Thanks for the encouragement.

you are all very kind.

You are both very kind.

You are unbelieveably kind and generous.

thanks!

Thanks for the flowers, Gypsy.

I’ve been chasing romance that’s been over at length
I should give it up, but I don’t have the strength
The memories haunt me, they pervade my dreams
But nothing is ever what at first it seems
I cling to a notion of true love for me
And my mind has confirmed that it’s not meant to be
But my heart won’t accept that it does not exist
It hides from the truth while it’s deep in the mist
It won’t dare to look at the facts plain as day
If it does, it will die and just wither away
So it clings to the notion that love is still real
It refuses to break, so it won’t have to heal
I don’t know how long I can protect my heart
When the truth finally dawns, it will just break apart
And so I continue to think I am wanted
If I really believe it, my dreams won’t be haunted
But the truth trickles in, just like acid it burns
The mind understands, but the heart never learns

I guess I once thought when our kids were all grown
That you and I would have a life of our own
But now I can see that that isn’t your view
It isn’t remotely what you want to do
I know there are things on which we disagree
But I never thought they’d come between you and me
I thought that we could do some compromising
That you don’t agree is so very surprising
There’s no room for differences, now I can see
I didn’t want you to be just like me
You gave me some balance, some focus and sense
I gave you some silliness, fun, and nonsense
I thought that your strengths made my weaknesses fade
I thought you could learn from mistakes that I’d made
I never expected that I’d ever find
Someone exactly like me in their heart, soul and mind
I loved you so much for the ways we did vary
You were so gloomy when I was so merry
And you were so calm when I bounced off the walls
I thought it was good, I rejoiced in it all
But it made you unhappy, I’m seeing that now
I’ll go on without you – I’m just not sure how

I’m sorry for the way I let my temper take control
I said some things I wish I could take back
You were the only person who has ever made me whole
I do regret my dreadful lack of tact

I did not want to leave this earth in silence
Not telling you of my deep chagrin
Harsh words are just a form of violence
I may never make things right again

Please know that when these words were hurled
My heart was beating for you still
I just feared that you would leave my world
I loved you then..and always will

I wouldn't date someone that drank or hung out in bars.

Travel!! I would go see all the lovely friends I have made on JSH.

I tend to agree- I am trying to figure out what kind of mom lies about her kids to get a boyfriend?

I think you need to end this relationship that is based on lies and deception, and find a therapist who can help you figure out why you behave this way so that you don't keep repeating it.

There was a guy I used to talk to on here all the time via e-mail. I thought he was so wise and kind. The first time I talked to him on the phone, I realized he was an azz and full of crap.

This was later confirmed.

Thank you very much!

Thanks.

your kindness and love is always appreciated.

I don't agree.

Just be yourself, and some people will like you and some people won't. You can't tailor your behavior to attract the maximum number of women. If you are yourself, you will simply attract that right woman.

Thanks,Mirror, Rush, and SKPCG!

They tell me I can get through this
They marvel at my strength
My tenacity and spunk
Are expounded on at length

My tears I shed in private
My weakness is my own
I barely make it through my days
This is not widely known

This reputation was unsought
I really am not strong
I never meant to fool them
But I've done so all along

I need to find an anchor
Someone to strengthen me
I can't do this alone again
I wish someone could see

Love means wanting life's best for another, even if it does not include you.

malicious ideas about a particular issue?

sounds pretty vague.

You can't shush everyone that says something that you don't agree with.

Here is the thing - I treat people - male and female - with respect and kindness because that is what I need to do FOR MYSELF. If they chose to treat me badly for it, that is their business and no concern of mine, really. I still have to be true to myself. If you are treating people well because you think that will get you what you want, it's really no different than treating them badly for the same reason.

What about treating people well because it's the right thing to do?