God's creative work wasn't complete until he made woman.

He could have made her from the dust of the ground, as he made man.

God chose, however, to make her from the man's flesh and bone. In so doing, he illustrated that in marriage man and woman symbolically become one flesh.

This is a mystical union of the couple's hearts and lives. Throughout the Bible, God treats this special partnership seriously.

If you are planning to be married, are you willing to keep the commitment that makes the two of you one?

What are some helpful habits you can begin to develop that will help you honor that commitment?

Guy's.........put the toilet seat down!

Chortle, chortle.... If men only knew how easy it was....

You both have a point. Respect for other's wishes goes a long way towards making a good marriage.

Nope. I don't think so.

My X-husband's idea of becoming one was to consume me ~ body mind and soul.

I felt as if he were consuming my spirit, my soul, my energy.. my being.

Besides,
Marriage is a contract between a man, a woman and THE STATE.

It holds the idea that a man owns his wife. Today they feel they own each other... a binding contract. eeewww. It makes me shutter.

I think to become one, is to find the balance within yourself. I am for the individual, not for becoming one with another person.

(I don't believe that God made Adam from dust or that he made Eve from Adam's rib.)

Perhaps ancient genetic scientists engineered the first two humans with DNA in some lab, but that other story is just a fairy tale IMO.

Marriage is not for me.

Not that I am against it for other people, and I certainly don't hate men. I just don't want to be one. Or become one with one. I want to be me and become one with me.

JB

i would not have minded if God made men out of women flesh.
I'm just a faithful admire of the female population.

I think I’m in pretty good shape in the commitment department.

I always keep both the seat and the lid of the toilet down.

And I live alone!

As for the rest of the relationship I’m totally open, honest, and monogamous. So those are automatics that I wouldn’t need to work at.

I’m also a really good listener. But that assumes the woman isn’t a constant motor mouth. I doubt that I’d become involved with a woman who never shuts up in first place though.

My goal has always been to find a best friend. That’s the paramount characteristic that I seek in a partner. Compatibility on a day-to-day basis as well as compatibility in long-term goals.

I’ve seem couples marry who really don’t seem to be compatible in what they want out of life at all. They go off and do there differnet things and compare notes at night. That works when the relationship is new, but it seldom lasts the long haul. It’s bound to come to a head.

Just as an example, my sister was very ‘refined’. She was an English teacher and she enjoyed the arts, dance, and theater. She married a man who was not ‘refined’. He was into pick-up trucks, guns, and hunting. Moreover my sister was very much into animal rights, and would become emotionally distraught when animals are hurt. She married a avid hunter???

Needless to say their marriage didn’t work. Unfortunately they didn’t figure it out until they had three kids and 25 years of hostile disagreements.

Compatibility in what you expect out of life seriously helps. It really should be your number one priority when seeking a mate. Not to imply other things shouldn’t also be considered, but platonic daily compatibility is paramount.

That’s that I’ve been waiting to find. I think to try to live with someone who isn’t compatible in daily things would be a mistake. What do we have left in common then? Sex? Unless we plan on having sex 24/7 that’s probably not going to work very well.

Help honor the commitment? HELP? How about simply HONOR THE COMMITMENT. Nowadays it seems that people go through the motions for a moment in time before they remember that this is a me me me society and they hit the flush lever on their way out not realizing they are just as f'd up as the rest of society but hey! That's okay! As long as I am happy that is all that matters, right? Playing devil's advocate folks, don't get all worked up.

Zapchaser writes:



"You're damn strait!" Life is too short not to be happy.

Free yourself!

There are 50 ways to leave your lover/spouse/jailer/

JB

(Don't mind me I was married to a phyco for too long.)

God made man and thought..."I can do better", then made WOMAN.

Whats this crap about making woman for man?? When He realized He made that first mistake...he made men our slaves...only you know how stubborn they are...never listen or take direction. So, we have to let them think they are in control to get anywhere.
Kat

I am new to this site, but I would like to make a comment even though I think this topic is dead now. Here goes. Today's marriages lack one simple item. The love of God. Many people are in "This is my world" syndrome. In actuality, it is our world. Just based on the decisions I make, it can be good or bad. Point? I am not married. Why not? Decision. I would love to get married but I must wait on that one simple item. Get my drift?

welcome to the site

it all goes down to love and respect. a woman is commanded by god to respect her husband and in turn a man must love his wife as he loves himself. one person can make a difference by doing either of those. men's egos are tender without a wife's respect and in turn if there is no respect, the man won't show as much love toward his wife, and in turn she will show less respect. its called the crazy cycle according to dr. emerson eggrichs. a great book to read, even if not getting married is called "love and respect". there is also "cracking the communication code" by the same man. these books talk about how god created men and women for a specific reason and how each gender sees things from the same situation. i highly recommend these for anyone who wants a healthy relationship.

Only if you put the toilet seat, UP,,,,,,,,,,

I believed this and still do. I am going through a divorce and yes, I did file, but I believe that you are one flesh and that you shouldn't hurt yourself or the other half of you. I strive to make the person I am with a priority. Once you take the person for granted you need to reevaluate the relationship and remember what that person brings to your life.

Marriage is an institution, and you would have to be mad to get committed!

Amen to that!

Well, I'm mad then. I love being married. I love the wholeness of it all.
It is work in the beginning. It is'nt so easy learning to combine our stuff and whats mine and whats your and where it should go. The minding that we cannot do as we once did as a single unit.

I love that a man loved himself enough to love that special thing about me that made him want me to be a part of him.

Vise versa with me. I choose someone for what and who we are together. What we can do and become as two.

A man who marries me gets a good wife. I have been incredably lucky as well. We spoil each other. Love each other. Want to do for each other. Working for and not against each other.

The state had nothing to do with it for me. But, marriage is very important to me. It is a commitment that deserves my best as well as his.

Living together to me is a throw away form of dating. Not to be trusted with my heart.

Kat

yashafox



Obviously you've never been married.
Mystical union My royal A**