Here is my problem. I know I've always been fairly attractive, but I clam up really bad around men. Especially if I would have any interest. I do not know how to 1. Let them know I'm interested 2. Let them know I'm approachable. I hope this doesn't come off as stupid... but I could really use some advice on how to let a man know I'm interested. Tonight at Starbucks- I noticed a man. He walked past. I stared (his back was to me). He came by me and looked me in the eye and smiled. I smiled back. Then he walked to the cream/ sugar area... and loitered a little but we had no real interaction. I walked away when I could have gone closer. Why (besides I'm a big scardy cat). I'm going to need to meet someone somewhere & it's just not happening. How do I get past this hurdle? Or are men really always supposed to pursue & maybe they just aren't interested enough. I'm stumped... and I'm not a kid... you would think I would have some answers...=)
Thanks for your help.

Just say hi!

Join the club! :) Even though certain "rules" now dictate that a woman pay for a meal if she asks a guy out...I will never, in my lifetime...ask a man out, due to shyness. There's just something terribly frightening, for me, about asking a man out. I don't have a problem talking to a man that's a stranger in a store, at all, or maybe a bar, but when it comes to asking a guy out, etc., forget it, I'm mush.

I hear ya, I'm shy too & I think it works against me. so if you hung around waiting for him , you might be a stalker. just kidding

I've never been even fairly attractive, but I love to flirt! I feel attractive, sexy and I hope at times I can come across that way. I don't let age or much else stop me from being sensual. I am shy to but I'm getting better. You will do just fine, you have a good start already

Just talk to a guy you like and smile at him and touch his arm or sholder and laugh. Thats about it really.

put a lil liquor in you n believe me the flirting just flows out!!!!!!!!!!!

try to oprn up a little. sometimes a simple hello will do the trick. Most men will respond. I usually do.

thats soo true

I kind of do have a problem. They have to approach me. And start the interaction. I just don't think I'm putting out the right signals. We all read so much from body language. Ok though- I'll try to work on stumbling out a hi.

just walk up and hump his leg...trust me...gets the attention every time!

The best people to date are the ones you already know in your day to day life. Its a lot safer than a total stranger.If you dont know anybody suitable in your day to day life, then you should try to participate in social functions that allow you to meet new people in a normal setting where you can get to know them.

blow a kiss
twirl your hair
wear a low cut blouse
bounce that booty from side to side

about the liquor. True but not really what we are going for by this stage. I did the college scene once.

First off, I think most guys are very receptive to a girl who does even the slightest thing to initiate interaction.

I've found that a good way to do this is to comment offhand about something in the context of the situation, almost as you would to a friend. You'd be amazed how quickly people feel a connection when they're bonding over a comment about something quirky that just happened in your general area. I met one girl because she looked up with surprise after a woman in a hurry stormed past her on the way out of dunkin donuts and I laughed and told her I'd make sure the coast was clear before she started pouring her cream.

Most other people love interacting with new people, too, so just keep that in mind.

Now see I am really shy myself, BUT I can atleast say HI. There was a woman on here the other night that said she flirted with her eyes. Did you do that atleast? If you can do that you can say hi.
I mean how hard is it to say HI?? If he isn't interested he just says HI and walks on. Its not that much a big deal, just try it.

bump into him...."oops I'm sorry sweetie" "Are you alright"

Hmmm, sounds good.

Hahah it's much funnier if you use her phrase: eyesex

You dont seem to be a woman who would have difficulty attracting a mans attention.All you really have to do is be noticed and let the man do most of the "flirting".Perhaps you just need to be around more men.I dont know, Im just trying to help.