It's 5:15AM on a Sunday morning and I'm wide awake (too much green tea) and I'm posting on a dating forum. This thread better be about me and if it isn't I'll make it about me.

Here is a copy of a post I made in another forum. You seem like the type of guy that really wants to know. While I am specking for myself in this post, I think many women feel the same way.

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What do your messages look like?

I came here from another dating site because I was getting a lot of messages (a good thing) but 90% of the messages were less than 7 words (a bad thing).

Examples:

"hey babe how R U"
"you pretty girl hit me up"
"How are you girl, lets f**k"

Most guys didn't even read my profile. I don't respond to these short messages. Not even the short "How are you, have a nice day" ones. There's just too many guys and too many messages and I'm not going to spend an hour a day sending out rejection letters. You need to stand out.

If you write me a message with at least 4 or 5 sentences and mention something you think we have in common from my profile I will usually reply even if it's just to tell you to go away.

When women see those short 5 word messages we know that the guy is just spamming every pretty girl he sees. Most of us women like to feel special.

In your messages, go for quality, not quantity.

p.s. If you have been sending out good messages, well then, I don't know what your problem is.

Always. Before I go on a date with a guy I meet online I first do webcam and then talk on the phone if his cam doesn't have voice. Too many fakes so I have to be sure the guy is close to who he pretends to be.

Plus it's like you said. Some guys come off totally different on the phone. Sometimes the guys voice is nothing like you expect.

I like the guys that get all nervous. They are so cute, especially the older ones.

Sorry. I wanted to go lesbian and you seemed like a good place to start. I promise no more messages.

Did you read the last 7 I sent today? They were important.

Maple syrup and molasses won't work. It's too think to come out a super-soaker. You could mix it with 3 parts water, one part syrup and maybe it's work. Don't ask me how I know that.

I don't think kids would mind getting hit with maple syrup though, kids are already sticky anyway and they would like the taste.

Maybe try filling it with V8 juice.

Patience young padawan. If you really are incredibly mature for your age your maturity will eventually show through in your forum postings and in your profile. Then the older women will respond to you.

Of course if you make threads whining about not getting women you will come off as insecure and no amount of maturity makes up for a lack of confidence in a man.

I just registered here today. I came from another dating site and like most women I get my daily fill of rude messages from men. Some men are gentlemen but way too many are too brief or too rude.

Anyway, I accidentally had my setting set to "woman looking for woman." I ended up getting a good number of messages from other women before realizing my mistake.

After looking at the mostly very nice, articulate, and sweet messages from the women I briefly thought of pretending to be a lesbian just so I could continue to get nice messages from women. It was such a change from what most of the guys send.

I feel bad for even considering such a scam. These sites have enough fakes as it is.

That felt good to get that off my chest. I did send separate apologizes replies to the women who contacted me.

I bite, often

Welcome to the world of mingle2

You wouldn't like me CodyM18. I am a little controlling. Younger guys (especially 19 year olds like yourself) can not handle me. I would tear you up, wear you out, and scar you for life. You would end up hating all women after 30 days with me.

Yea, I have issues. Being controlling (but not bossy or nit picky) is of them.

Ooooops. I had my profile set to "woman looking for woman." I didn't mean to. I was wondering why I was getting messages from other women as well as men. I didn't see "woman looking for woman" anywhere on my profile. Only after going to profile edit did I see it.

I apologize to the mingle2 women about my mistake. I will send those women who messaged me an apology.

I am looking for a guy, absolutely.


p.s. Darn it, the messages from the woman were so much nicer.

I do.

I sleep in my favorite old "Amazing Spider Man T-Shirt" that I bought years ago at a comic convention. Because of this two of my ex boyfriends started calling me Amazing Amanda. The name stuck.

"Amazing Amanda, Amazing Amanda, if she can't do it then nobody can."

Why did the chicken cross the road?

You left out the most obvious reason. The reason most of us are on a dating site.

The chicken crossed the road because the roasters where on the other side. It was a mingle2 chicken.

What do your messages look like?

I came here from another dating site because I was getting a lot of messages (a good thing) but 90% of the messages were less than 7 words (a bad thing).

Examples:

"hey babe how R U"
"you pretty girl hit me up"
"How are you girl, lets f**k"

Most guys didn't even read my profile. I don't respond to these short messages. Not even the short "How are you, have a nice day" ones. There's just too many guys and too many messages and I'm not going to spend an hour a day sending out rejection letters. You need to stand out.

If you write me a message with at least 4 or 5 sentences and mention something you think we have in common from my profile I will usually reply even if it's just to tell you to go away.

When women see those short 5 word messages we know that the guy is just spamming every pretty girl he sees. Most of us women like to feel special.

In your messages, go for quality, not quantity.

p.s. If you have been sending out good messages, well then, I don't know what your problem is.

I wish her luck.

I however am not so perfect and have a flaw here and there. I'm here looking for a nice gentleman who also is slightly flawed.

I'm also here to check out the forums.

Hello everyone.

Amazing Amanda.


p.s. My ex boyfriends gave me the name Amazing Amanda because I usually sleep in my favorite old faded "Amazing Spider Man" t-shirt.