So I'm thrown back into the dating world and have been picking the wrong types of men i.e., selfish,have sex a few times and then bail.

I've been told I am not vetting properly. What is vetting and how do you go about it?

What should I be looking for/questioning about when out on a couple of dates with someone?

When do you start asking them what their intentions are when it comes to dating. You might believe as I foolishly did that everyone is looking for "the one" where they are going to quit cybersurfing for the BBD or window shopping.

Why can't a person when they are beginning to date someone, there's a spark, why can't they take the time to get to know you, instead of immediately dropping you and hunting for their next prey, especially once they have sex. It's almost as if they are afraid to have sex with you more than once or twice and don't want to go further.

I know some are going to say to wait on the sex part, which is what im going to do next time, but how long do you wait?

Hello n welcome to the site n wait as long as long it takes to have sex for the next guy. until ur ready for it.n good luck in ur search.

No idea what vetting is.

I thought this thread was about corvettes...

It is back ground checks. To make sure the person is right for you. In business it is done before hiring someone for a security position.

Vetting is taking the time to make sure you and he have the same goals in the relationship.

Hint; it may take longer than two dates.

And you want an answer to the longest running game in the history of the world? If it feels good...do it. Don't look back and analyze the sh** out of it, just do it. If you are having sex to prolong the relationship or make one happen then you're a fool. If you're having sex because he is a good lay then why whine about it not lasting. Do what you want when you want for your own reasons. Do not try to force your reasons on to another person. That never works.