I have two kids. Both are grown now but they are still my kids. Looking back on it I would say it is one of the most rewarding things I have done in my life. But don't take the decision lightly. If you have doubts about your marriage it's best to wait. Kids won't fix the relationship. It's an 18 year commitment minimum. You can't send them back if it doesn't work out.

With regard to your counselors suggestion that you may have Aspergers Syndrome - Another possibility to consider could be depression. Low serotonin levels can cause depression. Ask your doctor about SSRIs.(Selective Serotonin Re-uptake Inhibitors) I know it sounds like a drug commercial but it could make a big difference in your life. Take care and be well.

I agree. I do it all the time. I see an interesting post and I check the profile to put it in context. People who make a lot of interesting posts probably get checked more often. You should be flattered if people are checking your profile. And if they do it multiple times it's probably because the have not yet committed your profile to memory. That's what the profile is there for. As to why they don't leave a message. In my case it would be a lot of "Oh yeah now I remember...." No harm, no foul. IMHO.

You could be right. On the other hand what's up with the people who don't even bother to post a profile picture?

Ivy Bowler

No- Actually that's my soon to be ex wife's leg. I know what you are thinking....Mashed potatoes?

Aww that's cute.

Just a friendly heads up. The "Coffee-house Bars and Chit-Chat" section tends to be the most free wheeling. Try checking out one of the topic area sections that fits your interest. There is something for everyone here. Be patient. It gets easier.

I never count it until it's gone. Then I have Zero. So I use the credit card.

But speaking of counting how could you have made 4554 comment if you just joined 8/8/14? That would be about 60 comments a day. Something doesn't add up.

Hey I'm Irish too. Actually 7 out of 8 grandparents. Somehow one Englishman got in there.

I had a similar experience when I was 18. My girlfriend and I were parking one night when an officer came along. Since my girlfriend was under 18 he said she had to ride with him down to the police station and call her parents. The officer said I could not come along to the station... Now this was a fairly new relationship and I had not even met her parents. So what could I do? ...I drove over to her house and rang the bell. Her father answered the door....Yeah that was a pretty mortifying experience... but about a year later he told me he had really admired my courage. True story.

I love it -or should I say I can't resist it? "Resistance is futile".

Yes please. Or maybe Kinky costumes... I just started a new thread under "Arts and Crafts" for Halloween costume ideas. It's one of my favorite Holidays. It gives people a chance to unleash their inner psyche.

Ok thanks Fleta. I still do it almost every year. Although lately they have been tamer to avoid scaring the trick-or-treaters. But when I have an adult party to go to all limits are off. (That's me on the right in the photo above)

Halloween is one of my favorite holidays. I think it is a chance to unleash your inner self. What is your favorite costume from the past? If you have a photo of it post it here. Do you have any plans or ideas for this year? Let's hear them.

Here is a photo of one of mine from the past:

Uh waitress, can I see the other menu please?

I understand your frustration. To translate "Ivy Bowler" you have to deconstruct "Ivy" as "I've" + "E" and then recognize that "I've" is a contraction of "I have". Then say "Bowler" with a Brit accent. The er in Bowler becomes an "A". Put it together and you get "I have Ebola" which is a really bad disease.

To get the Minnesota joke you have to know that Anhauser Busch is a Midwestern beer brewing company. But when you say it with a Norwegin accent it sounds like "And how is your bush?" to which Lena replies Fine, and how is your pecker?

I like doing things that are both productive and good exercise. Such as clearing the driveway with a snow shovel rather than use a blower or cutting wood with a hand saw. When the job is done you can see the results of your effort.

Took me a while to get that one until I tried it with a brit accent.

So here is one from Minnesota:

It was a hot day in Minnesota. So Lena decided to walk into town to get dinner meat for Nils, her husband. As she walked to the market she approached a barroom and thought to herself." Sheesh it's a really hot day maybe I should have a mug of ze cold beer". She walked in and sat down at the bar. The bartender approached her and asked what she would like. She replied "I tink I'll have ze cold beer." With that the bartender replied "Anhauser Busch"? And she replied "Fine und howz der pecker too"?

When Harry met Sally?

Yes love is real but it is not one thing. Often people think about love as in falling in love. You might be attracted to someone and think you are in love but you really don't know them yet. Then there is the stage of total mind meld when two people feel so accepted and involved that they block out the rest of the world. This is young love. You see the other as perfect in every way. This is a very fun part of love but not really sustainable in my experience. The reality of love is that you take the bad with the good with an eye on the long term. This can be a sacrificing love. You continue to give and persevere in the times of conflict. But as people mature they sometimes go in different directions. We become more true to ourselves at some point and realize the transitory nature of life. Even in letting go there can be love. The things that attracted you to that person originally are still there. Hopefully at some point you can come to an accepting love again - especially if you have had children together. Statistically over half of marriages end in divorce but that does not mean that love is not real - it just means that life is long and people change. It also does not mean that it wasn't worth doing. Love is one of the best things in life. It takes courage to find love. You have to be willing to make yourself vulnerable. You will get hurt. But it's worth it. You are stronger than you think.