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So my sons father and I were dating, became great friends. I wound up prego and he left for a year to go to school in china. I had the baby, and three months later he returned and came and saw me and Austin. He brought me presents back from China and things seemed ok. He wanted a DNA test, so we got one done, and when it came back that he was the father (already knew it was) he decided that he didn't want anything to do with us. Gave me a chunck of money and said Adios.
Fast forward to today. I'm kinda broke, and I sent him an email today asking for some money to help me until I start getting paychecks from work. I've never asked him for anything at all, mind you. So here I am patiently waiting a reply, but I think I already know what he is going to say. I guess what I am asking here, is if he refuses to give me a little money (all im asking for is 200 bucks) should I take the next step and try to force him to? I have never wanted the courts involved in my life, cause I don't have the patience for this kind of stuff, but it would help if he gave me a little something every now and then.  Blargh. 
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i say yes.your child deserves what i feel is owed to the child.
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A couple of my friends Pay ALOT of money for child support comes right outta there paychecks, 200$ is nothing vrs what he would be paying i hope everything works out for you kitten
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I take a VERY hard line on this. Shocker, huh?
That money you've never asked for, dear Kitten? It's Austin's. You've no right to pass it up. Get a court order and stick it in the bank if you don't want it. Then put it towards his school... or whatever. Austin has a right to regular child support. Keep in mind that you can request he pay your attorney's fees as well, since he threw money at you and left. Good luck to you and your darling boy. <<Disclaimer>> I do not pay child support or receive it. I do 50/50 shared parenting. |
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Sad part by the time you go through court you would have paid more than you recieve.Dead beat Dads move around a lot so no one can find them to collect.I fired one guy and found out later he wanted to be fired because his ex had caught up with him.No easy answer and no easy way out.
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think you should really decide, because you are due child support, it's not easy nor cheap the upbringing of a child.
But if you go thru the courts it will be regulated, vs. the whenever you have the need for $... follow? |
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I'd say that all depends on how much your "chunk of money" was... if it comes anywhere near what he woulda paid in child support, then he's paid in full!!
sit down and do the math |
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I think you should go to court and get regular child support regardless of what he gives you and then you would not have to ask for what is owed to you in the first place. This way he can graduate from sperm donor to father and maybe someday to a dad.
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 I think you should go to court and get regular child support regardless of what he gives you and then you would not have to ask for what is owed to you in the first place. This way he can graduate from sperm donor to father and maybe someday to a dad. |
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Thank you all for the replies. I don't know what I'd do without ya'll.
 I guess I will wait to see what he says. I will at least go talk to a lawyer and see what they think if he refuses the money. I'm just too nice and feel guilty about asking him for some reason.
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Thank you all for the replies. I don't know what I'd do without ya'll. I guess I will wait to see what he says. I will at least go talk to a lawyer and see what they think if he refuses the money. I'm just too nice and feel guilty about asking him for some reason. it's just your pride getting in the way, been there done that
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Thank you all for the replies. I don't know what I'd do without ya'll. I guess I will wait to see what he says. I will at least go talk to a lawyer and see what they think if he refuses the money. I'm just too nice and feel guilty about asking him for some reason. it's just your pride getting in the way, been there done that Yeah I think that is exactly what it is. I never wanna ask anyone for help, even when I have nothing. |
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Kitten I have so much respect for you. I felt the same way about the courts. You should not have to ask him for money. Tell him just as you told us & see what he does. 200.00 is nothing. He should give you something each month, & if he won't do it on his own then go for child support. You should not have to go thru this!
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Thank you all for the replies. I don't know what I'd do without ya'll. I guess I will wait to see what he says. I will at least go talk to a lawyer and see what they think if he refuses the money. I'm just too nice and feel guilty about asking him for some reason. it's just your pride getting in the way, been there done that Yeah I think that is exactly what it is. I never wanna ask anyone for help, even when I have nothing. You are young and beautiful, dont allow pride to get in your way or from getting whats rightfully yours. speaking from experience
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Kitten I have so much respect for you. I felt the same way about the courts. You should not have to ask him for money. Tell him just as you told us & see what he does. 200.00 is nothing. He should give you something each month, & if he won't do it on his own then go for child support. You should not have to go thru this! Thank you. Your right, I shouldn't even have to ask. I did just get a reply back from him and he said no problem about the money. I just wonder if I should see about a lawyer anyhow. |
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Thank you all for the replies. I don't know what I'd do without ya'll. I guess I will wait to see what he says. I will at least go talk to a lawyer and see what they think if he refuses the money. I'm just too nice and feel guilty about asking him for some reason. it's just your pride getting in the way, been there done that Yeah I think that is exactly what it is. I never wanna ask anyone for help, even when I have nothing. You are young and beautiful, dont allow pride to get in your way or from getting whats rightfully yours. speaking from experience Awwwwwww thank you so much.
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child support is not foryou hun it is for your child. your child has the RIGHT to that money no matter what. Even if yuo won the lotto and had fifty million dollars every month for the rest ofyour life, the child would still have the right to collect said support if only to put it into a savings account for the future.
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child support is not foryou hun it is for your child. Can you tell that to my psychotic bithc of an ex, she seems to have other ideas on what it should be used for. |
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So my sons father and I were dating, became great friends. I wound up prego and he left for a year to go to school in china. I had the baby, and three months later he returned and came and saw me and Austin. He brought me presents back from China and things seemed ok. He wanted a DNA test, so we got one done, and when it came back that he was the father (already knew it was) he decided that he didn't want anything to do with us. Gave me a chunck of money and said Adios. Fast forward to today. I'm kinda broke, and I sent him an email today asking for some money to help me until I start getting paychecks from work. I've never asked him for anything at all, mind you. So here I am patiently waiting a reply, but I think I already know what he is going to say. I guess what I am asking here, is if he refuses to give me a little money (all im asking for is 200 bucks) should I take the next step and try to force him to? I have never wanted the courts involved in my life, cause I don't have the patience for this kind of stuff, but it would help if he gave me a little something every now and then. Blargh. How much you need. If its for you kid email me the amount, only one condition- the kid gets it(something they really need like meds, food, shelter) Very serious, please write me |
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So my sons father and I were dating, became great friends. I wound up prego and he left for a year to go to school in china. I had the baby, and three months later he returned and came and saw me and Austin. He brought me presents back from China and things seemed ok. He wanted a DNA test, so we got one done, and when it came back that he was the father (already knew it was) he decided that he didn't want anything to do with us. Gave me a chunck of money and said Adios. Fast forward to today. I'm kinda broke, and I sent him an email today asking for some money to help me until I start getting paychecks from work. I've never asked him for anything at all, mind you. So here I am patiently waiting a reply, but I think I already know what he is going to say. I guess what I am asking here, is if he refuses to give me a little money (all im asking for is 200 bucks) should I take the next step and try to force him to? I have never wanted the courts involved in my life, cause I don't have the patience for this kind of stuff, but it would help if he gave me a little something every now and then. Blargh. Very serious, please write me |
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