN FINDING ANYONE WHO WILL DATE YOU!:tongue:

evilolive's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:15 PM


i had this surgery 2 and a half years ago- best thing i ever did.
i lost 150 lbs.
best of luck to you, you made the right choice, who cares what any guy thinks about it. flowerforyou


And you look beautiful too!:heart:


blushing ty

Lily0923's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:16 PM




nope,but if ya go out to dinner do ya eat like a bird now??


yup pretty much lol. Bonus, I am a cheap date =)


Cam is a cheap date too...have you guys met...I think there is love in the air.... bigsmile


who is this Cam and how can I meet him lol


He's the one that asked if you ate like a bird.... He's a sweetheart...and a cheap date....

Lily0923's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:17 PM



Weight gain is not always about eating twinkies. There are metabolism issues, hereditary, medications, physical problems.grumble



And excuses.....the morbid obesity of this planet is caused by fast food and a sedentary lifestyle, not "hereditary issues".

Before fast food and computers, the United States had an obesity rate in the single digits, now we are looking at around 40% or more of the adult population. This is not explained by "steroids","metabolism". "thyroid problems" or any other garbage that is being pushed by popular media to blame everything and anything outside of the person pulling up to the McDonalds window every day like clockwork.

I just went to a lazer tag match the other night, where I was the oldest one, the general age being about 15-20, and there were less then 10 people out of 70 that could be considered of healthy weight. I watched kids drink soda after soda after soda.

What makes it even worse is that people get that way, and then dont want to do anything that might require work to fix it. Its always a pill, a magic shake, some stupid $500 a month magic diet, gastric bypass, etc etc.

If anyone has ever watched "Biggest Loser", to lose weight, it just takes a little determination and dedication, and the weight will go. I have no respect for someone who takes the easy way out of anything. If they wont dedicate an hour a day to the gym, and 30 minutes to prepare a healthy meal, I want no part of that relationship. Id be too worried that a problem would develop, and theyd go for the quick fix of walking out.


I CHANGED MY MIND, YOU ARE A PIG. GOOD LUCK IN FINDING ANYONE WHO WILL DATE YOU!:tongue:


The problem is you can't fix stupid.....sick

Poetrywriter's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:18 PM



Let me ask ya something. I have had gastric by pass surgery. Do you feel that is a turn off? Please give your honest opinion.

Thanks, and don't ya dare ask how much I weigh (yet) =)



Honestly, yeah, I feel its a huge turn off. Resorting to scientific means to lose weight speaks volumes of an individuals persona. If one cannot muster to will power to stop shoving twinkies down ones throat to save their own life, then how on earth can you expect them to muster the will power for a relationship or anything else it entails.


You know over weight people have many health issues. Some physical and some mental. Most over weight people do not CHOOSE to be that way. But I would not expect all to understand this. And I was asking for HONEST opinions here which you did give and I thank you for it.

*note to self, DO NOT date this guy!laugh laugh laugh


Pay no attention to what he says. He has a negative attitude in other threads as well. I say more power to you for thinking about yourself and your kids!! flowerforyou flowerforyou

BetterDazes's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:18 PM




Weight gain is not always about eating twinkies. There are metabolism issues, hereditary, medications, physical problems.grumble



And excuses.....the morbid obesity of this planet is caused by fast food and a sedentary lifestyle, not "hereditary issues".

Before fast food and computers, the United States had an obesity rate in the single digits, now we are looking at around 40% or more of the adult population. This is not explained by "steroids","metabolism". "thyroid problems" or any other garbage that is being pushed by popular media to blame everything and anything outside of the person pulling up to the McDonalds window every day like clockwork.

I just went to a lazer tag match the other night, where I was the oldest one, the general age being about 15-20, and there were less then 10 people out of 70 that could be considered of healthy weight. I watched kids drink soda after soda after soda.

What makes it even worse is that people get that way, and then dont want to do anything that might require work to fix it. Its always a pill, a magic shake, some stupid $500 a month magic diet, gastric bypass, etc etc.

If anyone has ever watched "Biggest Loser", to lose weight, it just takes a little determination and dedication, and the weight will go. I have no respect for someone who takes the easy way out of anything. If they wont dedicate an hour a day to the gym, and 30 minutes to prepare a healthy meal, I want no part of that relationship. Id be too worried that a problem would develop, and theyd go for the quick fix of walking out.


I CHANGED MY MIND, YOU ARE A PIG. GOOD LUCK IN FINDING ANYONE WHO WILL DATE YOU!:tongue:


The problem is you can't fix stupid.....sick



laugh laugh laughI really like ya!

BetterDazes's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:19 PM




Let me ask ya something. I have had gastric by pass surgery. Do you feel that is a turn off? Please give your honest opinion.

Thanks, and don't ya dare ask how much I weigh (yet) =)



Honestly, yeah, I feel its a huge turn off. Resorting to scientific means to lose weight speaks volumes of an individuals persona. If one cannot muster to will power to stop shoving twinkies down ones throat to save their own life, then how on earth can you expect them to muster the will power for a relationship or anything else it entails.


You know over weight people have many health issues. Some physical and some mental. Most over weight people do not CHOOSE to be that way. But I would not expect all to understand this. And I was asking for HONEST opinions here which you did give and I thank you for it.

*note to self, DO NOT date this guy!laugh laugh laugh


Pay no attention to what he says. He has a negative attitude in other threads as well. I say more power to you for thinking about yourself and your kids!! flowerforyou flowerforyou


yeah that was my main motivation. I know my soon to be ex, 16 days and counting, won't be in their lives for long, so I had to make sure I was! Thanks! =)

Coolguy81's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:23 PM


You know over weight people have many health issues. Some physical and some mental. Most over weight people do not CHOOSE to be that way. But I would not expect all to understand this. And I was asking for HONEST opinions here which you did give and I thank you for it.

*note to self, DO NOT date this guy!laugh laugh laugh


Yeah, actually, almost all overweight people do choose to be that way. I was overweight at one point, and you know what, I got that way by eating garbage and not excercising. It was not my Mom, my depression, my thyroid, blah blah blah. Want to know how I fixed that, I stopped blaming everyone and everything else, and my "genetics" for being heavy, and I changed my diet, started running and working out....and I lost the weight.

My ex mother in law is morbidly obese, and she has a million health problems, so many that she was able to get on disability for it. She claims she "cant" lose weight, and doesnt know what the problem is. Yet, she eats out 3 or more times a week, sits around the house every day, and fries 90% of the things she eats.....how exactly is it NOT her fault that shes huge?

BetterDazes's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:25 PM



You know over weight people have many health issues. Some physical and some mental. Most over weight people do not CHOOSE to be that way. But I would not expect all to understand this. And I was asking for HONEST opinions here which you did give and I thank you for it.

*note to self, DO NOT date this guy!laugh laugh laugh


Yeah, actually, almost all overweight people do choose to be that way. I was overweight at one point, and you know what, I got that way by eating garbage and not excercising. It was not my Mom, my depression, my thyroid, blah blah blah. Want to know how I fixed that, I stopped blaming everyone and everything else, and my "genetics" for being heavy, and I changed my diet, started running and working out....and I lost the weight.

My ex mother in law is morbidly obese, and she has a million health problems, so many that she was able to get on disability for it. She claims she "cant" lose weight, and doesnt know what the problem is. Yet, she eats out 3 or more times a week, sits around the house every day, and fries 90% of the things she eats.....how exactly is it NOT her fault that shes huge?



I can't hear you, I can't hear you, I can't hear you...


Did that work, did the A$$ go away yet?:tongue:

Lily0923's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:28 PM

I can't hear you, I can't hear you, I can't hear you...


Did that work, did the A$$ go away yet?:tongue:


He's a freak....

just say

flowerforyou I like turtles.. flowerforyou

It confuses him and he goes away...:wink:

Coolguy81's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:29 PM


The problem is you can't fix stupid.....sick


I can assure you, stupid is not a word that could ever be used to describe me. Then again, I guess "stupid", "ignorant" and those types of general adjectives have been being applied to people who refused to cow tow to popular opinion through out history, including most every man/woman of innovation or great genius who ever lived.

I stopped caring who's toes I walked on somewhere around kindergarten.

Lily0923's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:31 PM



The problem is you can't fix stupid.....sick


I can assure you, stupid is not a word that could ever be used to describe me. Then again, I guess "stupid", "ignorant" and those types of general adjectives have been being applied to people who refused to cow tow to popular opinion through out history, including most every man/woman of innovation or great genius who ever lived.

I stopped caring who's toes I walked on somewhere around kindergarten.


flowerforyou I like turtles. flowerforyou

Coolguy81's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:32 PM


I CHANGED MY MIND, YOU ARE A PIG. GOOD LUCK IN FINDING ANYONE WHO WILL DATE YOU!:tongue:


Im glad your opinion, or anyone on this site for that matter, is representitive of the general female populous.

Besides, if you were an accurate representation, Id rather die single then be with anyone who takes issue with the truth in favor of politically correct no fault coddling.

Benzy940's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:34 PM


Weight gain is not always about eating twinkies. There are metabolism issues, hereditary, medications, physical problems.grumble



And excuses.....the morbid obesity of this planet is caused by fast food and a sedentary lifestyle, not "hereditary issues".

Before fast food and computers, the United States had an obesity rate in the single digits, now we are looking at around 40% or more of the adult population. This is not explained by "steroids","metabolism". "thyroid problems" or any other garbage that is being pushed by popular media to blame everything and anything outside of the person pulling up to the McDonalds window every day like clockwork.

I just went to a lazer tag match the other night, where I was the oldest one, the general age being about 15-20, and there were less then 10 people out of 70 that could be considered of healthy weight. I watched kids drink soda after soda after soda.

What makes it even worse is that people get that way, and then dont want to do anything that might require work to fix it. Its always a pill, a magic shake, some stupid $500 a month magic diet, gastric bypass, etc etc.

If anyone has ever watched "Biggest Loser", to lose weight, it just takes a little determination and dedication, and the weight will go. I have no respect for someone who takes the easy way out of anything. If they wont dedicate an hour a day to the gym, and 30 minutes to prepare a healthy meal, I want no part of that relationship. Id be too worried that a problem would develop, and theyd go for the quick fix of walking out.


It is truly sad how very closed minded you are, I would hate to hear your precious opinion on any other important issues.

It is imperative that u understand she needed help and she reached out and received it. It has very little bearing on her eating habits or the quality of her character. As someone stated earlier there are many addictions and food happens to be right up there with gambling, drugs etc.

Being overweight does not make a person less than or weak individuals and she could be a very active individual and exercise daily and still have extra pounds, your synopsis of overweight people is ridiculous and offensive.....

Did something happen to you in your childhood and adolescence, maybe even your adult life cause ya seem quite bitter.


Have a drinker and a smokin and a flowerforyou and chill.

Lily0923's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:35 PM



I CHANGED MY MIND, YOU ARE A PIG. GOOD LUCK IN FINDING ANYONE WHO WILL DATE YOU!:tongue:


Im glad your opinion, or anyone on this site for that matter, is representitive of the general female populous.

Besides, if you were an accurate representation, Id rather die single then be with anyone who takes issue with the truth in favor of politically correct no fault coddling.


flowerforyou Do you like turtles? I like turtles. flowerforyou

Coolguy81's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:36 PM

He's a freak....

just say

flowerforyou I like turtles.. flowerforyou

It confuses him and he goes away...:wink:


Or maybe your childish level of arrogance is being fulfilled by a simple coincidence. Then again, those with large holes in their self esteem often have the inability to consider any possibilities which do not coincide with their craved position within the center of all action.

Lily0923's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:36 PM


He's a freak....

just say

flowerforyou I like turtles.. flowerforyou

It confuses him and he goes away...:wink:


Or maybe your childish level of arrogance is being fulfilled by a simple coincidence. Then again, those with large holes in their self esteem often have the inability to consider any possibilities which do not coincide with their craved position within the center of all action.


flowerforyou awe, I knew you liked turtles too. flowerforyou

Benzy940's photo
Sun 04/27/08 05:43 PM



The problem is you can't fix stupid.....sick


I can assure you, stupid is not a word that could ever be used to describe me. Then again, I guess "stupid", "ignorant" and those types of general adjectives have been being applied to people who refused to cow tow to popular opinion through out history, including most every man/woman of innovation or great genius who ever lived.





Damn I knew his opinion ran deeper than just her question........."I stopped caring who's toes I walked on somewhere around kindergarten."

Please go seek out some help to help you work through your issues....

I knew I was typing to slow.....I