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Topic: Should he be allowed to see the baby unsupervised?
Totage's photo
Mon 04/14/08 02:45 PM

Ok, this is a little long. I will try my best not to drift either.

I am recently out of a very short term relationship with a friend of the family. We dated for three months. Well, I was stupid and trusted something he said, now I am pregnant. I already have a six year old (by another man). We split up and things were amicable enough until..... he asked me if I was going to give the baby his last name. Big fat NO!! I was of course much nicer about it to him. I explained to him that we are not married and not even dating. I am the one who will have to get up every night with the baby, miss work if he is sick, explain to him why dad is not there, etc etc.

Another issue I have is that if he is to see the baby I feel it must be supervised or at my home with me present. Here are my reasons..... He is a convicted felon, has a drinking problem, has a sexual problem (and I mean that he needs to have counseling), cannot handle a six year old without drinking, thinks it is ok to leave a child unattended for 2 hours alone in the house, has depression issues, and has never had any children of his own. I honestly fear for the baby's life if he gets him alone. He could get totally stressed and shake the baby and kill him!! He knows NOTHING about children.

It may seem I am stretching the truth or that I am crazy for even dating him. I probably am. I had no idea of any of these issues until recently. I broke it off immediately.

What should I do? I am thinking get an attorney. I don't want to deny him seeing his child, I just think it should be strictly monitored.


I would call children services, and have them involved from the begining, they're not bad, they actually do help. They can work with you to help the child, do supervised visitation, etc.

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Mon 04/14/08 04:44 PM
Well thank you ddn. I def understand the devil's advocate. I have to admit.. I have done it once or twice myself. I really wish it wasn't like this, but I am trying to make the best of the situation. On a lighter note, my daughter is thrilled she will be a big sister soon :)

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Mon 04/14/08 05:03 PM
I would see if he would sign away parental rights because from what you describe he will be back in the big house soon.

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Mon 04/14/08 05:05 PM

And you had sex with him...why? lol, A guy like this can get laid, but a good wage earning, cop in training nice guy like me cant even get people to respond to my emails. lols


laugh laugh

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Mon 04/14/08 07:12 PM

Ok, this is a little long. I will try my best not to drift either.

I am recently out of a very short term relationship with a friend of the family. We dated for three months. Well, I was stupid and trusted something he said, now I am pregnant. I already have a six year old (by another man). We split up and things were amicable enough until..... he asked me if I was going to give the baby his last name. Big fat NO!! I was of course much nicer about it to him. I explained to him that we are not married and not even dating. I am the one who will have to get up every night with the baby, miss work if he is sick, explain to him why dad is not there, etc etc.

Another issue I have is that if he is to see the baby I feel it must be supervised or at my home with me present. Here are my reasons..... He is a convicted felon, has a drinking problem, has a sexual problem (and I mean that he needs to have counseling), cannot handle a six year old without drinking, thinks it is ok to leave a child unattended for 2 hours alone in the house, has depression issues, and has never had any children of his own. I honestly fear for the baby's life if he gets him alone. He could get totally stressed and shake the baby and kill him!! He knows NOTHING about children.

It may seem I am stretching the truth or that I am crazy for even dating him. I probably am. I had no idea of any of these issues until recently. I broke it off immediately.

What should I do? I am thinking get an attorney. I don't want to deny him seeing his child, I just think it should be strictly monitored.



i'd personally push hard as i could for supervised visitation

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