Topic: need input please!!!!
stillookin's photo
Fri 06/20/08 06:42 PM
First, my story. Met a man a few months ago. Went out every weekend and really hit it off. Knew from the first that he would be leaving for another state soon but we both had feelings after only a few weeks. One night he said the words we women want to hear. Then looked like a deer caught in headlights. I understand he went thru a really bad relationship thing and got dumped at the end and it hurt him bad. He is really scared of getting hurt again and I do understand that. Anyway, he left for his new job and we agreed to see other people since he is so far away. The thing is he still calls everyday or night. We talk for and hour or more about our private and personal stuff. Says he doesnt want me to miss out on happiness if I can find it. But still says he does care for me. BTW I told him he could take back those 3 words if he felt he needed to but he wouldnt. Just how long should I wait for him to be sure of his feelings and be ready for a relationship, long distance or not. I am visiting him soon and we are both looking forward to it. Have never been faced with something like this before. What do you think?

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Fri 06/20/08 06:44 PM
don't wait


drive yourself crazy

when the time is right

thats when it happens


shoesmonkey's photo
Fri 06/20/08 06:46 PM
Edited by shoesmonkey on Fri 06/20/08 06:47 PM
Girl I'm clueless. I'm seein a guy who live's an hr. and a half away. I waited a month to see hin the third time. How long should I wait to see if something more come's of this? IDK, sorry.

Jules0565's photo
Fri 06/20/08 06:46 PM

First, my story. Met a man a few months ago. Went out every weekend and really hit it off. Knew from the first that he would be leaving for another state soon but we both had feelings after only a few weeks. One night he said the words we women want to hear. Then looked like a deer caught in headlights. I understand he went thru a really bad relationship thing and got dumped at the end and it hurt him bad. He is really scared of getting hurt again and I do understand that. Anyway, he left for his new job and we agreed to see other people since he is so far away. The thing is he still calls everyday or night. We talk for and hour or more about our private and personal stuff. Says he doesnt want me to miss out on happiness if I can find it. But still says he does care for me. BTW I told him he could take back those 3 words if he felt he needed to but he wouldnt. Just how long should I wait for him to be sure of his feelings and be ready for a relationship, long distance or not. I am visiting him soon and we are both looking forward to it. Have never been faced with something like this before. What do you think?


A long distance relationship will be hard, but can be done. Will you be willing to relocate? If you love him too, I think you should go for it. drinker

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Fri 06/20/08 06:47 PM
it's in your heart , the answer that is . you just have to decide if thats what you want.

willy_cents's photo
Fri 06/20/08 06:48 PM
Patience and committment. If you really care for him and are interested in the long term committment, now is the best time to start it. As for his breakup in the past, lesson learned and caution on his part is expected. Be supportive of him and understanding.flowerforyou Then,







when you go to see him, just grab him and have your way with himdevil

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Fri 06/20/08 06:49 PM
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MalenaC's photo
Fri 06/20/08 06:49 PM

First, my story. Met a man a few months ago. Went out every weekend and really hit it off. Knew from the first that he would be leaving for another state soon but we both had feelings after only a few weeks. One night he said the words we women want to hear. Then looked like a deer caught in headlights. I understand he went thru a really bad relationship thing and got dumped at the end and it hurt him bad. He is really scared of getting hurt again and I do understand that. Anyway, he left for his new job and we agreed to see other people since he is so far away. The thing is he still calls everyday or night. We talk for and hour or more about our private and personal stuff. Says he doesnt want me to miss out on happiness if I can find it. But still says he does care for me. BTW I told him he could take back those 3 words if he felt he needed to but he wouldnt. Just how long should I wait for him to be sure of his feelings and be ready for a relationship, long distance or not. I am visiting him soon and we are both looking forward to it. Have never been faced with something like this before. What do you think?
WHEN SOMEBODY TELL YOU THAT 3 WORDS , ,, GIRL IS NO WAY THERE TO SE ""OTHER PEOPLE"" .HE MAY SAY THAT 3 WORDS TO EVERYBODY . DISTANCE IS A PROBLEM BUT LOVE CAN PUT DOWN ANY INCONVENIENT .IF IS THERE THE REAL LOVE .

livelife68's photo
Fri 06/20/08 06:50 PM
If your willing to put a lot of effort into a long distance relationship go for it.

stillookin's photo
Fri 06/20/08 08:05 PM
Thank you. I do love him. And when I see him I will make sure he knows it without me having to say a word. I do feel in my heart that he loves me too but he doesnt want to upset my stable life with his moving around on his job. But I would in a heartbeat if he gives me the word. I guess if the distance doesnt kill us, nothing will. THANK YOU