I'm a decent man, but i'm a bum. But I'm honest and a little picky. That's why i'm single.

WHOOO! Lets not be so cynical ladies! Yes we are here! just give us a break and yourself as well! Where was it written that all men in New Jersey are creeps? It is much better sharing love and a mutual orgasm than self satisfaction and bitterness!

I'm a good guy, at least I've been told that much. I'm recently divorced, no children, gainfully employed with a good job (ok, not 6 figures, but decent), I'm in a couple of dating websites and I'm going to give this one a try.

Maybe Jersey and Philly girls are way too picky. I don't think I look like a creep and I get none to zero replies to my emails. It kind of bothers me to see these kinds of threads that say "where are the good guys?" yet when one seems to appear, no replies.

We'll see, I just signed up here, and see what happens.

Good luck to all the good guys and girls of this website.

Vince

NO I BEEN HERE FOR 42 YR

I'm a nice guy and i'm from jersey.

oh yeah?

dont look any further you found the guy im decent and i like to make friends. so hit me up

its true its hard to find a good jerser boy

Are there any girls interested in looking past the book cover? You may be surprised what you find. So take a chance and talk to someone like me and decide then after chatting. I can call anywhere in the country. My name is Mike and want to at least chat and see what happens

there's always those few guys that'll ruin it for the good ones i know how you feel and i don't blame you at all

Also looking for a decent guy in jersey. I stress the decent part.

Yes there are decent guys in NJ. I'm one of them. It's just like anything else, you gotta find one you can jive with.

geez such low standards...girls really think we're that bad they have to settle for decent. lol well **** that i'm not decent..i'm above that.

NOPE!

We, men and women all the same are at times good and bad. Honestly in my life there have been times when I have been a selfish prick and others when I have been a kind hearted , sensitive, good man. And I have dated women who are both on the flip side. The trick is to out way the bad with the good. I'd like to say that I am a person of large moral stature as i enter my thirties. (I think it came with age for me) In my twenties I was morally anemic. Now that I'm ready to share and grow with someone I find myself much more selfless rather that selfish with the women i date. I'd like to think this is the way it works for most people who aren't politicians or bankers. That being said any ladies like go out for a nice seafood dinner?

there are some good guys in NJ because im also one of them but i get blown off since i stutter..oh well..but i will say this alot of females in NJ want to date a guy who's like movie star type..sorry ladies but this is NJ not Cali lol
and for what i seen alot of female in NJ scare us away into looking for females at other states....

Yes! Central Jersey over here!!

Happy New Year!

Here!!! Hmu lol

Wow! I'm sorry that you feel that way. What part of NJ are you from? I do see where your coming from though. I think Hollywood and Entertainment in general may have some influence over that. Money, Sex, Fame, Power, Beauty...those things are constantly in our faces. So it's easy to get sucked into all of that. But as one poster said “maturity & experience” helps us see through the smoke screen to what really matters in ourselves and others.

I feel that a lot of people "think" they know what type of person they are looking for. But really, the question to ask oneself is: “ Do you know what type of person is really suited for you?” And to answer that questions, you really have to “know yourself”. And then you also have to factor in the current stage of life you're in (another poster mentioned his transformation as he got older).

Sometimes we may be attracted to those people who aren't good for us, due to various reasons. Ex, would be a young lady who dates guys that beat her, because she was abused as a child. Or it could even be “subconscious” little thing like; a man who's Mother was overly strict and unwittingly taught her son “perfection” is key. So he ends up marrying a trophy wife, who doesn't love him, etc.

And I think the key factor is: “What type of energy & attitude are you putting out there?” It's so true. When this was brought to my attention, it really helped me refocus and change for the better. You literally do “attract” what you “present” to the world, whether it's intentional or subconscious. Change your “perception/attitude/mindset” and you will see a BIG difference. :)

So I've come to really learn “who” I am, and look for a partner who compliments me, stimulates me (mind, body, spirit) and most importantly; has the other qualities I “lack”, so that I'm constantly learning and growing in the relationship.

Peace & Blessings!

I agree! :)

There's another post putting down women from NJ. I think there's good and bad all around. I believe it's best to just know yourself and look for the qualities you like in the other person. Let the bad go their own way and wish them all the best in the process.

Peace & Blessings.