This is normal. The ratio from memory is something like 150 male accounts for every female one at date sites, on average.
Ultimately it's very high competition for a very low standard, given most of the women we'd all like to chase rarely, if ever come here. When they do they get chased off by the sheer multitude of messages within days, since the vast majority of those are men they clearly wouldn't be interested in.

It's something you have running in the background to your social life, like boiling a kettle. Never make these kind of sites your social focus, that's exactly like going to meat-market cheap nightclubs hoping to date one of the table dancers (hint: they're banging the bouncers).

All the NATO nations media centres are heavily badmouthing Russia over this purely because they took the oppositional stand to NATO intervention in the most recent complete fabrication of politics in the middle east.

Mostly the issue between NATO at the CIS is at present, the Russian's Caspian Sea oil table. It's the only other big one after the Persian Gulf. Afghanistan, Iraq and Iran encircle it. NATO has a hard on for Iran.
It's pretty obvious the oil wars are still running hot.

There are ethical investigative journalists based in the Crimean and Kuban peninsulas whose webpages you can look up for a little more direct source-reporting.


I'd characterise the situation kind of like this:
Texas has a national air guard unit and some local bases of the USAF, imagine they just decided one day they own all the planes in the state. But Washington wants at least the ones stationed at local USAF bases returned if it's going to secede, but they can keep the air national guard vipers.
So texas says, nah we'll keep the lot, and we're not paying for other resources imports either. Washington says oh no you're not and oh yes you are, so texas just stops talking to them.

That's Ukraine and Russia.

Putin doesn't need to invade. If he wants the Crimean occupied, he just has to back off, go have some tea and let the Kremlin do what it did with Georgia back in the 90s.

It wasn't the Russians which attacked the Tblisi government using missile cruisers of the Black Sea Fleet. It was a "rogue Admiral."
It wasn't the Russians which attacked the Tblisi government all down the coastline with Russian tanks. It was "rogue Abkhazian insurgents" and nobody knew where they got the tanks from.

He'd just do that. If that was what he wanted. This is about an argument over money/materiel.

Novorossiysk is an old Naval training centre, it's been there as long as Sebastopol (sevastopol).
They moved back there by '98 anyway. Russia gave Sebastopol back over to Ukraine back when they gave them a small fleet of obsolete missile-frigates.
The lease is about the fact Russian ships are in missile range of the NATO bases in Bulgaria and weapons dumps in Romania without having to leave the port, otherwise it makes no difference to the Black Sea Fleet if it's based at Sebastopol or the Kuban peninsula (Novorossiysk). Most of the front line interceptor squadrons in that region have always been based on the Kuban anyway, it's perfect. And air defence network is far more effective on the Kuban, the Fleet is much more invulnerable there from attacks of any kind. The training base is huge, with massive air field and now with newer facilities, they wouldn't care except for firing missiles at NATO ships without leaving port when they try to enter the Black Sea, which isn't very likely anyway but it's a thought.

Crimea has been vying for independence from Ukraine since '91.

The main thing the Russians/Kremlin wanted back from Ukraine for the gas pipeline was their nuclear bombers back, which has been the real nature of gas pipeline negotiations between the two countries for the last 20 years. They did get their Blackjacks back (heavy supersonic strategic bombers), but not their Backfires (medium supersonic strategic bombers). Of course they just lost a Flanker, Fulcrum and Foxbat fleet wholesale, but thankfully (for them) they never stationed Foxhounds in Ukraine. Negotiations are all about cold war surplus materiel that makes an average industrial nation into an almost-superpower in one hit. Russia wants it all back, the Ukrainian government wants a bigger economy.

This is all nobody else's business. It's like Texas and Washington having a problem and the EU thinking it can intervene.

Got another way to put it, this more cryptic.

The word demon originally meant (in biblical times) simultaneously an ancestral spirit and divine messenger. Possessed by a demon, or the spirit of god, who can tell when one man's demon is another man's angel.

Point being the worst possible thought ever is clearly: yourself.

Self-loathing is both the thought you can't escape from, and the one which drives you to hurt others.

eg.1, say you loathed incontinence, became incontintent and then someone made fun of you for being incontinent.

eg.2, now imagine it was something you'd kill or die over. The question then becomes, are the loudest voices shouting for the death penalty of paedophiles, themselves closet paedophiles?
Studies in clinical psychology would suggest so.

These are the worst thoughts, the darkest reaches we condemn because we are, all of us, the same thing as everyone else, including the worst malcontents you've ever heard of. By condemning others we hope to govern ourselves.

It is fearful.

I'm way of the reservation with this, just random nonscience, but theoretically we should be like microcosms for the way the universe works shouldn't we?

Which does sound reminiscent of Plato, which is actually where 3rd century christianity adopted it from (it's not in hebrew scripture).
The divine spark of mankind, the immortal soul.
In hebrew the term mistranslated for christian bibles actually means to breathe, and is in scripture as the law about declaring a medical death, it has nothing to do with afterlives or divine immortal spirits or anything like that but there you go.

I'd bet you can guess what I'm thinking but he can't.

I've never been very successful because I'm selective about personalities I'm comfortable with being physically open with, but that's okay it just means I really very much prefer a very compatable lady and we honestly like each other as people.

It's just a tighter screen with your best interests at heart. The trick is to find every positive way of looking at yourself and the world all the time as best you can. People really respond to that and the rest is just patience I guess.

At least that's how I look at it. It's never rejection, it's always for the best. Would you want someone who didn't really want you? Do you like making yourself sad? No. So it was always for the best, it's never rejection.

Think of date sites as networking, but you have to increase your social activity to also meet people day to day, and look for opportunities to interact with strangers in a comfortable way, humour is often the best, a humourous comment in the checkout line and you've got a friend to chat with while you're shopping. You have to do these things because what you need is someone who likes you and that's about seeing your personality in action.

I'm an iceberg to that ship you're on board with.


Loneliest I've ever been was when I was actually with a pretty hot chick...who was completely incompatable to the point of draining, and the whole thing was honestly like having your head locked in a small box for years, dying to just get out and breathe the fresh air again.

No.

I have prints of the original scriptural documents and stellae in their original text/languages and correctly translated, which the bible does not do, and following hebrew governing system which theoretically christianity is supposed to represent with reformation, there is no intrinsic problem with homosexuality in the conventional terms it is understood today.

At the time some of the biblical scriptures were written (primary source documents, not published bibles which are inaccurate and written much later, about a thousand years later), the Roman Empire was still strong and Roman law was widespread, and under Roman law a man is considered the same as a female until he shaves, for the purposes of sexual relationships whilst homosexuality perse was illegal, a male whom does not yet shave is considered sexually female in a homosexual encounter, thus not illegal sexual congress.

So there were social issues related to homosexuality, but this has nothing to do with two maturely consenting adult homosexuals, it has more to do with the practise of paedophiles sexually abusing underage boys who are slaves, because slavery is legal and slaves have no rights, and boys are women under the law when it comes to sex.

Now the biblical issue with homosexuality has no connection whatsoever with the modern issues whereby some people just don't want others to practise freedom, liberty and the right to choose consenting, adult sexual partners.
The biblical issue with regional laws about homosexuality was also about slave rights and paedophiles and not really about homosexuality, it's kind of mislabelled when taken in the correct context.

That's how the people who wrote the original biblical scripts themselves frame it. It's always best to look up original documents and have them independently translated directly, if you are genuinely concerned about what the people who wrote the bible were actually saying. The published bibles you buy, they seriously don't tell you that. They tell you a whole bunch of things that was just never even written in original documentation. It's just made up, or borrowed from pagan beliefs.

Just one point in fact, the devil, didn't even exist as a word until after the 13th century. Nothing like that whatsoever is written in the original biblical scripts. There is just no figure like that at all. The word itself appeared in modern bibles by way of a mistranslation of hebrew into greek, greek into latin, and latin into middle-english, which is where the word devil comes from. Originally, it meant angel but even that isn't an accurate translation, it means ancestral spirit, like the spirit of Abraham working through your family line, and a visitation of a messenger in a dream. In latin that reads demon. In greek it's actually divine messenger. It's a mistranslation.

An articulate, beautiful post SkyLady, however I find lots of people are very booksmart about relationships, but in practise they go right ahead and do the complete opposite of everything they say.
Like a teen game.

Very, very rare to find people in general, so competent at thinking on their feet that you can just take everything they say at face value and apply it directly to what they do in front of your eyes and it matches precisely. Ridiculously rare, as if humanity was a satirical comedy about itself.

In fact you know what, I've always found people are generally threatened by it, as if you're supposed to play a theatre of life, not actually really live it.

How about this for a bumper sticker:

Flashing my boobs, side-swiping your car, it's all the same when I'm PMSing.

Actually a genuine warning for tourists up northern queensland, when sharks are in the water swim at your own peril with a 50/50 chance of being eaten. When a crocodile is in the water there is 100% chance you'll be eaten.

The last tourist to get eaten by a croc was leaning over the railing on a riverboat right next to a sign that said, "danger, crocodiles, do not lean over railing." His wife was trying to take a photo of him with a croc in the background, so he leaned over the rail and it leapt several metres out of the water and took him off with it. Killed/eaten obviously, rangers shot the croc later.

It's like a dinosaur. How is it tourists think they're going to be okay playing with it?

Last girl I dated was only a member for a couple of weeks and she said her inbox had over 150 messages within a few days of joining, it was literally impossible to even read them all let alone respond to them all.
It was so overwhelming she deleted her account after a couple of weeks, she said.

And the truth is any halfway decent lady doesn't have to try that hard to get dates or sex, if a date site turns out to be a big hassle and for many women it really really is, why would they continue to bother with the site at all, let alone sitting down for the next year to reply to all the penis-picture and sexually entitled messages they get.

Quantum of Solace qualitively, Craig's Casino Royale for homage to Fleming that actually takes him seriously as a writer.

Dan Craig's Bond movies are the only ones which remotely reflect Ian Flemings books. The amount of sarcasm Hollywood traditionally put into their Bond franchise could be considered an homage, but on the other hand could have started off as poking a bit of fun at Fleming, his books were initially designed to try to translate some of the insider experience of working for MI5. Bond is a serious dramatic character without batman gadgets or machine guns behind submarine-supercar headlights, just a really good set of improvisation and old school spycraft skills, and a small calibre concealed weapon.

He was never written as the playboy-superhero existing in some fictional dimension that rains hot underwear models named after their vaginas. That's the Hollywood BondMan, it's not Fleming's. Daniel Craig is Fleming's Bond, to a T.

The Kennedy tapes clearly display that historically executive orders for the Pentagon are generally handed to the President by the Pentagon...

How small minded do you have to be not to realize that any domestic and economic system is really good administrated by qualified, ethical people and really bad administrated by unqualified, selfish people?

Half of democratic Europe and half the Australian bipartisan parliament is a socialist institution. They work just fine.

The issues, same as capitalist issues are all about preserving individual rights in the face of community and governing rights. Socialism, as a purely economic system has nothing to do with that, it's all about political representation for those concerned about individual rights and a lobby for them to make grievances not only heard, but a legal responsibility of the government to address them.

Socialist and capitalist governments have failed on that regard, it's what political reform is all about.

This "capitalism vs socialism" knee jerk american rednecks get into is nothing more than sports spectating as if you're at a game. You boo the other team and cheer yours, but it's not like you're the one down there actually playing ball and those two teams probably get along a lot better than you and their supporters do in the crowd stalls. It's all just kind of childish, and nothing to do with reality.

I've always thought it was a circumstantial description and not a category of selection. I mean as a premeditated relationship option it's pretty robotic, ie. selfish and laced with contempt. Best scenario for that would be hate sex but even that generally occurs circumstantially unless you're a fetishist.