Ahh! After my phone call how I told him I really liked him and whether he felt the same, he just replied, "yeah, I do." I kind of pointed out things that were changing in our dating status, such as he stopped sending me cute little texts in the morning, howhe would forget to call me like he said he would, etc. Later that date, he sent me a text that said, "I think I am scared of you" and "You've got guts." We did see each other another time or two after that.

So, maybe I did scare him off with that revelation?

Think he'll ever call me again? I did text him one last time and said if you ever want to grab a drink after work, let me know.

Think he will?

I don't think that's appropriate for a first date.

I did have a man ask me on our first date, "If I were to ask your ex to describe you, what would he say?"

I thought that was pretty ballsy.

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Seriously, I think you should be honest - but not too harsh. I HATE when I look back at old photos of my with a hideous/unflattering outfit that someone said looked great on me.

Be honest!

The last man I had dated about 8 times over a course of maybe 6 weeks, right? Well, now that I think about him, he really didnt divulge a whole lot about himself. If I didnt say something, we would basically just sit there in silence. I had to initiate all conversations and only then would he add to the conversation, but nothing too deep.

Then I found out he was a player and once I told him that i really liked him and wondered if he felt the same way, he bailed. That must be the player way? Not reveal a whole lot about yourself and let the gal do all the talking? That way, you don't have to remember all the BS you told her?

Next guy I go out with, I'm gonna keep my cards close to my chest as well. To think that I revealed so much of myself to this man, he basically revealed nothing, and that's the end of that! Why do that all over again?

Disgruntled. Since the last guy I dated a few times obviously no longer wants to see me or even talk to me, I've had another new man, who seems very nice (don't they all at first), ask me out.

Unforunately, I have a terrible head cold so we will have to postpone our dinner date till next week.

But since I've been dumped now twice over the past year by two men who I thought were the perfect match for me, I don't feel as excited about this one. I'm thinking the same thing will happen.

SAd

+1000 Amen to that sister!

(This is a response in referenc eto the man above about checking out a bar on Michigan avenue in Westland)/

I will have to check it out. I did already meet another man this weekend at a bar. He seemd pretty normal, smart, engineer. We are going to have dinner together on Tuesday.

But it still hurts with this other guy because I was very attracted to him, so I don't now what went wrong! I have to harden my heart and not get so attached to these guys who don't have any emotional connections. My dog even loved him.

Actually, the last time he denied me! He said something about his age and the fact that he wasnt going to be able to perform because he had 4 beers.

I think he's worried about performance or something. MaybeI should just go younger next time. I had dated a man 10 years younger than him and we seemed to be more sexually compatible.

Was dating this man for a short while. We probably went out on about 8 dates, had sex on the 5th. Progressively, his texts/calls became infrequent to the point where he wont even respond to me. I can't figure out why. So I sent him a message asking what happened and what was it about me that he didn't like, etc.

No response.

Then a few days later, sent him a text saying if he ever wanted to grab a drink, let me know.

Nothing.

It's like I was taken completely off his radar and I cant' figure out why.

I know he's on a few dating websites. My friend saw him on one, he doesnt know her, but he immediately gave her the same line he gave me and asked her to meet him at the exact same place we first met.

Is this guy a player? It's not like Im stalking him or pestering him. I think I've been very patient.

Why can't he just answer my few questions I posed to him so maybe I could learn from this?

At my age I am beginning to see why mature women are seeking out the younger men, not necessarily men in their 20's. Men my age are scared to death that they may not be able to perform. That's no big deal but they don't want to face it so instead they leave and look for the next exciting conquest and once that excitement wears off, on to the next.

Just my observation with older men.

So I'm thrown back into the dating world and have been picking the wrong types of men i.e., selfish,have sex a few times and then bail.

I've been told I am not vetting properly. What is vetting and how do you go about it?

What should I be looking for/questioning about when out on a couple of dates with someone?

When do you start asking them what their intentions are when it comes to dating. You might believe as I foolishly did that everyone is looking for "the one" where they are going to quit cybersurfing for the BBD or window shopping.

Why can't a person when they are beginning to date someone, there's a spark, why can't they take the time to get to know you, instead of immediately dropping you and hunting for their next prey, especially once they have sex. It's almost as if they are afraid to have sex with you more than once or twice and don't want to go further.

I know some are going to say to wait on the sex part, which is what im going to do next time, but how long do you wait?