Ok, this is a little long. I will try my best not to drift either.

I am recently out of a very short term relationship with a friend of the family. We dated for three months. Well, I was stupid and trusted something he said, now I am pregnant. I already have a six year old (by another man). We split up and things were amicable enough until..... he asked me if I was going to give the baby his last name. Big fat NO!! I was of course much nicer about it to him. I explained to him that we are not married and not even dating. I am the one who will have to get up every night with the baby, miss work if he is sick, explain to him why dad is not there, etc etc.

Another issue I have is that if he is to see the baby I feel it must be supervised or at my home with me present. Here are my reasons..... He is a convicted felon, has a drinking problem, has a sexual problem (and I mean that he needs to have counseling), cannot handle a six year old without drinking, thinks it is ok to leave a child unattended for 2 hours alone in the house, has depression issues, and has never had any children of his own. I honestly fear for the baby's life if he gets him alone. He could get totally stressed and shake the baby and kill him!! He knows NOTHING about children.

It may seem I am stretching the truth or that I am crazy for even dating him. I probably am. I had no idea of any of these issues until recently. I broke it off immediately.

What should I do? I am thinking get an attorney. I don't want to deny him seeing his child, I just think it should be strictly monitored.

Well in the first place unless he goes to court he has no rights what so ever. You can put on the birth cert. father unknown not much he can do about it unless he gets an attorney and goes to court for a DNA test.

Well I would ask what you were doing with such a man but looks like you will live with that the rest of your life.

But now if you want to put him down as the father ect. it still has to go to court before he actually has visitation rights then along will go child support. If and when that happens all you have to do is request that his visits are supervised the courts will set it up. My sisters ex had to go to a place that was set up were he could see his son with others around it was a place the courts set up where others are around to watch them and to step in if needed.

Denying a child its father ..... a good choice ????

This may be the impetus for the father to become a man...

a couple times a month ..???? like the first child.????