AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH, couldnt place her nor understand the left handed remark - we all try humor but nothing in her response was funny.... now I remember... another one of those, the wheels on the bus go round and round, round and round, round and round

okay stop whining and *****ing about your mother. be glad you have one.
so she was abusive to you when u were a young pup. **** happens in life.

go to your local mental health facility and get some advice on how to cope with her now that she has reentered your life.

my mother is dead, and i wish she was back. and as i say this i realize that not all of us love our mother's. but some of us do.

Understand what you are saying, completely.

My mom kicked me out of the house at 15, because I got pregnant, actually she was never a mother to me at all, she favored, and still does, my 3 brothers. ALL the things she did to me in my life, didnt do anything but make me a stronger mother/ woman, and she cant stand that to this day!!! I have always been independent, at 17 got my first apartment, put myself through college, and made my own way, without any help from anyone, and no help was even offered. I have raised 2 of the best kids in the world, and like I said, all the hell she put me through, made me who I am today. If that were my mother that needed me like you say your mom is doing, I would have a hard time answering the phone, and I dont answer the phone when my mom calls me either... I know that you are suppose to forgive and move-on, and I know that is my mother too, but damn it enough was enough, and I have had all I can take from her, and will not put myself in a position to where she will need me for anything!!!!!! Some might say I will go to hell for the way I feel towards my mother, but all I can say is, I will see her there and I am ok with that.

wow.. not only brutal and uncalled for, but as far from helpful or supportive as a person could get.

I am very happy to hear that YOU had a good relationship with YOUR mother and that YOU miss HER. And I not only applaud that (sincerely) but I am happy to hear of it.

However....That has NOTHING to do with THIS post. The relationship was/is not only VERY different... and to be so incredibly insensitive to the hurt, pain & confusion of the OP is just plain wrong.

Angel..you need to find something that puts you back on track to taking care of yourself..
sure you want your mothers love, who doesnt? but this isnt the way its going to happen for you and youre going to end up ruining your life and the life of your child if you dont turn from this destructive path you are on now..

"There Is No Peace Tonight:("

The night falls gentle upon the earth
Within the heart of a terror~filled child
But a sentry~like awareness of you
I can hear;every noise,every movement
Within the house ever keenly aware
There is no peace this night Mommy.

A silent prayer is taken upon the wings
Of my wishful compassionate mourning dove
Who waters the ground below with its tears
Watching puddles form where each drop lands
Forming a new ocean of sorrow for me
There is no peace this night Mommy.

The tender child draws itself inward
Into a tiny ball as if to disappear
... footsteps are heard in the hall
"please no"is whispered,"please go"I prayed
As the hateful doorknob quietly turns
There is no peace this night Mommy.

The dove soars higher,sobs within its breast
Penetrating clouds,gliding upon on wind
Seeking its source;looking for the light
Knowing there will be no peace this night.
The shadow falls across clenched fists.

Tousled curls,drawn up limbs,eyes squeezed shut
Against the scene about to unfold again
Scarcely breathing,knowing,stealing away
Feverishly and earnestly winging to-wards..
There is no peace this night Mommy.

The rainbow of light and celestial destination,
The dove contracts and gasps with the pain
Of its little charges spirit and delivers the message
To the being of Light and Beauty and Hope
Who swoops down to grasp the hand of the child
And deliver its pain to another dimension
To be stored until the child is stronger
And able to face the reality of evil on the earth.

The angel mercifully cradles her charge,
Gently rocking,while tears stream down her face...
Mixing with the silent tears of the child.
The dove quietly sings its grievous song of mourning
For the lost innocence of this precious child.
There is no peace this night Mommy.

Forgivingly submitted by Cybear 2/5/07
Only by God's grace;I've learned to forgive.Amen!

{{{{{{{{{ Angel }}}}}}}}}

First, my sincerest condolences for all that you & your brother have been thru at the hands of the woman you call mom

Sweetie... I am glad you vented.. and I hope you will indeed listen to some of the sage advice others have offered you here. You HAVE paid all & any obligations you may feel apply between you & your "mother". AND.. truth be told, there is NO positive good for ANYONE to be had if you continue to help her.

Yes.. I know that a good hearted person will always think: "Well, maybe this time it will be different" or "Maybe it is my task to help her get on her feet/get her life together".. or even "What kind of person would I be if I turned my back & resources on someone in need... especially a relative".. Yep.. bet you've had those and a million other thoughts that all stir feelings of guilt within you.

I come to you with these words that are indeed pure of intent and for the Highest Good of ALL: It is time for her to make it on her own. You helping her is NOT helping her. Please know that you can & should hold you head up high as you show her the door. Often *tough love* is hardest on those having to enact it.. just know that you are fully supported by those of us here

Blessings

My mother called two days ago telling me that she was leaving Florida...she couldnt take it anymore...So she drove all day yesterday and arrived in town around 1:30 am...she stayed the night with a friend.....and first thing this morning she calls wanting an appt with me today at my shop....but I couldnt get her in bc Im booked until 7 tonight...she said she was going to stay at my house tonight so she can see my nephew(her only grandchild)...but people my mom makes me crazy...so think about me when you are sleeping oh so soundly and I have my mother in my bed..please
Is it wrong for me to hope she wont ask if she can live at my house for a while...Im sick of fiinancially supporting my mother...Is that wrong of me? Shes 45 yrs old and Im sick of being the responsible one in the relationship...

I didnt know my mom until I was 16..and she beat the hell out of me and my brother the whole year I lived with her..Having a mother wasnt all I thought it was going to be after not having one for so long...I emancipated myself from her at 17 and I have been taking care of myself since...as well as my brother...he lived with me up until a year ago..(hes 20 now) and she wont do anything to support herself...she has had opportunities for decent jobs..but she doesnt want to work...sooo she ends up either back in Toledo or up my butt....but Im tired of taking care of her..Tired of giving or sending her money....she never financially took care of myself....and hasnt taken care of my brother since he was 12...Im Tired of being used...


Thanks for letting me whine and b**ch

My mother called two days ago telling me that she was leaving Florida...she couldnt take it anymore...So she drove all day yesterday and arrived in town around 1:30 am...she stayed the night with a friend.....and first thing this morning she calls wanting an appt with me today at my shop....but I couldnt get her in bc Im booked until 7 tonight...she said she was going to stay at my house tonight so she can see my nephew(her only grandchild)...but people my mom makes me crazy...so think about me when you are sleeping oh so soundly and I have my mother in my bed..please
Is it wrong for me to hope she wont ask if she can live at my house for a while...Im sick of fiinancially supporting my mother...Is that wrong of me? Shes 45 yrs old and Im sick of being the responsible one in the relationship...

I didnt know my mom until I was 16..and she beat the hell out of me and my brother the whole year I lived with her..Having a mother wasnt all I thought it was going to be after not having one for so long...I emancipated myself from her at 17 and I have been taking care of myself since...as well as my brother...he lived with me up until a year ago..(hes 20 now) and she wont do anything to support herself...she has had opportunities for decent jobs..but she doesnt want to work...sooo she ends up either back in Toledo or up my butt....but Im tired of taking care of her..Tired of giving or sending her money....she never financially took care of myself....and hasnt taken care of my brother since he was 12...Im Tired of being used...


Thanks for letting me whine and b**ch

Actually....if you said all of this to her you'd probably never have to worry about seeing her again. Tell her to hit the road or beat the hell out of her like she did to you. Simple.