Ive been on dating sights for a month or so now .. I have heard about how ppl are today , but I guess I refused to believe it ... I know in the 80s ppl were money hungry and lookin for the best looking person they could have on their arm ... I have found that now it is even worse than then ... from chats and ppl I have know and just looking around I see ppl who think looks are everything .. so sad but the same has before ... but now the money stuff has gone over board ... I was hurt and crushed to have a young man tell me that he prefers older women cause young girls are selfish .... I went to ask a couple of freinds that are in their 20s about it and they came right out and said " YES IM SELFISH " ... Then I turned and looked at someone that I luv dearly and when I saw that she uses a man for his money .... my heart droped ... I was upset cause I luv her dearly ... I couldnt sleep for two nights relizing how ppl I care and luv are so selfish and crued ... I dont ask for anything and have no wants for anyone to give me anything other than their time and have some laughes together ... I have gone on some dates and found that ppl are so dishonest about their intentions ... nothing new tho ... just a whole lot more of it now ... If you are interested in long term relationship then say it , dont say one thing and exspect another ... If you wanna just get laid then say that ... I thought when ya get older you dont play games ... oops I made a error there ... I thought ppl get older they have learned that life is short and it takes twist and turns that can cause you or others to be in places you never thought of ... or you feel things you didnt think were posible and everyone has gone down a path that led them to feel the way they do ... Games are just so stupid to me ... What happened to the days of being with ppl who make you happy weather it be a one night stand or dating or marriage ? ... Why is more dwelled on what a person has in there pocket or what a person looks like ... ALL that could be takin away by a accident or loss of employement ... You could go and find the best looking person that you think you can get and has money , marry that person and heaven forbid something bad happens but their company shuts down/ buisness goes under .. OR they could get in a car wreck and be permently unable to even walk or their body permently scared ... Am I just too old fashion ? ... Or am I just not finding the right ppl ? ... Ppl who maybe go with the flo , but dont play games or are SELFISH ...

Speaking from the high end of the 30's, and the people I've dated at this age range, yeah, some people are just as selfish as the younger end of the 20's. Not everyone, but enough to make it a pain to weed through the people.

Im just confused about what your talking about............ I dont think people are that way

how can anything be happy if the people they meet are not loving beings but rather useless impediments in the way of getting to ones own desires........personal desire is natural, but complete and total selfishness see the truth that all are looking together, and walk not here by choice.......so a need for all to be happy be created and lead one to happiness...

I don't know that all people are so selfish. But, some people are like you say, discompassionate for other's situation's in their present life. Sometime's it's not your fault that you are in a bad place, especially when it was the doing of some one else that you trusted.

I think the world we live in leans itself to finding the sleekest looking car, the nicest home, the best clothes...and yes, the hottest men/women. We don't have to buy into it. The happiest people do not.

I like nice things too but I'm willing to look under the hood. Maybe the nicest home is the one full of love not expensive furniture. Maybe the best vacation is one spent sitting around a campfire not in a five start hotel. Maybe the best car is the one I don't have to put away for the winter but one I can just change the tires and it starts everyday.

Put it like this ... I have went out with a few guys and not once did they say in their profile they are looking for a intement incounter witch there IS a question you CAN answer yes too ... Its like they see me and WA-LA I want to have her and their not looking for long term/ dating no more , just wanna have some tonight ? ... Im not that pretty , but this is what I get ? ... One guy thinks I have to be after his money ... I have enjoyed every minute of being with him and because I guess cause of how things are today he thinks Im wanting something like money ... I am so fustrated ... Isnt this saying what you are looking for and about reading and seeing if you might be interested and letting them know by emailing or replying back ? ... Not this crud where you have to wonder if the person is just out for anything other than what they said ? ... Maybe I am being too forward and honest ?

Mirror .. I see this crud all the time .. where are you that you dont see this ? ... downhomechick ... I couldnt have said it any better myself ... It is about how you feel with a person that matters not how they look or what they have ...

Moondark ... Are you sure ... my friends just said it loud and was smiling about their selfishness ... pretty upsetting to me ... saying they have gone with and will go with someone just to get what they can ... I never knew they even thought that way

Very sad indeed. I've learned that their are wolves in sheeps clothing and sheep in wolves clothing. Need to look a little hard, search a little deeper, think a little longer.....be cautious...before throwing caution to the wind....(putting it alittle dramatically...)

it is true little girls r about me me me me sad but true

its true most guys and women are shallow and there lookin for that person with a big bank account.and it doesn't hurt if ur midless and dress like everyone else.

That's how life is!! There's some good apples and some rotten ones.... It's up to you to find them and distinguish one from the other. If you end up with the wrong one are you brave enough to let it go?? GOOD LUCK!!

For me, when I meet a lady it doesnt matter if she has a fat bank account, but it does matter if she has a job or career of some sort. That to me shows she's responsible and can stand on her own two feet. Its hard enough to provide for my children and myself, dont need any more dependants.