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thats true but i have 3 kids and i lost one 1.5 yrs ago so i come with experience that most ppl our age cant handle sorry to hear that  
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shes in a better place where she doesnt feel pain or sadness so im allright ill see her again
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Why some people need to say the most hurtful thing they know when they want to dodge or end a relationship is hard to understand but it happens.
It is possible that a few of the people who wanted to end relationships with you said the one thing you could not change and would hurt you so deeply that you would not go around again. Maybe they were married or had other secret issues. Some people over-react to women who can not have children because they feel they are being denied something; especiallly if you have previously had a child "for" someone else. Granted I would see this as distorted thinking but you are going to run into all kinds of thinking in the dateing world. Hang in there. The thread clearly reflects my experience as a Mother of only one. Many are relieved that pregnancy and infants are not in their future even if they think your kid is cool. |
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If his legacy is more important than what is in front of him, he needs to leave the gene pool
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Why some people need to say the most hurtful thing they know when they want to dodge or end a relationship is hard to understand but it happens. It is possible that a few of the people who wanted to end relationships with you said the one thing you could not change and would hurt you so deeply that you would not go around again. Maybe they were married or had other secret issues. Some people over-react to women who can not have children because they feel they are being denied something; especiallly if you have previously had a child "for" someone else. Granted I would see this as distorted thinking but you are going to run into all kinds of thinking in the dateing world. Hang in there. The thread clearly reflects my experience as a Mother of only one. Many are relieved that pregnancy and infants are not in their future even if they think your kid is cool. Nice perspective on everything~Thanks
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I have 3 kids that I wouldnt trade for anything in the world..
but would not being able to have more bother me ..NO |
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shes in a better place where she doesnt feel pain or sadness so im allright ill see her again Yes you will, for now you have another guardian angel 
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If his legacy is more important than what is in front of him, he needs to leave the gene pool my legacy has been redefined 
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shes in a better place where she doesnt feel pain or sadness so im allright ill see her again Yes you will, for now you have another guardian angel i do and she does agreat job 
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Start dating a woman even though you knew in advance that she would not be able to have kids???  I know this is a tough question for the younger men without kids already. I want to know your thoughts. I have a son, Im lucky. But the doctors told me I couldn't have any more. I feel bad for what ever new relationship I get into because at some point if we got married, I couldn't give him (his own blood)to carry on. I hope whomever I end up with would HAVE to love my son just as their own...but do you think most guys would find this tough to swallow? HONEST opinion PLEASE! You want honesty, eh? Well, I am 19, soon to be 20, and my opinion as a younger guy is, yes it would be something tough to swallow, but the inability to have children does not mean a person is no longer human. Personally yes I would, there are other options, yes it would somewhat be disappointing, but is a relationship solely based on the fact that the two can make children? Honestly, I would have no problem Dating/marrying someone who could not have children.I wouldn't want to date a girl who didn't want children, but a girl who did and could not is definitely fine. I would also like to say, the men who would not date a girl who could not have children are not necessarily scum, or stupid, they want children who are related by blood that badly. It doesn't mean a person doesn't care or anything. |
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good night
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Start dating a woman even though you knew in advance that she would not be able to have kids??? I know this is a tough question for the younger men without kids already. I want to know your thoughts. I have a son, Im lucky. But the doctors told me I couldn't have any more. I feel bad for what ever new relationship I get into because at some point if we got married, I couldn't give him (his own blood)to carry on. I hope whomever I end up with would HAVE to love my son just as their own...but do you think most guys would find this tough to swallow? HONEST opinion PLEASE! You want honesty, eh? Well, I am 19, soon to be 20, and my opinion as a younger guy is, yes it would be something tough to swallow, but the inability to have children does not mean a person is no longer human. Personally yes I would, there are other options, yes it would somewhat be disappointing, but is a relationship solely based on the fact that the two can make children? Honestly, I would have no problem Dating/marrying someone who could not have children.I wouldn't want to date a girl who didn't want children, but a girl who did and could not is definitely fine. I would also like to say, the men who would not date a girl who could not have children are not necessarily scum, or stupid, they want children who are related by blood that badly. It doesn't mean a person doesn't care or anything. your right I wouldnt refer to them as scum... but a person is a person for eho they are not for what they can produce. |
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Start dating a woman even though you knew in advance that she would not be able to have kids??? I know this is a tough question for the younger men without kids already. I want to know your thoughts. I have a son, Im lucky. But the doctors told me I couldn't have any more. I feel bad for what ever new relationship I get into because at some point if we got married, I couldn't give him (his own blood)to carry on. I hope whomever I end up with would HAVE to love my son just as their own...but do you think most guys would find this tough to swallow? HONEST opinion PLEASE! You want honesty, eh? Well, I am 19, soon to be 20, and my opinion as a younger guy is, yes it would be something tough to swallow, but the inability to have children does not mean a person is no longer human. Personally yes I would, there are other options, yes it would somewhat be disappointing, but is a relationship solely based on the fact that the two can make children? Honestly, I would have no problem Dating/marrying someone who could not have children.I wouldn't want to date a girl who didn't want children, but a girl who did and could not is definitely fine. I would also like to say, the men who would not date a girl who could not have children are not necessarily scum, or stupid, they want children who are related by blood that badly. It doesn't mean a person doesn't care or anything. Good point made. Either way its a sacrifice....be with a great girl you love...but cant have the son or daughter with "daddys eyes"....Or choose someone maybe you didnt hit as off well because they can. |
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good night night! |
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Edited by
TwilightsTwin
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Thu 04/10/08 10:16 PM
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NEXT QUESTION:
I know I can't have any more kids. Is that something I should tell someone right away? Or am I "jumping the gun" before I even had a chance to see if something may have bloomed out of a relationship? I mean some women can't have kids...and arent aware of this fact, and dont know until years of trying! But I know...so am I obligated to tell this ASAP??? |
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NEXT QUESTION: I know I can't have any more kids. Is that something I should tell someone right away? Or am I "jumping the gun" before I even had a chance to see if something may have bloomed out of a relationship? I mean some women can't have kids...and arent aware of this fact, and dont know until years of trying! |
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Edited by
Guyonline123
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Thu 04/10/08 10:23 PM
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NEXT QUESTION: I know I can't have any more kids. Is that something I should tell someone right away? Or am I "jumping the gun" before I even had a chance to see if something may have bloomed out of a relationship? I mean some women can't have kids...and arent aware of this fact, and dont know until years of trying! But I know...so am I obligated to tell this ASAP??? I wouldn't jump him on the first date with, "Guess what! I cannot have kids!" I would wait until he got to know you better, and figured out he really liked you, by this point depending on what type of guy he is, he would either tell you it didn't matter and think about it a little more, or be a jerk and storm off. It really depends on the person. I think if you surprise him way too soon, he has more of a chance of running. |
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NEXT QUESTION: I know I can't have any more kids. Is that something I should tell someone right away? Or am I "jumping the gun" before I even had a chance to see if something may have bloomed out of a relationship? I mean some women can't have kids...and arent aware of this fact, and dont know until years of trying! I think if yo uknow it is a good idea to tell someone right away... just like if you didnt want ot have anymore kids ... there are certain things peopel are looking for.. and if they were looking ot have children then it would not be fair to not tell them ... ofcourse myself I ma just looking for something meaningful if it does or does not include children .. |
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i tell them right up front
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I gotta agree with Rob, get that out of the way and if the guy sticks around, then you move forward.
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