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Sun 04/01/12 07:38 PM
I'm not a big fan of Jason Aldean. Most of his songs sound alike, to me. I do like Alan Jackson.

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Sun 04/01/12 07:26 PM
He and Kelly Clarkson won single of the year with "Don't You Wanna Stay"

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Sun 04/01/12 07:14 PM
Anyone watching? What do you think?

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Sun 04/01/12 07:08 PM
The Academy of Country Music Awards

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Sun 04/01/12 06:40 PM

if you're bragging,
you're an arrogant son of a *****.
when is bragging pleasant?
never.
if you're really as amazing as you think you are,
others will notice it without the need for you to point it out.
self confidence doesn't need to be exuded.
it as,
after all,
for yourself.


Well said!

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Sun 04/01/12 06:06 PM



I dunno why standards and dating go hand in hand. You get that gut feeling when you know this is not the person you should be dating.



If you get a "gut feeling" that you shouldn't be in a particular relationship, then it's probably because of a "standard" you have set. Otherwise, if you have no standards, you'd date anyone and it should work out.


Yeah true but it's hard to explain.


I think everyone has standards, some are broader than others.

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Sun 04/01/12 06:02 PM

I dunno why standards and dating go hand in hand. You get that gut feeling when you know this is not the person you should be dating.



If you get a "gut feeling" that you shouldn't be in a particular relationship, then it's probably because of a "standard" you have set. Otherwise, if you have no standards, you'd date anyone and it should work out.

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Sun 04/01/12 11:28 AM




Because I believe, and not everyone believes this way, that you should have different behaviors being single vs. in a relationship. And spending the night with another male while in a relationship is something I don't feel is acceptable.


TammyA... first off I totally agree with your post...but the post presents a Quagmire

if a woman is no longer single, is it still acceptable for her to spent the night over a female friend's home? ..... but not the home of a male...if they are friends?





You can be friends, just not sleepover friends......and what exactly is "properly" friends???

Exactly......in MY opinion


so a Man and a Woman if they are not single can not "properly" be friends?

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Sun 04/01/12 11:13 AM


Because I believe, and not everyone believes this way, that you should have different behaviors being single vs. in a relationship. And spending the night with another male while in a relationship is something I don't feel is acceptable.


TammyA... first off I totally agree with your post...but the post presents a Quagmire

if a woman is no longer single, is it still acceptable for her to spent the night over a female friend's home? ..... but not the home of a male...if they are friends?





Exactly......in MY opinion

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Sun 04/01/12 10:13 AM










I'm simply saying I can find people attractive, yet not want to have sex with them. So no, it's not sexual. If you're unable to do that, no problem. If you're unable to be friends with women, no problem. Everyone is different.


if you claim that you find your male friends sexually attractive is the exact reason why you can't properly be their friends...

you might even be their friends because you are sexually attracted to them

that's one step from ....Friends with Benefits


Now that's a completely different question. Spending the night with the opposite sex is much different than being friends with them.

Re-read what I wrote.


or perhaps you should re-edit what you wrote

because it's the same as you claiming that you find your boyfriend or husband attractive but yet you don't want to have sex with them



No it isn't. Plus, if I were married or had a boyfriend and didn't want to have sex with them, something would be horribly wrong.


my point was...if you found your boyfriend and husband "attractive" but yet claim,.. that you weren't sexually attracted to them

I'm curious if people are giving this same type of advice to their daughters....

yes susie you can spend the night over tommy's house

for sure mom...but his parents won't be home?

now now susie...tommy is your friend and friends never think about having sex with each other ...






I could be friends with a guy, hang out and even stay over at his house with no physical contact. I would NOT allow my daughter to be in that situation with inexperienced emotions.


But that would be if only both of us were single and unattached. I would never disrespect mine or his significant other.


why would you be disrespecting yours or his significant other if you are Friends and spent the night over his home?


Because I believe, and not everyone believes this way, that you should have different behaviors being single vs. in a relationship. And spending the night with another male while in a relationship is something I don't feel is acceptable.

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Sun 04/01/12 09:57 AM








I'm simply saying I can find people attractive, yet not want to have sex with them. So no, it's not sexual. If you're unable to do that, no problem. If you're unable to be friends with women, no problem. Everyone is different.


if you claim that you find your male friends sexually attractive is the exact reason why you can't properly be their friends...

you might even be their friends because you are sexually attracted to them

that's one step from ....Friends with Benefits


Now that's a completely different question. Spending the night with the opposite sex is much different than being friends with them.

Re-read what I wrote.


or perhaps you should re-edit what you wrote

because it's the same as you claiming that you find your boyfriend or husband attractive but yet you don't want to have sex with them



No it isn't. Plus, if I were married or had a boyfriend and didn't want to have sex with them, something would be horribly wrong.


my point was...if you found your boyfriend and husband "attractive" but yet claim,.. that you weren't sexually attracted to them

I'm curious if people are giving this same type of advice to their daughters....

yes susie you can spend the night over tommy's house

for sure mom...but his parents won't be home?

now now susie...tommy is your friend and friends never think about having sex with each other ...






I could be friends with a guy, hang out and even stay over at his house with no physical contact. I would NOT allow my daughter to be in that situation with inexperienced emotions.


But that would be if only both of us were single and unattached. I would never disrespect mine or his significant other.

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Sun 04/01/12 09:51 AM







I'm simply saying I can find people attractive, yet not want to have sex with them. So no, it's not sexual. If you're unable to do that, no problem. If you're unable to be friends with women, no problem. Everyone is different.


if you claim that you find your male friends sexually attractive is the exact reason why you can't properly be their friends...

you might even be their friends because you are sexually attracted to them

that's one step from ....Friends with Benefits


Now that's a completely different question. Spending the night with the opposite sex is much different than being friends with them.

Re-read what I wrote.


or perhaps you should re-edit what you wrote

because it's the same as you claiming that you find your boyfriend or husband attractive but yet you don't want to have sex with them



No it isn't. Plus, if I were married or had a boyfriend and didn't want to have sex with them, something would be horribly wrong.


my point was...if you found your boyfriend and husband "attractive" but yet claim,.. that you weren't sexually attracted to them

I'm curious if people are giving this same type of advice to their daughters....

yes susie you can spend the night over tommy's house

for sure mom...but his parents won't be home?

now now susie...tommy is your friend and friends never think about having sex with each other ...






I could be friends with a guy, hang out and even stay over at his house with no physical contact. I would NOT allow my daughter to be in that situation with inexperienced emotions.

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Sun 04/01/12 09:47 AM
After a first date, and we decided we wanted to see each other again, but I could tell he was a little reluctant to initiate the kiss, so I did. Then he made a comment to the fact that he wasn't sure whether to initiate the kiss or not.

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Sun 04/01/12 08:53 AM
If the date went well, and I'm interested in seeing this person again, yes, I will kiss on the first date. If the date didn't go well, no kiss. By the way, kissing compatabilities are important too. happy

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Sun 04/01/12 08:49 AM


What is your definition of dating?


When you date, you simply are not at the stage of being in a committed relationship. Dating is the act of meeting people, trying to find one with whom you connect with on all levels. You have to decide what those levels are. Maybe they are emotional, spiritual, personality, attractiveness, career aspirations. Whatever they are, you have the desire to meet one person who embodies what you are looking for.


Perfectly said!!!

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Sun 04/01/12 08:39 AM






I'm simply saying I can find people attractive, yet not want to have sex with them. So no, it's not sexual. If you're unable to do that, no problem. If you're unable to be friends with women, no problem. Everyone is different.


if you claim that you find your male friends sexually attractive is the exact reason why you can't properly be their friends...

you might even be their friends because you are sexually attracted to them

that's one step from ....Friends with Benefits


Now that's a completely different question. Spending the night with the opposite sex is much different than being friends with them.

Re-read what I wrote.


or perhaps you should re-edit what you wrote

because it's the same as you claiming that you find your boyfriend or husband attractive but yet you don't want to have sex with them



No it isn't. Plus, if I were married or had a boyfriend and didn't want to have sex with them, something would be horribly wrong.


my point was...if you found your boyfriend and husband "attractive" but yet claim,.. that you weren't sexually attracted to them

I'm curious if people are giving this same type of advice to their daughters....

yes susie you can spend the night over tommy's house

for sure mom...but his parents won't be home?

now now susie...tommy is your friend and friends never think about having sex with each other ...



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Sun 04/01/12 08:27 AM
Yes, I have a number of male friends

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Sun 04/01/12 08:18 AM


I can forgive depending upon the circumstances, our history, and what I know about their character and upbringing. AS unpopular a view as it is , I really do think people can sometimes MESS up bigtime. I think its the exception more than the rule, but I have no steadfast rule to never forgive.


I would never not forgive, I just wouldn't be able to ever trust again.
For me trust is the main part of any relationship, if you trust everything runs smootly and is not a hassel, but once that was lost, I wouldn't have a relationship.



Totally agree. If you truly love your significant other, how could you cheat? And if you could cheat, you have a skewed perception of love.

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Sun 04/01/12 07:34 AM
Yes, and here's why: Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoned passion or love: addictive love. Usually, one is inspired with an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone. You may not be immediately infatuated with someone but grow to love this person.

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Sun 04/01/12 07:13 AM

Can you give me some pointers to make my profile more interesting?+
I try to be honest and I was told that I was putting too much honesty in so I changed it.
Would love and appreciate some feedback.


No matter how much or how little you include, it should ALL be honest.

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