A few months back I met a woman on another dating site for a first contact cup of coffee. She was a nurse and had a busy schedule. Since my time was much more flexible, I gave her several options as to the date and time.

She made the logistical choice and we met. After she answered the 7th phone call, I put enough money to cover the bill and the tip on the table, excused myself saying; "I can't do this."

I understood that she was busy, but why make a date for a time when she was on call? Why not pick a time when you can shut your phone off or at least only have to answer it in an emergency?


Was I wrong?

well if she was good looking I would atleast got her in bed before leaving

Yes.

I don't think so, you obviously want someone who can devote their time to you, and that's not wrong... maybe she wasn't ready!

No, I don't think you were wrong. Her job is what it is and she shouldn't have scheduled it during a date, although obviously she has to take the calls. She should have IMO, scheduled the date for a night with no call, to give it the focus it deserved.

I wouldn't have stuck around.

duuuh,i know notting

I don't think you were wrong at all. BUT being a nurse you do have a crazy schedule....but then again, she does have time off! I think I would have done the same thing. I think you were very patient to wait until the 7th phone call, I would have been gone after the 3rd call.

i might have been more patient more considerate of her occupation and saw how the next few dates went before i made a decision maybe got a tongue depressor or two as a keepsake...

nice.....

think it's rude accepting 7 calls, what type of nurse is she that they'd need to contact her 7 times? were they work related, if so, I see nothing wrong w/her having to take these calls.

I could understand why you left, but cannot honestly answer if what you did was right or wrong? So long as it worked for you I'd respond it was the right thing to do.

Nope... she picked the day and time. If she couldn't get someone to cover the on call phone she should not have made the date.

Waterloo.... you... wrong??

No way.

<--- Taking notes.

Note to self.
(Turn cell phone off when on date!)


You were in the right in my opinion.

no.

i would have done the same thing. by prefering the phone over you she was not only rude, but she also showed no respect towards you.

good thing you left:

now all the other nice women out there have at least a chance of meeting you !

good luck with any future dates!

sounds like right choice!!
toss in the towel!!
it would almost fall into the obnoxious category

my last date couldnt stop txting other people on his phone the whole time and showing me what he was texting..
so i started txting everyone i knew on my phone untill it became a nuisance that my phone wouldnt stop ringing..

avoid mutual match

if it was work and she needed to be contacted then thats one thing if shes chatting with friends that a little rude

They were ALL work related. I do not remember the specifics of her job anymore

If I were you, I would've asked her if you both could make it for a time that she wasn't on-call! I hope things work out for you, I mean if you really like this woman! I wish you all the best!(if I were in your shoes, and liked the person, I would try again!)

then I agree with Lilith, she had ample time to find someone to cover for her.

why I cannot date. my phone never stops