how should i tell my significant other i need more space?

with your own words

like most every women does.. say it's over.

Kindly ask for more space

Well for starters....realize that no matter how you say it....it may not be taken well.

Don't huney coat it. Be nice about it if you can. But tell him why and be honest.

just be honest...and open tell him what you are really feeling...

Tape...lots & lots of duct tape...

Ahh, yes....the old standby.

"I need some space." = "Get lost."

That's a tough one. Is he generally open to communication? You wouldn't want to hurt him...I would gradually ease it into a comnversation...." I NEED more space....

Good luck!!!!

Tell him in the nicest way, " Stop smothering me!"

Maybe you could leave this discussion thread open on his computer

Thanks everyone...will give it a try...

I once wrote a poem for a friend to give his girlfriend that would basically say the same thing. I can email it to you if you wish.

I learned through a marriage counselor one very effective method of communicating that I have passed on to others. And the feedback has always been positive.

So here it is:

When you want to talk about subjects that may be upsetting to one or the other, sit next to or facing each other and hold hands. Do NOT let go, remain holding hands... if you must, wrap a ribbon around your joined hands to remind you both not to let go.

Then calmly begin to talk about the issue at hand. It is supposedly humanly impossible to fight, raise your voice, say something in anger, etc. while touching each other. If one of you gets upset, the first impulse is to break the connection (holding hands)... to allow the anger to vent. "Forcing" yourselves to stay connected by touch during a discussion of a touchy subject will force both to use kinder words and think more about what they are saying before just blurting it out.

It has proven effective for every person I've given this technique to. Try it.

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Another method I've found helpful is to write a heartfelt letter and present it with a rose. (Make sure you read it and make changes if necessary before giving it to the other person). I then tell the person, or leave the note folded with a short note on the front explaining that I needed to get something off my chest and I need them to think about what I've written before responding.

It gives the reader time to digest what you've written (but more importantly, it gives the writer a chance to speak his/her mind without the other's defensive interruption). It also prevents the misunderstanding or accusations of misquoting or being misquoted.

Hope this helps.

Its Not YOU Its ME

If you can't tell him how can he be your S/O. I am not trying to bash you I want you to stop and think for a minute here.
To become an S/O should they have already become your bestfriend? Don't you have the ability to discuss everything with each other? For me communication is such a vital key to a relationship that I couldn't call someone an S/O with out the ablity to talk about anything and everything.

is it like foxworthy says 'when she wants space she already got someone to fill it'

Get away from me.
Go fishing.
Play pool.
Get a life.
Find a dog...and walk it.
Will you do the laundry?

Honey, I think I am feeling like I need to tell you something.

I am gay.











Well, THAT would work....lol


But, to be real with ya..
Honesty ALWAYS is the best way and thing to talk about with him...

I've had that line laid on me before. No more. If some woman tells me anymore, "I need some space," I just tell 'em, "Hey, darlin', take all the space you need. I'm gone."

Down the road I go. I don't have time for wishy-washy.