100% FREE ONLINE DATING
sponsored links
|
|
|
haha. Some guy the other night told me he loved me after the second email.  lol - so based on that guys speed, you'll be married by New Years :) Congrats? and what do ya want for a wedding gift 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I made a mistake on a profile on another site one time and accidentally listed my age as 76. I still got emails from 20 yo BOYS That cracked me up - I have too. well my assumption is that what they did was see my photo and not notice my age....but ya never can tell  besides I'm too old for them anyway  It's funny, I don't consider myself old - although, too old for a 20something - but I also remember being that age and believing, along with a lot of other 20somethings then, 40s were so far off (I'm now 43), I'd/we'd be dead by then anyway.....Maybe the age death pit for this generations 20something has been extended beyond 40something :) |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
I didn't know it meant that!
|
|
Many years ago when I first started chatting online this guy asked me what I was wearing. I told him the truth - fleece PJs and a dressing gown. It was not what he wanted to hear, but I didn't know I had to make it up! I am older and wiser now, and less guilable too. I remember doing that too. For the life of me I couldn't understand why anyone would care to know what I was wearing - and over chat  But now I must really be out of the loop - because I thought kickin' it meant just relaxing..... or maybe that's the point 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I made a mistake on a profile on another site one time and accidentally listed my age as 76. I still got emails from 20 yo BOYS That cracked me up - I have too. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
A new holiday tradition....
|
|
With Black Friday right around the corner, I thought this would be a good time to post this... Christmas 2011 -- Birth of a New Tradition As the holidays approach, the giant Asian factories are kicking into high gear to provide Americans with monstrous piles of cheaply produced goods -- merchandise that has been produced at the expense of American labor. This year will be different. This year Americans will give the gift of genuine concern for other Americans. There is no longer an excuse that, at gift giving time, nothing can be found that is produced by American hands. Yes there is! It's time to think outside the box, people. Who says a gift needs to fit in a shirt box, wrapped in Chinese produced wrapping paper? Everyone -- yes EVERYONE gets their hair cut. How about gift certificates from your local American hair salon or barber? Gym membership? It's appropriate for all ages who are thinking about some health improvement. Who wouldn't appreciate getting their car detailed? Small, American owned detail shops and car washes would love to sell you a gift certificate or a book of gift certificates. Are you one of those extravagant givers who think nothing of plunking down the Benjamines on a Chinese made flat-screen? Perhaps that grateful gift receiver would like his driveway sealed, or lawn mowed for the summer, or driveway plowed all winter, or games at the local golf course. There are a bazillion owner-run restaurants -- all offering gift certificates. And, if your intended isn't the fancy eatery sort, what about a half dozen breakfasts at the local breakfast joint. Remember, folks this isn't about big National chains -- this is about supporting your home town Americans with their financial lives on the line to keep their doors open. How many people couldn't use an oil change for their car, truck or motorcycle, done at a shop run by the American working guy? Thinking about a heartfelt gift for mom? Mom would LOVE the services of a local cleaning lady for a day. My computer could use a tune-up, and I KNOW I can find some young guy who is struggling to get his repair business up and running. OK, you were looking for something more personal. Local crafts people spin their own wool and knit them into scarves. They make jewelry, and pottery and beautiful wooden boxes. Plan your holiday outings at local, owner operated restaurants and leave your server a nice tip. And, how about going out to see a play or ballet at your hometown theatre. Musicians need love too, so find a venue showcasing local bands. Honestly, people, do you REALLY need to buy another ten thousand Chinese lights for the house? When you buy a five dollar string of light, about fifty cents stays in the community. If you have those kinds of bucks to burn, leave the mailman, trash guy or babysitter a nice BIG tip. You see, Christmas is no longer about draining American pockets so that China can build another glittering city. Christmas is now about caring about US, encouraging American small businesses to keep plugging away to follow their dreams. And, when we care about other Americans, we care about our communities, and the benefits come back to us in ways we couldn't imagine. THIS is the new American Christmas tradition. Forward this to everyone on your mailing list -- post it to discussion groups -- throw up a post on Craigslist in the Rants and Raves section in your city -- send it to the editor of your local paper and radio stations, and TV news departments. This is a revolution of caring about each other, and isn't that what Christmas is about? BUY AMERICAN - BE AMERICAN The job you save might be your own I like this idea. Since the 50's we've lived in an extreme consumer marketed culture. I've read marketing reports from journals pitching the obligation of marketing firms to use any psychological means to persuade consumers they can't live without this and that. Most of which, is mass produced, and for the last quarter century more and more outside the country. I'm the last to suggest closing borders and isolating. We're a global society, and reversal isn't really an option in the modern world. For myself though, I would much prefer the hand crafted item from the local artisan's shop, a trip to a local live performance, or something homemade anytime, and I'm often asked for items I create as well by those around me. Happy holidays, |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
So far, I am really enjoying reading this thread. There is some interesting discussion going on. In regards to Motowndowntown, someone isn't always going to be able to recognize when someone else actually does have a disorder. In fact, the other person might not even know s/he has one. So if the behavior is "abnormal", even if s/he really is overreacting, stating such isn't necessarily going to help the situation. In fact, the other person is more likely to "tune out" instead. In that case, because of the disorder, that person is likely to experience unintentional gaslighting effects. This just undermines the entire communication process with that person. Therefore, if it is someone whom you (in the general, not the specific) genuinely care for, it is worthwhile to take this into consideration and adopt a new tact when dealing with that person. Sometimes stating the truth too strongly will be mistaken for a personal attack just because of the force behind the words. Most everyone is going to react defensively when they feel attacked - that's just normal. So understanding why s/he feels cornered is a big step toward resolving the problem. This is well stated. Something I've noticed, is that if 10 random strangers are asked their definitions of "normal" and "abnormal" behavior, it's likely there will be several different definitions, meaning any one of the group considering their behavior quite normal, would likely be defined as abnormal by others in the same group. I've had friends describe dates/past mates as borderline, sociopathic, and or bipolar for the other person's expression/responses to the person relating the events. :) Somehow I'm guessing the past date/mate may likely be describing those relating such to me in very similar terms to their friends :) |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Hi, If I can join in and add a comment - I've read this post, and a bunch of the responses to it. It got me thinking - I remember having dinner with a friend's family....the younger sister's fiance was present and every comment by this man, about or to the woman he was engaged to and sitting next to at the dinner table, was at her expense. The whole family - this was her family - laughed with her fiance, and she'd respond laughing it off too. By the end of the evening I felt sick, but they were all so happy she'd made such a good match, and that seemed to be all that mattered. She spent the evening being the butt of ridicule suggesting she was silly, inept, and that the fiance was the patient one for accommodating and laughing off her faults. And it's sad, but I can't imagine she ever went without being told how silly or emotional...etc...her fiance (and family) defined her as. Never let anyone make you the source of their self-esteem. With the exception of stand-up on political figures (expected anymore), if there's humor to be found, it wont be at the expense of another. And never confuse halting and restrictive statements, no matter how gentle or humorous the tone, with understanding, concern, or guidance.
|
|
|
|
|
