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incredibly embarrassing
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The eye makeup that indian people wear, kohl, is filled with nutrients that help eyelashes grow.
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Shadow Boxing
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I think you state most eloquently that there is no one to fight but oneself. Bravo! Thank you. |
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Shadow Boxing
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Thanks mirror. I appreciate your feedback...
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Pieces of pieces
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Nice...
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This place is very clique-ee
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It may appear that way but I think it is more the friendships formed by those who are on here at the same times as the others. I second that... |
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Shadow Boxing
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Brilliantly crafted 
Thank you. |
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Poll: Love at first sight?
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It has been argued that "love at first sight" is an indication that a person fits your aenima / aenimus archetype particularly well. http://webspace.ship.edu/cgboer/jung.html Ha ha. I guess that's about what it boils down to, ain't it. 
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attitude
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I like ridingdubz philosophy on this point. Pain is a necessary catalyst of personal growth. You have a choice. Avoid pain and atrophy altogether. Or you can confront it-- advance through it-- learn to negotiate it, and maybe find a reward at the end of the trial.
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The Secret:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_b1GKGWJbE8 "What the Bleep do We Know" is worth a look too. |
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Shadow Boxing
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Shadow Boxing
for AJR The you You won’t— Can’t— Spot Until a light is shined for you From someplace out of thought, Out of reach, beyond, aside, disguised In glimpses sometimes caught. Throwing shadows for your fight Before your eager eyes. Sparring with your own reflection Brings your own demise. Risking lightly all your losses Weighing out all of your gains, Measure up against your crosses, Defend the purse forever restrained. Mirroring your shadow’s moves Undermines the boxer’s dance Feinting only yields a profit If there’s something to advance. No ropes for this dope, Bolos won’t work here, Your rival won’t outmatch you His punches won’t adhere No fighter ever wins a match Against his matching fear, No fighter ever clinched against His own, polished veneer. Pull back all your punches, Go ahead and rush you bum, You couldn’t really think that I would ever be so dumb. Round for round, Pound for pound, Bout for bout, Punch for punch— Diablo teases only those Who welcome in his touch. Build upon a repertoire All to no avail, Please believe me Please believe me Believe me Leave me Alone. What good do echoes do for you If they never tip the scales? Impersonate the shadow-dance, Pretend you never heard. Alone you’ll fight the next mischance, Your punches, unreturned. Circles are not spirals, They never move above They never progress farther Than the gloves you love to love. Embrace the empty ring, my friend, If you can’t embrace a dove, Or be satisfied to contend With the dance you “could have” “should have” “would have” “might have” done. 1/05/09. By me. 
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What happened?
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Oh, and to add...expectations, this is another almight killer of a possible good time. As soon as someone is "expected" to act a certain way, talk a certain way, or all around just be a certain way that usually kills what could have been a good time. This goes hand in hand with the entire "learn" ****, they move on "learning" from the experience only to repeat the experience again and again with some of the same people... OMG, F&L! You and I agree 100% on this! Expectations are the kiss of death! Took me half a life to realize I can't fix anyone (including myself most of the time!) so expectations are inappropriate and unreasonable... You like someone or you don't and you accept their differences/foibles or you don't. It's just that simple. 
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What happened?
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Remember back in the day, a guy simply asked the girl out, she said yes with no questions asked, they went out, and if it worked it worked, and if not, then that was it. When did dating become so complicated and come to involve so much work? What changed? technology has ruined the world as it was. tech was supposed to make things easier because of making things readily available. instead it's made things more difficult because people can be more choosy and can research ahead of time. the computer, with memory storage and email, was supposed to cut down on the amount of paper we use. instead our paper usage has gone up because everyone wants a copy of things where before only those who needed a copy got a copy. this is just an example. i'm not saying that the computer is the reason, but it's one of the tools of technology. another is the television. people used to go out and mingle and work outside and partake in social activities. now many sit at home and watch t.v. and watch other people live instead of doing so themselves. technology has made us fatter and lazier and slightly more informed. and that's what's changed to make things more difficult. . . . Glad we agree on that point. |
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What happened?
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Remember back in the day, a guy simply asked the girl out, she said yes with no questions asked, they went out, and if it worked it worked, and if not, then that was it. When did dating become so complicated and come to involve so much work? What changed? Internet,online dating 
That just expanded the playing field... rules of the game are still the same! LOL! 
I disagree slightly. Here's an excerpt from an earlier post I wrote. I wonder if you agree with some points... ...It's easy to date if all you want in life are presents and the occasional compliment. If all you care about is physical attraction and you're satisfied with that alone, then sure, it's going to be pretty easy for a month or so at a time. But if you're smart enough to recognize that isn't really enough to support an enduring relationship, then this kind of front-loaded approach to dating takes a lot of work in the initial stages. It's easier to assume, to walk away, than it is to really get to know someone else. The challenges, the difficulties-- those are the moments in any relationship that really answer questions of integrity and illuminate who a person is; but hey, who wants to stick around to get answers when you can just jump to the next person in line and start the cycle all over again? It just wouldn't happen this way in the real world. It's just not the same as getting to know someone you met through a mutual friend-- because at least in that situation there is some underlying baseline of common values-- the friend. The whole thing just seems to be so contrived, shallow, and artificial. Unless two people are truly committed to acknowledging and tackling the challenges imposed upon a relationship by the situation-- by the mechanism-- then really and truly this does not work. Inherent in the operational nature of online dating are serious obstacles that can and will interfere with the establishment of respect if you fail to recognize them, or, if you let them go unaddressed. |
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What happened?
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Oh, and to add...expectations, this is another almight killer of a possible good time. As soon as someone is "expected" to act a certain way, talk a certain way, or all around just be a certain way that usually kills what could have been a good time. This goes hand in hand with the entire "learn" ****, they move on "learning" from the experience only to repeat the experience again and again with some of the same people. Dating has become what it always tried to stay away from, a commitment outside of fun. And the circle keeps going well, at least with a few anyway. Oh, oh! And then you have friends! By God's own strike of vengence these people can kill any and all possibility, usually by some sort of selfish concern like "he/she didn't talk to me" or some babble, babble bull****. Okay, I'm done. 
I basically said about the same thing in an earlier post on respect. And the cycle continues... http://mingle2.com/topic/show/198712?page=2 Didn't see it, otherwise I would have quoted you. Usually I just read the initial question and answer accordingly.
No worries my friend; not something I said here-- I just added the link about two seconds ago. You couldn't have seen it there...miscommunication. Ah. Another challenge we can talk about here... |
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What happened?
Edited by
LadyHawkeByDay
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Sat 03/14/09 10:29 PM
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Oh, and to add...expectations, this is another almight killer of a possible good time. As soon as someone is "expected" to act a certain way, talk a certain way, or all around just be a certain way that usually kills what could have been a good time. This goes hand in hand with the entire "learn" ****, they move on "learning" from the experience only to repeat the experience again and again with some of the same people. Dating has become what it always tried to stay away from, a commitment outside of fun. And the circle keeps going well, at least with a few anyway. Oh, oh! And then you have friends! By God's own strike of vengence these people can kill any and all possibility, usually by some sort of selfish concern like "he/she didn't talk to me" or some babble, babble bull****. Okay, I'm done.
I basically said about the same thing in an earlier post on respect. And the cycle continues... http://mingle2.com/topic/show/198712?page=2 |
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What happened?
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Remember back in the day, a guy simply asked the girl out, she said yes with no questions asked, they went out, and if it worked it worked, and if not, then that was it. When did dating become so complicated and come to involve so much work? What changed? Two words "red flags"...simple enough, people rely to heavily on these rather stupid "flags" as if to be some sort of ridiculous penalty. One strike, down...no one gives second chances, then they "learn" from the mistake (comicly enough taking the same road anyway, just with someone who seems "different"). Date, go on one if it doesn't click...it won't work. Hell, talk to anyone on the phone for a good amount of time and you won't have to worry about a "red flag" surprise. What? There's always one you say? Well, yes and no...for every one there are 12 others. Agreed. See. But those "red" flags are often "false" flags. We used to give people enough time to show all their sides to us. We no longer do that, really. As you said, because of our internal expecations, whether consciously acknowledged or not... |
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What happened?
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True. We're not willing to invest the time because of all the potential for disaster that is attached to that time; a sort of shell-shock if you will. I just wish people could more often see the potential for success instead. I totally agree with you -- as a hypothetical. I mean, nothing would please me more than to be able to believe that there is actually someone out there who will appreciate me for who I am, without trying to "domesticate" me into someone diametrically the opposite of myself -- that I could meet someone who sees a relationship as something more than me fixing her problems -- But that's all I've ever seen, and that's all I've ever known. And I have no more reason to believe that anyone is any different from that, than I have to believe there's a 900-foot-long, invisible vibrating mosquito hovering 12 feet above me every minute of my life. There comes a time when you have to accept that maybe the thing you want the most simply doesn't exist. Aye. There's the rub. Hence I also agree with fearandloathing, to some degree expectations are the root of trouble... |
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Well answer me this!
Edited by
LadyHawkeByDay
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Sat 03/14/09 10:19 PM
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Hmmmm. Not sure corn technically counts as a vegetable in the first place. The "seeds" are on the outside, first of all, and the properties of the kernels suggest that it actually ought to be classified with grains or nuts instead... The way we use it seems to be more in keeping with the "grain" classification... Hmmm. Does corn digest more like peppers or more like an almond? 
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What happened?
Edited by
LadyHawkeByDay
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Sat 03/14/09 10:10 PM
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Remember back in the day, a guy simply asked the girl out, she said yes with no questions asked, they went out, and if it worked it worked, and if not, then that was it. When did dating become so complicated and come to involve so much work? What changed? Maybe that wasn't ever real. I mean...that sounds sort of 'fairy tale' and I don't know many people who have lived out the story. Maybe it's always been complicated and we just refused to acknowledge how much work a relationship (or even an attempt at one) really is???
I have to acknowledge this point; look at the divorce rate that came out of the sock-hop and boomer generations. It makes sense that subsequent generations might find themselves a bit leery of marriage and all its complications. Shell-shock may be the right term to use after all. |
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What happened?
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People seem to be too picky nowadays....They want the perfect mate, but that doesn't exist so they will keep on searching 
It's a shame, really...seems people are willing to invest more time in a stupid video game than they would in getting to know someone in all his or her dimensions. Sure -- I've never had a video game abandon me as soon as I solved all of its problems, and I've never had a video game try to turn me into a different person. Well, maybe a few have tried to turn me into a video game addict but that's understandable. True. We're not willing to invest the time because of all the potential for disaster that is attached to that time; a sort of shell-shock if you will. I just wish people could more often see the potential for success instead. |
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