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Topic: Was I wrong?
Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Mon 04/14/08 12:46 PM
if it was work and she needed to be contacted then thats one thing if shes chatting with friends that a little rude But why not make the date when she did not have to constantly answer the phone? I made every attempt to accomodate her busy schedule...

ShellyinAZ Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 480	Mon 04/14/08 12:46 PM
If it was not work related or a family emergency... she was simply rude

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Mon 04/14/08 12:48 PM
If I were you, I would've asked her if you both could make it for a time that she wasn't on-call! I hope things work out for you, I mean if you really like this woman! I wish you all the best!(if I were in your shoes, and liked the person, I would try again!) That ship sailed long ago....

writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Mon 04/14/08 12:49 PM
No, I don't think you were in the wrong...I think you 2 could have had coffee or something on her day off.Don't feel bad,you made the right choice

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Mon 04/14/08 12:49 PM
A few months back I met a woman on another dating site for a first contact cup of coffee. She was a nurse and had a busy schedule. Since my time was much more flexible, I gave her several options as to the date and time. She made the logistical choice and we met. After she answered the 7th phone call, I put enough money to cover the bill and the tip on the table, excused myself saying; "I can't do this." I understood that she was busy, but why make a date for a time when she was on call? Why not pick a time when you can shut your phone off or at least only have answer it in an emergency? Was I wrong? nope

jtip1977 Joined Mon 11/12/07 Posts: 10410	Mon 04/14/08 12:50 PM
Waterloo!!!! You were so in the right!!!! I wouldn't have been as kind as you.........

BlueskyJ Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 2927	Mon 04/14/08 12:50 PM
you made the right choice...its a matter of priorities and you saw where hers lies....

UplandHunter Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 8066	Mon 04/14/08 12:51 PM
Here is how to handle it Pick up your cell, cal a buddy say I am on a date with girl I thought might have some potential, but her phone keeps ringing and it is annoying me and I am loosing interest really fast... then ask your buddy if he wants to meet up in about twenty minutes to go out. regardless of his response say...Ok see you then. See what her reaction is......maybe she gets the hint or you go have fun with someone else....either way you win

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Mon 04/14/08 12:57 PM Edited by Unknow on Mon 04/14/08 12:57 PM
Here is how to handle it Pick up your cell, cal a buddy say I am on a date with girl I thought might have some potential, but her phone keeps ringing and it is annoying me and I am loosing interest really fast... then ask your buddy if he wants to meet up in about twenty minutes to go out. regardless of his response say...Ok see you then. See what her reaction is......maybe she gets the hint or you go have fun with someone else....either way you win Not a bad idea... I've used the telephone call from a friend to get out of horror show dates before. Ya know excuse myself and go to the bathroom. Call a buddy and say call me back in ten minutes and just go along with whatever I say. Why didn't I think of that?

Single_Rob Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 8233	Mon 04/14/08 12:58 PM
Here is how to handle it Pick up your cell, cal a buddy say I am on a date with girl I thought might have some potential, but her phone keeps ringing and it is annoying me and I am loosing interest really fast... then ask your buddy if he wants to meet up in about twenty minutes to go out. regardless of his response say...Ok see you then. See what her reaction is......maybe she gets the hint or you go have fun with someone else....either way you win you shouldn't have dismissed her until you at least asked if she liked anal Not a bad idea... I've used the telephone call from a friend to get out of horror show dates before. Ya know excuse myself and go to the bathroom. Call a buddy and say call me back in ten minutes and just go along with whatever I say. Why didn't I think of that?

Single_Rob Joined Mon 02/04/08 Posts: 8233	Mon 04/14/08 12:59 PM
damn, sorry , I forgot you are a boob man

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Mon 04/14/08 01:03 PM
Nope... she picked the day and time. If she couldn't get someone to cover the on call phone she should not have made the date. Waterloo.... you... wrong?? No way. I've been known to be wrong on occasion, just ask my ex. She probably has journal crated up somewhere in her house....

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Mon 04/14/08 01:04 PM
damn, sorry , I forgot you are a boob man Your line of thought was sound. Perhaps I could have asked her to flash me as a condition of staying....

sleeplessingermany Joined Thu 03/13/08 Posts: 1490	Mon 04/14/08 01:07 PM
what you did was a lot better than the "buddy phone call get me out of here" thing. it was honest and up front. you drew the line at a behavior you were not willing to accept. if anyone was rude, it was her, not you.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Mon 04/14/08 01:08 PM
what you did was a lot better than the "buddy phone call get me out of here" thing. it was honest and up front. you drew the line at a behavior you were not willing to accept. if anyone was rude, it was her, not you. Thanks

Redsoxfan1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 8388	Mon 04/14/08 01:27 PM
If I were you, I would've asked her if you both could make it for a time that she wasn't on-call! I hope things work out for you, I mean if you really like this woman! I wish you all the best!(if I were in your shoes, and liked the person, I would try again!) That ship sailed long ago.... ok, I was just trying to help! good luck in your search!

Shaden Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 6118	Mon 04/14/08 01:32 PM
I'm a single parent and as such my children know they can call. There also has to be consideration, for the person you are out with. Seven phones calls is very excessive, unless it was an emergency. Are you sure someone wasn't nervous, for her? What may seem overly cautious may be right in some cases, and one never knows. I would have said something first, if the situation was reversed, I think...gues you'd known if that was the issue or not.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Mon 04/14/08 01:34 PM
WOW,,could YOU have imagined if SHE did want to sleep with you then? Hello,,,oh,,,,nothing, just laying here relaxing for a moment,,,,what are you doing,,,,,lol ALL THE TIME YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN A LITTLE MORE IN THOUGHTS,lol,lol She was rude, and shouldn't have done you that away, even if she didn't like YOU,,,sooooooo, no reason to exclude you from her mind...thats my thoughts...

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Mon 04/14/08 01:37 PM
I'm a single parent and as such my children know they can call. There also has to be consideration, for the person you are out with. Seven phones calls is very excessive, unless it was an emergency. Are you sure someone wasn't nervous, for her? What may seem overly cautious may be right in some cases, and one never knows. I would have said something first, if the situation was reversed, I think...gues you'd known if that was the issue or not. The phone calls were ALL work related. I have no problem with someone keeping on their phone in case of emergency and said so in a previous post.

discoafternoon Joined Fri 04/11/08 Posts: 2977	Mon 04/14/08 01:59 PM
I don't think I could date someone who could not separate themselves from work at least once in a while.