FROM WHAT I HAVE READ IN MAGAZINES IS THAT MEN YELL AT THERE WIVES
BECAUSE THE WIFE WILL NOT SHUT UP OR THE WIFE IS JUST PLAIN LAZY. I WISH
U WELL !

i hate to say it...but you're making excuses for him..

he's made 'em, and you've accepted them, and made a few of your own

i know this, i recognize this..cuz i've done it myself


get out...while you still can

if you take your kids and just go to your sister's or a TRUSTED FRIEND's
house,you will be making a step in the right direction.

GET OUT OF HIS HOUSE!!!

as long as he gives you the little hints of love...
and large bruises,,,it WILL CONTINUE...

he does NOT really LOVE you...
my own father was just like your husband...
and now I would feed him to th...well you know...

my point is this...

no matter where you go...just GO!!!
get away from the part time love...

when you find that you CAN do this without him...
then you will be stronger for it,

and your kids will still have a loving mother...

PLEASE GET OUT,AND GET HELP!!!

WELL THERE ARE NEW LAWS THAT CAN HELP U GUYS, WITH SHELTER AND FOOD,
ASWELL. EITHER U STOP PISSING HIM OFF OR YOU GET OUT OF THAT SITUATION.
!

I agree with you ell,,,,I been down that road

Best advice, LEAVE

You can do it, and you'll see that you will be a much better person.

Hi gurlie, I am sorry to hear that sweetie. I was in the same state of
my mind that you are in now. I have 5 children too all are under 5 years
old and I just left like 6 weeks ago. I kept leaving and going back
leaving and going back then finally I just thought you know what this is
not good for me and my kids and I left. Right now, I am working two jobs
trying to get everything straighten out. They always say things get
worse before they get better. Right now, I am fighting the father of my
kids for custidy now. So, my best advice to you hunny is just to leave
and dont look back. It is really hard to find out what to do but you
just have to deal with the things when they came up and not all at my
time. I know you were scared of what is going to happen but you dont
think about that you think about what it is going to be like a couple
months down the road when you have a great car, a nice place and all
your kids with you sweetie. And, the thing about trying to find someone
that loves with you with 5 kids sweetie. Just remember I kept telling
myself that there is always one person out there for everyone that will
love and respect you for who you are and not what they want to be....
Good luck to you and your kids sweetie. Matter of fact we can do this
together. :)

Well just want you to know regardless of your choice. And I'm sure this
stands for alot of the others on this site you can e-mail us anytime you
want to if you need someone to talk too. We are not trying to make you
feel bad just to see what some of these ladies have been where you are
and have overcome the situation and so can you we are here for your
support if at any time you need friends to talk too we will not judge
you for I'm sure all of the others were in that type of situation a long
time before they finally realized that they had to get out themselves. I
wish you only the best and do hope in time you will see that is not
LOVE.

Walk out now, why you still can

Get out. Get out now. Do not accept any excuse from him, there can be
none. Please get out.

please please be careful i myself have never been abused but my sister
went through one abusive relationship after another until last year she
was murdered by a guy she only knew for about 2 months stabbed her to
death she was only 34 years old and left 3 kids behind one of which
found her body the next day it is a very hard thing to deal with
especially when you didn't even know there was abuse there and you could
have done something if you did the SOB ain't even in jail yet been on
the run for a year now

I was where you are for nine years it's hard but you can do it if for no
other reason then you have no choice. I pretty much go one day at a time
i'm in a state i can't leave my ex is military and lives 5 min from me.
i have two children everyday is a new battle and you will make it cause
when you look at your kids you realize you have no options. think of one
thing also what your sons see now is reality and is waht the world
should be in their minds. when they grow up they stand a very big chance
of being their father all over again. write me if you so choose but i'm
telling you it's not easy or a small step to take but you can do it and
the sooner you do the better chance you and your children have of
survivning noone is going to rescue you girl you have to rescue
yourself.

No sense putting up with that. If the guy can't be respectful, time to
leave, take the kids, the bank account (you'll need it for a new start),
go to another city, and leave a Dear John letter. Be sure to say you
found someone else in the letter, that might make him think twice about
hunting you down. That is my thought on the matter. Best of luck to you.
Wonder if anyone agrees with my thoughts.

My biggest question is this..WHY WOULD YOU STAY?? You are teaching your
children to be treated this way...you really need to get some
self-esteem and walk away. These men try to beat down your emotions and
you let them---walk away and walk away now!! Grab your chilren and go
and don't look back--how hard could that possibly be?? If you fear for
your life, then get the hell out!!
I really hope if you don't do it for yourself, that you do it for your
children!! God bless

this is almost a month old! hope she did what she
needed..

You deserve a new beginning and you need to start it now before he
follows through with what he threatens. If you want to break the cycle
then take a deep breath and show your children what it looks like to
TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK! They will forever thank you. Is there anyone that
you trust enough to stay with until you can develop your plan of action
further?

ITS VERY SIMPLE, LEAVE OR HAVE YOUR CHILDREN ATTEND YOUR FUNERAL

Dear Foxy, it breaks my heart to hear your story. Please believe me when
I tell you I totally understand what you are going thru. Please leave
and go to a shelter they will help you get on your feet and gain self
esteem. I know you don't want to but there is a better life out there
even without a man!! YOU DON'T DESERVE THIS. No woman deserves to be
treated this way and he is not going to change HE IS AN ALCOHOLIC ( you
can't change what you don't remember) Think of your children, you don't
want your boys to grow up like him do you? If you stay they will. If you
don't not break the cycle by setting an example. You are a woman so I
know you are strong. You must be for them. Please make a stand if not
for yourself do it for them. Feel free to email or IM me anytime if you
would like to talk. I've been there and done with 4 kids myself. It
won't be easy but, you can do it girl. JUST DO IT and don't look back.
stay as far away from him as you can and don't fall for his lies anymore
no matter how bad you want it to be true, it's is not going to be. So
JUST DO IT.

hey guys my daughter was in same kind of situation.. after calling the
cops and protective services last time .. she went back because he
PROMISED to CHANGE.. and stop all the bull----
it all started again.. know what the cops told her??
they were going to arrest HER for putting her children in KNOWN
danger.. sooooooooooo.. i hope FOXY left..for her safety and her
children's
i finally was able to talk my some sense in my daughter..
we ve all been there Id say.. with the NOT wanting to leave for one
reason or another..
Im here if anyone ever needs a place to go.. just an email away.. i
live alone too so ... you ll be safe
bigbay

Been a safe house before. YWCA in Omaha has a great program for this
situation, ck. your local YWCA

You know bigbay..that does make sense, shes putting her children at
risk...I don't think that parents think what they are doing sometimes to
the chilren! I guess I have been lucky in so many ways and just have not
even realized it--never been in abusive relationships at all, I guess
when I say I am leaving, I don't look back--I always say, never look
back just look ahead~~~theres always something brigher to look forward
to!!
So many woman think they can't get better, thats because they let these
men beat down thier self-esteem. I just don't understand how they get to
that situation where they don't have enough wisdom to get out in the
beginning when they see it starting out! I just hope that if any women
in here is faced with a situation like that, they realize that they
really don't have to rely on a man~~~they can make it on thier own!! God
Bless