In a discussiom with my roommate he pointed out a few things about me that, while i knew already, I never realized how much it affected me.

When it comes to love, I am very cynical. To the point that i condemn other people for falling in or having some form of love.
If i have done this in any post, please forgive me. I just have been hurt so much by love that I have no interest in it anymore. That does not give me the right to criticize others for chasing it.

Me too, only I'm cynical about most things in life. Specifically love, and death. Don't tend to put people down for their choice but point out flaws in the planning of marriage and love alltogether as a whole not in a given situation.

I do that alot, and it never dawned on me that I was being too cynical.

congrats!

awww i love my babies!!

reduces all cynical thoughts!!

BUT i'm just doin me right now!!

Excellent thread and posts grown from serious self examination and absence of delusion.

....but CAN'T STAND to see babies at the beach.
I mean, they haven't worked a day in their lives and they're already ON VACATION?

Well "Stinking Thinking" can start out just being a healthy vent then get to be a bad habit by accident when people give you re-enforcement with attention while you are walking wounded. It isn't impossible to correct. That you acknowledge it is a huge step in the right direction. Thank your room mate for being a real friend and telling you honestly what he sees that you ned to "Get Over It". Maybe you can now enlist his help in encourageing your affirmative thinking by having a signal (Like a thumbs up or singing a Cher song -the get over it being one of her famous lines) when you seem like you are backslideing into negativism. Habits take a while to develope and they take awhile to go away. Practice practice practice. When you have a few positive exchanges with nice women then your mind set will change and peoples percepton of you will be happier and you will attract happier people.

As with most people dealing with most things in life: "Once bitten...twice shy." Understanding what love and pain is, and in my humble opinion, sometimes being so cynical can actually push people away from you. Your roommate obviously cares and he/she hates to see you wallow in a pit of cynicism and self-pity. Ask yourself: Do you really want to push people away and be unapproachable? Are you that afraid of being hurt again that you don't want to let anyone close to you again?

It is easy for people to say, "Get over it" without understanding the reasons as to what happened to make you feel this way. The healing process sometimes can seem like a long journey, but it starts when you begin to realize that there is a problem. Take your time and go at your own pace.