Best wishes Elgee, you'll have to let the lawyer know and cps,(they can be real assholes). I think it sucks you don't have full disclosure on what is going on as her Mother, thats just wrong. Good Luck to you darlin,

Good Advice

I don't understand why you can't get info ... period. You have JOINT custody ... enough said.

Do you live in a small town where officials could be covering someone's @ss? Because none of this flies legally where I live. I have joint custody of my kids and that means I can go see them whenever I want to and if the ex makes it cumbersome for me, I have legal recourse to remedy the situation.

DEFINITELY....IT'S LAWYER TIME. And not a local-yocal guy/gal. Get someone from out of the immediate area who is knowledgable with the laws in your state, preferably someone who can spin heads and will tend to be pricey - but well worth it. Once the suits make an appearance, the police get a little "motivated" about covering their butts - ie coughing up the info. They know tort law can mean heads will roll and so they'll go out of their way to follow protocol and not give you the run-around about their rationale for withholding info and your right to know exactly what is up.

I say this because this pisses me off. I hate lawyers but they are a necessary evil in your case. (Find a state agency that can help you with financing or referral if necessary.)

And, for God's sake, don't sit and do nothing. Complacency is working against your child.

God Bless and best of luck. Let us know what develops.

Defiantly Lawyer FIRST then CPS !!!!

i just found out, that he never took her home last night, he went to my older 2 children's father's house. he's there right now, she didn't go to school today again.

i don't think he was aware of it happening, or maybe he walked in on it..im not sure as no one has told me anything.

(((((HUGS))))) I know you need them


Everyone above is correct... Lawyer first then CPS then back to the police if needed.

The other thing I can tell you is pray like crazy and ask others to pray for you as well and for your daughter.

I'm sending prayers your way...

"Like why don't you have her?"

first off, this reason is not important, however, i don't have her cuz he filed the day before i did, therefore, i got served the day before he did.

his mother tried to prove ME unfit, turned ME in for abuse, all allegations were UNfounded THEN.

"The mother usually gets the kid."

now, 2ndly, we have shared/join custody, there IS no child support, and i get her for 1/2 the time..

in or divorce papers, it specifically states,
"7:30-7:30 on days, as mutually agreed upon"

i get her daily, the problem is, once he got re-married, that line in our divorce papers was taken 'out of context', he's reading it as it saying IF we agree that i can have her, then i can..and that's not the way it was meant at all

however, if it's taken that way, then if he doens't like what's going on in my life (in this case that i don't have a job), then he has a say in whether or not i see her, which again, isn't the way it was meant at all.

OMG, that brought tears to my eyes, girl run fast and get that Lawyer do all you can to get her out of that home. Before they throw a final blow and your standing at her gravesite. Harsh yes but reality is harsh.

Ellgee I have talked many times with u and you have a heart of gold, Its not your fault and dont listen to anyone that says it is!!! I did an internship in a foster care program 8 years ago, dont know if I can help ya, but mail me if u need ANYTHING and I will do my best to get the info for ya!!!!!!

"Contact the school fill them in on what took place last night"

last night, once i found out that she was at the police station, i called her school teacher, the one that has been documenting everything daily, she met me at the police station, so the school is aware of everything already

"Contact your attorney fill him or her in on the events that took place,, again the note,, time, date,, and who "

been calling most of the morning, i just got back to the pc and saw all this..so thank you

i will call the police station again, and ask more questions, it will be documented that im buggin the hell outta them, i have phone records

"call the E-hub again.. and if he fails to comply with your questions,,,"

right now he's sleeping at my older 2 kid's father's house, he apparently never went home last night with her, and hasn't slept much according to their dad

A lot of good advice given here. All I can add is I'm sorry for what your daughter is going through.

more phone calls, be back in a bit

Check the internet sweety for Legal services....there are programs and org's that will help you......Good luck my heart go out to you

"I don't understand why you can't get info ... period. You have JOINT custody ... enough said. "

according to the police station, the sheriff himself said, they cannot tell me anything, due to it being an official investigation. they've advised me to call SRS, and gave me the case worker's name, to find out what is going on with things.

correction, he DID go to his house with our daughter last night, only got to my older 2 kids' father's this morning at 9:30

*UPDATE*

i've been on the phone with the police dept, and the sheriff's dept. both tell me they cannot give ANY information due to this being an 'ongoing investigation'

i've asked, if this happens again say... 3 nights from now, will i be notified?

they told me no, it's part of the investigation, SRS can notify me, but the police dept, nor the sheriff's dept will notify me

i have the county attny that is handling this case, i have his number, and the contact at SRS that is handling this case also


i'll be back later with more updates, im on the phone now


again, thank you to everyone that's posted, i normally don't ask, but prayers will be welcome

{{{{{ellgee}}}}}


I am so sorry to read this is happening to you and your little girl. I hope and pray to God that you can get her away from there before any more happens to her.

As LAMom said, take notes on everything.

I really diddnt have time to read all of this...but i tried to read most of it....but if it was me...i would definately be concerned...doesnt sound right....why cant you get custody of her?

Well by what I have read it does not sound like the father is doing these things either the step-mother or one of her kids. I may be reading this wrong but why else would the father leave the house with the little girl. Hummm

Prayers being sent for your little girl and your family.

according to the police station, and the sheriff's dept, on our divorce papers, where it says "on days as mutually agreed upon" can be taken 3 different ways, and all 3 are correct, depending on how ya read it.

therefore, it's a civil case, and i need to get a lawyer to get it hammered out in court.

so he's right, and im right, and any other interpretation of the custody papers is right.

agreed txs, i don't feel that HE specifically has done anything wrong, i do think it's either his new wife, or one of her kids.

her bruises aren't vivid, like shades of purple, however, they're visible..the one on her lower back isn't as big as i first thought it would be, it's about the size of her fist, and directly in the center of her lower back.

my mind can't think of what could have hit her, or if someone did...as far as i know, it could very well have been a toy that was thrown at her, or something just falling on her.

however, why can't he update me himself? why can't he just say "hey, this is what's happened"

he refuses to talk to me