I'd be thinking that at least he thinks ahead, even if I would never have sex on a first date. I might even think to ask if he has unscented condoms.

Thanks everyone. To be honest, I only had one boyfriend and I dated him twice. I have been through a lot of let us say domestic abuse in my family and I was scared of dating the first time. I hadn't told him about my disability, I don't think, except perhaps he realized because of my facebook page or something. I broke up with him because in June we had sex and then I went out of town for two weeks. We only texted a little bit because he was a workaholic. Then all of a sudden he stops texting me. So after three weeks I finally officially broke up with him. I don't know what happened.

My point is that I worried my lack of knowledge of sex and the appropriate responses made him uninterested in me. That added to my disability. He should at least have been happy I felt trusting enough to give him my virtue, right?

I have been searching for the right guy for a while. My ideal date is:

Age 24-27 (Max age of 30)
Decent build and height
Has a car
does not work all the time with not much free time
will not be judemental
is open minded
is outgoing
loves animals
does not smoke at all
is passionate
good listener
has the ability to go slow in a relatsionship


I am a bit overweight, stand a little under 5 foot 2 inches, have blonde hair, blue eyes, I do not smoke or drink, I have 5 cats and a dog, I am outgoing, love to play sports, read, write and I could go on and on. I cannot legally drive, and I am 22. If you live in Ny's Southern Tier area, and are interested let me know.

So, I've noticed that whenever I tell a prospective date I have a form of a disability they stop talking to me or if we have already been dating a little while they ignore me. I don't even get to tell them I am fully functional and am very independent.

I have some difficulty with social things and occasionally I get overwhelmed with my surroundings or by too much stimuli. It's not the end of the world. I am a very passionate person. I can love just like any other person can and actually, I am much more empathetic than the average person. When someone is sad or upset, I feel that like it is I who am sad and upset.

So, maybe I have some flaws, but so does everyone else in the world. Everyone has some sort of "disability." Whether it be sensory issues, lack of social skills, anger management, difficulty learning certain things etc.

I wish I could find a man that will overlook my disability and see the real me without being scared. Someone who will realize I am in many ways a great person and want to be with me for what I can bring to a relationship, not what my disability will bring.

Hello, I am KSTARLEO, and I am actually somewhat new to relationships and dating in general.

I actually don't even know the difference between dating and relationships to be honest.

I have dated one man but that did not work out two different times. I am a bit nervous and shy about this whole thing, but I am trying to be as close an everyday person as I can, as I do not believe in normal. I don't fit in with most people. I want a chance at to find someone to love me and I them. Maybe get married one day and have a family.