I once wrote a poem for a friend to give his girlfriend that would basically say the same thing. I can email it to you if you wish.

I learned through a marriage counselor one very effective method of communicating that I have passed on to others. And the feedback has always been positive.

So here it is:

When you want to talk about subjects that may be upsetting to one or the other, sit next to or facing each other and hold hands. Do NOT let go, remain holding hands... if you must, wrap a ribbon around your joined hands to remind you both not to let go.

Then calmly begin to talk about the issue at hand. It is supposedly humanly impossible to fight, raise your voice, say something in anger, etc. while touching each other. If one of you gets upset, the first impulse is to break the connection (holding hands)... to allow the anger to vent. "Forcing" yourselves to stay connected by touch during a discussion of a touchy subject will force both to use kinder words and think more about what they are saying before just blurting it out.

It has proven effective for every person I've given this technique to. Try it.

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Another method I've found helpful is to write a heartfelt letter and present it with a rose. (Make sure you read it and make changes if necessary before giving it to the other person). I then tell the person, or leave the note folded with a short note on the front explaining that I needed to get something off my chest and I need them to think about what I've written before responding.

It gives the reader time to digest what you've written (but more importantly, it gives the writer a chance to speak his/her mind without the other's defensive interruption). It also prevents the misunderstanding or accusations of misquoting or being misquoted.

Hope this helps.

I didn't lose enough weight to suit him within the timeframe he gave me, so he started looking online for a China mail-order bride.

Silly me.

Not so fast.... I've talked to 4 of of my Mutual Matches, already met one and things are progressing slowly considering we both have busy schedules. So far, just friends.

I have also talked at length to another of those 4, with whom I've become dear friends over the past month and we will be meeting next week (due to living so far apart). I am leaving my options open and letting things progress naturally. So far I have met 3 friends, any one of whom could develop into something more.

The other two remain in contact once in a while. So, I would say Mutual Match can work, it just depends on whether one or the other makes a move... just like anything else. Cast your line, you might get a bite.

Of course, but I think I must have brain damage when I look back at some of the relationships I've held out hope for.

I always have hope for love. Without, what purpose is there in life?

Brain Damage.

Christian.

Actually, I was joking in response to your rather strong heading. Seems a bit boastful, don't you think?

I looked at your profile... besides wondering why an 18 year old would need a dating site to meet girls, I have the following suggestions.

Don't use the term "Perfect" Woman/Girl, there's no such thing even though you think there may be a perfect one for you... it's a turnoff.

Also, put a little more about activities you might like to share with a girl. Your profile wreaks of testosterone. Soften it a little showing you are open to doing romantic things (unless they are out of the question).

And don't write in your profile that you like girls/women... if a girl gets that far, she'll slam the door on that one. Makes you sound like a player. At least that is my opinon as a more experienced "girl".

Your pics are fine... a nice selection... although some people may tell you not to show a bare chest shot... I see nothing wrong with it, as you have the 6 pack, so flaunt it.. which I think you've done tastefully.

Again, just my opinion as an experienced "girl" and I hope it helps. Good luck and Welcome to Mingle!!

Posting in the forums usually gets you noticed sooner, at least it has been my experience.

ike, ike, ike, ike, ike... runs away fast with tail between legs

And Then???

I, personally, have dated a few short men and every one of them was self-centered, controlling, insecure and had a mean streak. That just tells me I had poor taste in men at the time.

But there are a heck of a lot of men in this world, and I can't judge all men based on a few bad ones.

I am only 5'3" and I happen to be very attracted to big and tall men. Don't know why, they just really turn me on.

Gee, I'm not sure how to take that comment?

Actually, I have already met two people on here since I joined just before Christmas. One is now a valued friend, and the other is a potential.. still in the early stages.

Good Morning. Headed for my third cup of coffe...

Welcome to the best site out there!

Trust me on this one.... YES

But.... But.... But the whole point to a forum is TO TALK!!!!

Gotta love your humor, girl...

I love Fossils (finding them, not dating them).

Yessssss, meet you there!!