LONELY

Loneliness is like when you look at your face in the mirror. Unique to you.

I grew up in the country, on a farm. My only sibling is a sister who is 8 years older than I.
In the 60s and early 70s I rode my bicycle everywhere I wanted to go, I had friends.

In school, I rode a full bus 26 miles one way everyday, had friends on the bus and friends in school.

In college I had friends in the dorm and friends in class.

In the service, I had friends and subordinates. Had 4 small children at home and a wife.

In my job, I had friends, eventually subordinates (who were like a 2nd family) and at home raised 4 children to young adulthood.

When the kids grew up and moved out and my marriage ended I suffered from "Empty Nest Syndrome"
I went from a life of activity and turmoil to dead silence. I spent years in dead silence, only my own reflection in the mirror to talk to.

During my formative years in the country I spend a lot of time alone. I read a lot of books (mostly fiction). My imagination was my friend. You could say, "I spent a lot of time in my head"

After work, after family...I again spent a lot of time in my head. I now watch movies for entertainment, Movies cause my imagination to soar. I write, I compose and I work on projects.

What I don't do is focus on the fact I am alone most of the time. My GF and I have an agreement to keep our together-time special. We keep it special because we spend time together sporadically and without schedule. Sometimes one day a week, sometimes a full weekend and sometimes a week long tryst. We are NOT joined at the hip. It makes our relationship strong because when we are together it is special.

How YOU deal with being alone is governed by your life experiences. If you have always been around a lot of people and place your self-value in how others see you, being alone can be hell for you.

If you raised a family for decades and now everyone is gone, it can cause 'empty nest' but if you are aware it is a temporary condition which only you can control, you can get yourself clear of those feelings of loneliness.

One thing being alone allows you to do is you now have the ability to remake yourself as you see fit. It can be a slow process. While you do this, the trick is to not 'focus' on the loneliness. Keep yourself entertained (distracted) while you remake yourself to be who you want to be now.
Let the turmoil and adopted stress fade away from your life and seek contentment within yourself.
Realize its Okay to be alone but being lonely is a form of depression which can affect how you appear to others. Get a handle on the loneliness within you and master being alone...Your rock steady presence will attract others.

Looking back, its much easier to see in hindsight than while you are battling loneliness. It is a difficult row to hoe but since it is your own life and you are the one living it, who is more qualified to make those changes than you?

Putin? Anything I could say about that dwarf,
would be based solely on hearsay.
Though, over the years, he has proven himself
to be a much better tactician, than any of the
last six buffoons elected to the presidency of
The United States.

My country? The United States.
President Joe "poopy pants" Biden.
The load his mom should have swallowed.

Putin v. Biden?
Neither of these two f'tards should ever be allowed
to hold positions of authority, or power.

I’m done!

Uh what?

What are you talking about! Anyone can view anybody's profile, unless one is apprehensive of being thought of as homo!

Hey Bonnie

@Mr Good Guy - On that site, I can't see the profiles of the ladies; but I've always wondered if the men are seeing as many politically written profiles as the ladies do.

I do think it's smart for individuals to put it on their profile, if they're that adamant about which party their partner should support. It saves people, like me, a bunch of time since we're totally turned off from someone whose every convo leads to something political.

@lonely guy - I had a similar experience...and I also do not care which party you're supporting. Both his radio and television volume was turned up to 100 it felt like. He kept asking "what did you say?" throughout dinner, not thinking that perhaps he should turn down/off one or both. But, my job is not to change anyone...so I didn't ask him to turn them off/down either. So, I'd just smile and say something completely different (because I'm not into repeating myself just for the heck of it), without raising my voice any louder.

Totally could have saved my eardrums had he written on his profile I am a political NUT!!

Hi TechFairy! Wow, that's interesting that people actually have that written in their profile. Totally agree, that does sound very controlling. It's interesting how strongly some people can feel about politics in dating, when it's the day-to-day stuff that you'd think would matter more.

Everybody I know and associate with are accepting of others no matter what color or sex. Accepting has nothing to do with equality. giving up what you have earned, to someone unwilling to do what you have done, work and earn to provide, is not practical…You reap what you sow .

There is a report out now( and you can google it)
. The report says that Alejandro Mayorkas secretary of Homeland Security knew Two hours before he went on live tv , that the border guards on horseback did not strap or trample immigrants. But he doubled down on the lie that border guards had acted horrific that brought back scenes of slavery. . And Biden later made the same statements promising to punish these guards, knowing the were not innocent of what he was basically convicting them of. Why would anybody support a person that would stoop that low.

Love, it is the foundation of a rigid relationship.

I often mention Plato's allegory, for good reason.

Always use critical thinking regarding the source of your knowledge.

I frequent numerous economic and political blogs online to gauge the heartbeat of stock markets and the economy.

(Usually as contrarian indicators, bloggers often have an interest in influencing for pay, talking up or down a certain sector, bitcoin, penny stock pumping...etc)

There are a handful of sites that have consistently provoked political divides within America for a decade, or use ridiculous conspiracy theories to invoke public outcry.

On one site, back in 2012 or so, I was lambasted for speaking against Russia's invasion of Georgia by posters claiming to be American, the opinions were overwhelmingly pro-Russian.

At the time, I concluded this site had to have ties to Russia - the "Americans" there were far too pro-Russian.

Finally, this year, this site was labelled a potential Russian propaganda site by the U.S. government.

I'm posting this today because that site and others are currently ablaze with "Americans" saying that the schools, churches and hospitals in Ukraine were bombed for "hiding weapons", or Zelenskyy was placed by the CIA, or that "the west has done far worse, therefore it's ok for Putin to bomb Ukraine".

Foreign governments have the ability to capitalize on our 1rst amendment, they can hire 3rd parties to swamp us in disinformation that eventually leads to turmoil and counterproductive actions.

These sites are using our legitimate gripes against our government, then using that anger to invoke outrage and public opinion to their benefit.

All I can tell you is "consider the source", if you don't personally know the source is a real American, be open to the possibility they have an agenda against the U.S.

That does not mean your opinions are wrong, only that these sites will try to align you by appealing to your opinion, and feed rage with disinformation.

Russia's intelligence is working overtime right now to disinform, what they lack in military strength, they're trying to make up for elsewhere.



So after all that, what sources do YOU find credible?