Well, Ive joined several sites in the hopes of finding that one to be with for a serious relationship but it seems most dont want that. Now I'm here passing time trying to get over being hurt by someone that said they wanted something serious too but hmmmmm where is he now??????????

Interesting list and I would say right on the money. I am currently dating a man that cannot get over the things the b***h that he fell for did to him. Continues to tell me about it from time to time even though I have told him I feel like I was there. He says he wouldn't take her back for anything but has such a grudge against her it isn't funny. Then continues to tell me he loves me but "not in love" and doesnt know if he ever will be able to say that again. When I say that scares me and makes me wonder if this relationship will ever go further he asked "Well do you want me to lie to you?" lol Just how much does a man expect us to take? I am not obsessive or clingy and never asked him to give up anything for me. Sorry for the long response, got carried away. lol BTW That relationship he is having trouble getting out of his mind was 4 yrs ago!!!!!

Thank you. I do love him. And when I see him I will make sure he knows it without me having to say a word. I do feel in my heart that he loves me too but he doesnt want to upset my stable life with his moving around on his job. But I would in a heartbeat if he gives me the word. I guess if the distance doesnt kill us, nothing will. THANK YOU

First, my story. Met a man a few months ago. Went out every weekend and really hit it off. Knew from the first that he would be leaving for another state soon but we both had feelings after only a few weeks. One night he said the words we women want to hear. Then looked like a deer caught in headlights. I understand he went thru a really bad relationship thing and got dumped at the end and it hurt him bad. He is really scared of getting hurt again and I do understand that. Anyway, he left for his new job and we agreed to see other people since he is so far away. The thing is he still calls everyday or night. We talk for and hour or more about our private and personal stuff. Says he doesnt want me to miss out on happiness if I can find it. But still says he does care for me. BTW I told him he could take back those 3 words if he felt he needed to but he wouldnt. Just how long should I wait for him to be sure of his feelings and be ready for a relationship, long distance or not. I am visiting him soon and we are both looking forward to it. Have never been faced with something like this before. What do you think?

I agree that we have to be cautious these days. I think I may ask him for his number if he was attractive. Or maybe suggest we meet somewhere for coffee to get to know each other a little. You know we all know the red flags that pop up now and then so a few meetings in a public place is a good start.