Was dating this man for a short while. We probably went out on about 8 dates, had sex on the 5th. Progressively, his texts/calls became infrequent to the point where he wont even respond to me. I can't figure out why. So I sent him a message asking what happened and what was it about me that he didn't like, etc.

No response.

Then a few days later, sent him a text saying if he ever wanted to grab a drink, let me know.

Nothing.

It's like I was taken completely off his radar and I cant' figure out why.

I know he's on a few dating websites. My friend saw him on one, he doesnt know her, but he immediately gave her the same line he gave me and asked her to meet him at the exact same place we first met.

Is this guy a player? It's not like Im stalking him or pestering him. I think I've been very patient.

Why can't he just answer my few questions I posed to him so maybe I could learn from this?

Humm with him still on other dating sites and asking others out that should tell you that it's not going to happen with ya'll...Not really any way other to put it...


I would not waste my time texting him. If he wanted to have another date he would text back. Some people just don't have the balls to come out and say hey it's not gonna work...

Let it go and chalk it up to a lesson learned.

If a guy is really interested in you, he will make it known. There is no need to keep texting or calling.

Oh good grief. It wasn't worth posting three times.

Most guys will not come out say they just want to be friends. They will just stop talking to you. Once you realize that's how they communicate, it's not a big deal.

He got what he wanted. Harsh but it is true. I am guessing you guys had sex on dates 6, 7 and 8? If so, it was enough to satisfy him and now he's a ghost.

Sad, but true.

And, that **** hurts bad when it happens to you.

Many players on datesites. If you want a Relationship, tell them first upfront , do not sleep with a man then wonder if you're going to have a REAL relationship.

Sorry it happened to ya, but this is typical behavior of people on these dating sites. They say one thing, do another. They get tired of ya then they disappear. Rude, I tell ya. Don't waste your time. Move on.

By the way, I stopped handing out numbers to guys. Most of them come on here to collect numbers. You only hear from them one or twice then they all become ghosts.

He's still looking. Move on. If he had real desire for you the focus would be all on you. You didn't do anything wrong, his loss.
Side note Im familiar with the area. I grew up in Westland. Try the country bar on michigan ave before you get to 275. Good people good music, lots of fun!

Why bother feeling emotional about a guy who only offered you sex? I don't get how you could have any kind of emotional connection for a guy you only slept with after only a few dates. I wouldn't really bother stressing about him. He sounds like a waste of space. I have better things to worry about, than some guy I hardly know.

Actually, the last time he denied me! He said something about his age and the fact that he wasnt going to be able to perform because he had 4 beers.

I think he's worried about performance or something. MaybeI should just go younger next time. I had dated a man 10 years younger than him and we seemed to be more sexually compatible.

(This is a response in referenc eto the man above about checking out a bar on Michigan avenue in Westland)/

I will have to check it out. I did already meet another man this weekend at a bar. He seemd pretty normal, smart, engineer. We are going to have dinner together on Tuesday.

But it still hurts with this other guy because I was very attracted to him, so I don't now what went wrong! I have to harden my heart and not get so attached to these guys who don't have any emotional connections. My dog even loved him.

Younger men always seem to wanna be out partying. Though, true that some will be more mature than others. Just look for someone who is into cougars.

Delete his number from your phone. He's an idiot and doesn't deserve you.

Sexual performance is definitely an issue as guys get older. It's just a fact of life. If that's not something you want to deal with in a relationship then you should certainly be looking for younger guys.

Watch out for us Michigan men....We don't know what we want.....Just kidding.....maybe, well maybe not...

The guy is a striker! I guess he is in form too. Truth is, a guy who never replied series of calls/texts is saying, "please let mi be! I'm done with you!".
I suggest you forget this guy and move on. Guy must be derailed for him to be taking advantage of people this way.

Try going out with a man next time and leave little baby boys alone. Because thats how he is acting. Nothing manly about that all.