Some kind of acknowledgement is usually given to people who answer you. And generally if someone asks you a question in an email, it is polite to give some kind of response.

I don't know exactly when dateing on line got so difficult. A friendly Hello. A simple compliment that no-one picked to pieces. You would tell a thumbnail about yourself, mention a couple of interests, and then polite conversations. No third degree or auto-biographys or security checks. Used to be the date-sites did public events for charities and you could meet people in a respectable situations. And if you weren't into that you met at a nice Mall or community event.

I don't know where all the beef about people lying about appearance and fake persona's came in. Sometimes I think people don't want to believe what they see with their own eyes. I don't lie to anyone. No I don't run out for full body photos every 3 months but the basics are the same. It does seem to be more and more common that I am hearing lies so I know it happens.



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The forum topic lives!! I appreciate your post.

...I didn't know people lying about appearance was a big deal on the web. I don't see the point because if you meet someone then the lie is quickly reveled. I'm not naive...I am aware that there are dangerous people on the web....I watch the news and I will take precautions before I meet anyone.
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Yes I am not going to jump the first time a guy calls to go stand on the auction block for a bad cup of coffee. And after a few chats a guy doesn't want to figure out something fun to do and actually ask me for a date he isn't interested in dateing to meet anyone for more than a booty call and I am not going to bother. If anyone seems to be abuseing the dragging things out for months and months it seems to be the guys who want to sit in their underwear, drinking, and whineing how nobody wants them after they brag on line how they have gone through a series of lovers.

I am sure there are guys out there that will say well she isn't going to accept me the way I am then forget it. Fine. I don't need some guy who gambles his money away, smokes like a chimney, has to go home early from the date because he is on house arrest, or so he can let his mother's dog out. Or some guy who uses his Mother as a free babysitter all weekend so he can hang out on the golf course rather than face up to the fact that he got his secretary who is not much younger than his own kid pregnant leaving a wife who put him through school. You think I am kidding but this is stuff guys tell on themselves in the first few calls. I am sure it is just as bad the other way. Just seems like there are more and more Frogs & Frogettes out there.

No, we answered your questions and you haven't replied to most of us, so we are having fun picking on each other.

To you. In other words what are some of the things that mean a lot to you? Me-Family, Angel, her daughter, health, and happiness.

I said....

Of course I won't know for sure until I meet them in person...didn't say I would....but ...when I do meet a man from the web I'll know far more about him than I would if I just met him in a bar.
I already know some about you just from your comments in my post thread.

He said....

If the guy is being truthful you will. Doesn't mean you'll have any chemistry with that person. If you meet someone at a bar, you'll at least know if you're attracted to someone or not. Online, sure you can talk for a bit, you'll meet them and chances are they'll have a lazy eye or something lol.

No...I didn't....does it matter how long they have been here?


They're talking negatively about the site when they haven't been here long. It takes time to develop relationships.

(((elli)))
you hit the nail right on the head !!!!
thats all she is asking for to be treated like a lady !

Did you notice that they haven't been here long?

It's only a waste if you think you are going to figure someone out online before you meet them in person.

Trust me, you won't.

Mingling, talking, discovering, opening up are all things that should be done in real life, but life is fast now and people want the same fast life in relation so you meet in a bar or other social place you don't always choose who you talk to and when you do to often everything as to be learned and talked about in that first date people don't want to waste to many nights on who might not be right person so they press to know all right away.

With Internet dating you have the option who to talk to or not and who to know better or ignore, you can take your time really talk and if you really hit it off then you meet.

So welcome have fun meet friends interesting people and hopefully the love of your life.

Oh ya .. we all get the same lines hon. It's called the





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I agree a dating site, in theory, is a convienant way of meeting someone. The problem is, people often misrepresent themselves online.

Why invest countless hours talking to someone online, only to meet and they either:

a) don't look like their pictures
b) find out there is no chemistry
c) find out that they lie about who they are and what they are all about

Being 30, I wouldn't think you'd want to piss away your time talking online, when you can simply meet and see what the chemistry is like and go from there.

I've gotten the same crappy doodle lines, too. And, I'm not as cute as you!!

And then there are the ones who all they have to say is "you're so beautiful". Okay, and then what? It's all in the eye of the beholder, anyway, so .... where's the beef?