I think your post is dead on, but the fact remains that there is always going to be players. And you can be easily condemned for revealing too much about yourself.

thats where im at(nekred)

See you understand I understand and a few others do as well. But I think you should have used smaller words for the people that don't.

ok, I will not say anymore. You live and you learn, you judge and you concede and above all, you always think that you are right.

My lifes no game,thefore I don t play them w/ others.

Why does dating have to be a game in the first place?

I love numbers as well but having done accounting for 5 years I can tell you its a tad on the boring side. I would lean more towards the business side if at all possible.

Oh don't get me wrong, I like the roller-coaster ride that is life (Don't you just love that analogy - yeah I stole it from the movie "Parenthood"). What good are the ups if there are no downs. Is there a possiblility of meeting someone here, sure. Is it more likely than running into someone walking down the street, no.

It seems to me (this is just based on how the internet has treated me, and your experience might be different) that patience is in short supply around here (meaning internet as a whole and not just JSH/M2). I'm not willing to drive 1000 miles to meet someone I talked too in only 6 or 7 emails. I am willing to drive that far just to have dinner with someone, but I'd like to know them a little before shelling out several hundred for gas (or a plane ticket).

However, I'm a guy, and as far as I can tell if a male is timid in any way about meeting a woman, it's over. You don't stand a chance if you say "I'm not quite ready yet," and your a man.

I like coming here, and enjoy chatting with a lot of people. I even pretend to myself that some of the people I talk with might actually enjoy the conversations. You see, I still actually have hope that maybe, I might meet someone from here some day. Ain't gonna hold my breath, but I still believe. And it's the belief that's the most important, because if you give that up, your done.

I was teasing

good points! Im not a Dr but I can play one online!

Let me guess.... Psych major?

Highschool exists here and now online, and we all have a second chance to be genuine or a popular kid. My guess is that most would rather be popular.

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Dude, no one actually meets on dating sites, that's just what they say in the ads.

The real truth is, this place is filled with the heartbroken and jaded. There's a nice combo for finding "the right one."

Look, if your honest you stand a slim chance, if your dishonest you stand no chance. The fear of the internet (not just dating sites, but all of it) is that there is nothing "real" on it. Eveyone is out to steal your identity, or cheat you or scam you. If your getting something from the internet it's probably just a virus waiting to download your credit card info.

The level of trust that a person has to build on a site like this or any other is huge. Much larger than someone you'd meet on the street. For an honest man, that is willing to take his time in getting to know someone, the internet isn't even an option. Sorry, people associate computers with "quick" and there are no "quick fixes" in the love department.

Good luck man.

Im ok.
You?

I have fears of what you're describing and ask myself and him many questions when the conversations are going along at such an agreeable manner that it doesn't seem possible.

I think it would be easy to concentrate your conversations on issues you agree on and never venture into territory that might force argument or resentments to form.

Though you seem to be getting on swimmingly, you could both be slightly skewing the bigger picture just enough to avert reality and you would both lose to let it continue once you know it's there.

(((Gianni))) Thanks so much for sharing your experience. It takes a lot to stand up and point to our own fallacies. You are tops in my book hon. Just watch out for yourself and move slow.

Also, I don't think that good and honest matches made anywhere are exactly a dime a dozen either hon. I think it's very rare indeed in any given arena. JMHO.

Oh, I have yet to draw blood ... but I have left nice bruises.

Hello Gianni