So, I've noticed that whenever I tell a prospective date I have a form of a disability they stop talking to me or if we have already been dating a little while they ignore me. I don't even get to tell them I am fully functional and am very independent.

I have some difficulty with social things and occasionally I get overwhelmed with my surroundings or by too much stimuli. It's not the end of the world. I am a very passionate person. I can love just like any other person can and actually, I am much more empathetic than the average person. When someone is sad or upset, I feel that like it is I who am sad and upset.

So, maybe I have some flaws, but so does everyone else in the world. Everyone has some sort of "disability." Whether it be sensory issues, lack of social skills, anger management, difficulty learning certain things etc.

I wish I could find a man that will overlook my disability and see the real me without being scared. Someone who will realize I am in many ways a great person and want to be with me for what I can bring to a relationship, not what my disability will bring.

your other ability covers up of smaller disabilities that how the universe work

Given your previous statement that "everyone has some sort of 'disability'", this is the same lament of every single not-happily-single woman - and every single not-happily-single man - in the world.

Perhaps don't be so quick to tell others of your particular disabilities, quirks, and oddities? I mean, unless someone has Tourette's Syndrome and can't help themselves, there's really no reason to start each meeting with:

"Hi! I'm Suzie! And I'm socially awkward, am uncomfortable doing public speaking, and enjoy wearing my underwear on my head while grocery shopping. Oh, and I sprinkle live ants on my breakfast cereal and have a collection of lockets of hair from every man I've ever gone out with! What's your name???"


P-A-C-E yourself when meeting others for the first time; if necessary, remind yourself that many men prefer an aura of mystery...and allow Who and What You Are to unfold and be revealed to him in stages.



Oh, and always remember, while it may be true that everyone deserves love it is NOT true that everyone deserves to be loved by everyone. It is especially not true nor guaranteed that everyone we love will love us in return. Make their falling in love with you a prerequisite to your (completely) falling in love with them.


Best of luck to you!

Just the fact that you date at all is lucky..I don't get those. Be patient, finding real love takes time.

Kstarteo; if it makes you feel better; I have a friend here who is also very socially awkward and just a few months ago found the love of his life. So,there is someone there for you and as mrld said don't be so quick to tell a guy of your disabilty. Let him get to know you for who you are.

Hang on, let me get another box of tissues because I'm crying buckets for you.
Drag yourself out of self pity city and you may get somewhere. You are alive and for that you should be eternally grateful and happy.

Othewrwise watch this and then tell me how much you feel sorry for yourself.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gc4HGQHgeFE

Its called, take a look at yourself after watching this

Thanks everyone. To be honest, I only had one boyfriend and I dated him twice. I have been through a lot of let us say domestic abuse in my family and I was scared of dating the first time. I hadn't told him about my disability, I don't think, except perhaps he realized because of my facebook page or something. I broke up with him because in June we had sex and then I went out of town for two weeks. We only texted a little bit because he was a workaholic. Then all of a sudden he stops texting me. So after three weeks I finally officially broke up with him. I don't know what happened.

My point is that I worried my lack of knowledge of sex and the appropriate responses made him uninterested in me. That added to my disability. He should at least have been happy I felt trusting enough to give him my virtue, right?